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Sparks of InsightScience Explains How Writing Down Tiny Achievements Every Day Changes Our Brains
Recent research shows that when you feel like you make progress, then you’re more likely to be creative, productive and increase your confidence. And it’s not just progress on goals, but small events that happen every day. Discover how to become more aware of your progress and how it affects you.

What to Do When You Are Your Own Worst Critic
There is something in your human nature that makes you very self-critical of yourself. It’s one of the greatest challenges you need to overcome to be successful. This article shares three techniques to quiet your inner critic down.

Self-Criticism or Self-Compassion?
Researchers say that the inner critic doesn’t really help you and can be destructive. Neuroscientists suggest that it affects the brain in negative ways. Learn three ways to be more positive about yourself so you can increase your motivation and resilience.

Sparks of Insight

Sparks of Insight

Sparks of InsightEveryone has the same access to Universal Spirit and Energy as you do. You don’t have to sacrifice yourself, your needs or welfare to help them. They don’t need to take what is yours, whether it’s time or resources, to achieve their goal. Nor do you need anything of anyone else’s. So if someone comes to you and wants your help, and says you’re their only hope, remember that there are millions of people in the world available to help. If you don’t help them, they’ll find someone else. And if helping them penalizes you, it’s not going to help either of you. One of life’s lessons is to learn to honor yourself first.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Watson Lake and Granite Dells, Prescott, AZ11 Ways to Improve Your Relationship With Yourself
Your relationship with yourself is the most important one in your world, because it’s the one consistent one you have. The rest of your world and experience is perceived through and is a reflection of that single relationship. To have a better life, improve your primary relationship. Here are 11 ways to do it.

Different Views of Forgiveness
People who are able to forgive their offenders have less anxiety and depression and more positive emotions. However, forgiveness doesn’t mean that you absolve the offender of their responsibility or forget the offense. Forgiveness is for your health and wellbeing. It frees you from the past.

If You Want To Focus More, Never Try Harder, Science Says
Often when you try to focus on a task or avoid temptation you try to use your willpower. However, a study has shown that the harder you try the more you end up exhausted. But willpower is like a muscle, it can be exercised and become stronger. This article gives a tip on how to strengthen your willpower so that you can accomplish your goals.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

5 Ways You Undermine Your Intention

5 Ways You Undermine Your Intention

When you have a vision or intention, it’s hard to stay on track. Yet, you’re the only one who can bring it into reality. To do so, you have to keep your attention on it, have the right mindset and take action. But it’s so easy to sabotage yourself. Here are 5 ways that could undermine what you want and what to do about them.



~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Why do I attract critical people into my life?

Why do I attract critical people into my life?

Sunset Crater, Flagstaff AZQuestion: Why do I attract critical people into my life?

Answer: There will always be some negative people who swirl into and out of our world. But if critical people are a constant in your life, then something else is generally going on. There can be several reasons for this.

The first could be that they’re simply reflecting the inner critic within you. You may be very judgmental of yourself, and you’ve attracted them because of your own self-criticism. If they put you down in similar ways that you do to yourself, or pick on characteristics that you already feel insecure about, this is probably the case.

A second reason could be that, due to low self-esteem, you don’t set appropriate boundaries. Negative people can generally sense who they can belittle without consequences and who they can’t. When they can, they simply dump their discontentment on others.

In both of these cases, standing up to the criticism (both inner and outer) will help to eliminate them from your life. They’ll either change their response to you or leave your life.

Another reason for critical people in your life could be that you may be so positive and optimistic that you’re stirring up others’ unhappiness. “Misery loves company” as the old saying goes, and these folk may be trying to bring you down. Unfortunately, whenever someone is happy, positive, upbeat, and successful, it casts a light on others’ attitudes and they don’t like what they see in themselves.

Instead of changing, they try to change you. In this case, realize it’s their issue, not yours. Take appropriate action when you need to, letting them know that their negativity isn’t appreciated. These are simply unhappy people.

Copyright 2007, 2016 Linda Ann Stewart
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Sunset Crater plant A Stanford scientist says a simple psychological shift can make you more successful
If you’re kind to yourself, you have a chance to grow and learn from challenging experiences. There’s a growing body of research suggesting that your relationship with yourself is just as important as your relationships with others when it comes to getting ahead professionally. Learn 3 components and 4 strategies that will help you improve your relationship with yourself.

