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Choose What’s Important for You

February 15, 2016 Linda-Ann Stewart

Do you make choices based on what’s important for you, or because someone else wants it for you? If your heart isn’t in it, then you won’t be happy or very successful with the decision you make. You can always change your choice, but you’re the only one who has the right to make it.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Book Review: Take the Bully by the Horns

December 16, 2015 Linda-Ann Stewart

Take the Bully by the Horns: Stop Unethical, Uncooperative, or Unpleasant People from Running and Ruining Your Life
by Sam Horn

This book is incredible! I recommend it to many of my clients. Full of information, humor, and specific techniques of what to do, it’s essential for anyone who is dealing with a controlling person who comes across as a bully.

I don’t usually like labeling people, but this book addresses more a type of behavior. When a person pushes, takes advantage, and tries to control by intimidation, then they are acting like a bully and need to be responded to as such.

Each chapter is divided into short segments, which makes it much easier to read and absorb. At the end of each chapter, there’s a worksheet to decide how to handle a situation that is similar to the focus of that chapter, and questions to think over. There’s also a summary of the chapter that describes the harmful beliefs a person might have in a difficult situation, as well as the corresponding positive behaviors.

This book validated much of what I’ve come to realize over the years. There are sections on why a bully is the way he/she is, how they manipulate to get their way, what kind of idealistic ideas we might have had that encouraged them, how to stop people-pleasing, how to set and keep boundaries, and much, much more. It even has a chapter on what to tell children who are dealing with bullies at school.

“Take The Bully By The Horns” is also for anyone who lacks self-confidence or has a low self-worth or self-esteem. I’m so glad that I ran across this book and got it when I did. It’s one I don’t lend out of my personal library.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Book Review – Controlling People

November 18, 2015 Linda-Ann Stewart

“Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand and Deal with People Who Try to Control You”
By Patricia Evans

This is a great book for anyone with a controlling person in their life. Patricia Evans has written a couple of other books that I’ve recommended, “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” and “Verbal Abuse Survivor’s Speak Out.” “Controlling People” goes into greater detail of why these people act as they do.

For them, the people close to them are cardboard characters that they project their own thoughts onto. They expect people to agree with them at all times, and to read their thoughts about what they want.

The old “If you loved me, you’d know what I want” is their theme. And if the other person doesn’t agree, or reflect the controlling person’s ideas, then the controlling person feels betrayed and many times will fly into a rage.

Not only does this happen in personal relationships, but it also occurs in society, different cultures, and religions, resulting in bigotry, prejudice, stereotypes, and sometimes death. It all has to do with trying to control others so that they think like the controller, so the controller feels comfortable and safe.

This book was an eye-opener for me in understanding various people I’ve had dealings with. I recommend it to anyone who has a boss, relative, friend or partner who is controlling.

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