The Problem Is Not The Problem
The problem is the way we look at problems, not the challenge itself. Rather than resisting the problem, our best reaction is to become aware of how we are thinking, and then change our mind about it. When you do this, you can then find the opportunity hiding in the challenge.

Saying these 2 words can help you be more successful
If you’re working towards a goal or change a habit, it can be hard not to fall back into the old rut. However, how you frame your words can be helpful. It shifts the way you view the temptation. Learn what those 2 powerful words are.

The Lesson of Saying “No”

The Lesson of Saying “No”

Sunset Crater plant Not long ago, I was urged to lead a bi-weekly group. I knew I was already stretched thin and wouldn’t be able to do it justice. Several times, on several occasions I declined. Then one day, my defenses were down and I was persuaded to lead it “for a short time.” As soon as I agreed, I regretted it.

Over the next couple of weeks, I tried to fit the new responsibility into my schedule. But the realization that I’d made the wrong decision was reinforced over and over. Finally, I called the current leader and said I couldn’t do it.

“It’s my fault. I went against what I knew in my heart,” I said.

Within a day or so, they found a new leader, and she’s doing a fabulous job.

This situation reminded of two valuable lessons I’ve learned over the years.
1. When I say “No” and know that it’s the right answer, stick to it. I don’t have to explain or justify my reasons why.
2. I’m not indispensable. If I don’t step up, someone else will. And if they don’t, maybe the group (or whatever) shouldn’t continue.

When have you gone against what you knew was right for you? How did you feel? Learn from that, and hold to your truth the next time. It’ll save you time, energy, improve your well being and self-respect.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Flagstaff Aspen RainbowThe Importance of Having Standards for Your Life
Standards can fuel personal growth and be a powerful tool for success. Standards guide your actions and help you to stretch to fulfill your potential. This article examines how they can be misused, as well as identifying the tremendous benefits of having the right balance.

Scientists say this simple psychological shift can help you achieve your goals
Most people fail to keep their New Year’s resolutions. After a week or so, they tend to forget about them and go back to business as usual. But if you’re serious about making changes in your life, harness what researchers call the “fresh start effect.”

How to Enhance Your Life in 7 Minutes, Daily
In a world where we have never-ending priorities, deadlines, and commitments, it’s easy to get stressed or burned out by life. You have to take care of yourself, or you won’t be able to take care of anyone else. Learn how to take out seven minutes in the morning for self-care, and jumpstart your day.

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Grand Canyon Sunset - East of Yaki PointHow to Focus: 37 Experts Reveal Their Best Tips
Focus is a problem for all of us, especially in today’s busy, technological world. But learning the skill of focus is important for success. It’s a common trait for the most successful people. Here are strategies, useful tools and tips you can use to change your mindset to help you get and stay focused, so you’re able to accomplish more and have less stress.

Ultimate Guide to Rewiring Your Brain
Rewiring your brain is possible and science is backing up these claims. It’s all about solving problems by changing unhelpful thinking and behavior. Learning to manage your internal world is easy once you know how. Here are 5 steps to help you to start rewiring your brain and having a more peaceful life.

10 Ways Toxic Relationships Are Like Blood-Sucking Vampires
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone with a Jekyll and Hyde personality? They’re nice and charming, then they emotionally sucker punch you? These people are toxic and you can’t fix them or the relationship. This article describes 10 characteristics and behaviors these type of people have that make you feel off balance, on edge and crazy.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Sunset Crater plant Self Esteem and Confidence Are Often Confused
Self-esteem is self-respect and self-confidence a belief in yourself. There needs to be a harmony between your self-confidence and self-esteem for you to be more authentic. Learn some ways to cultivate both of these so you’re more comfortable with yourself and more effective in your world.

The Success Secrets of Focus
High achievers have learned how to center their attention on the right things at the right time for optimum results. When you focus your time and energy doing the things that you are most skilled at, you eventually reap big rewards. Learn some simple habits that can help you get focused and be more successful.

What Values Do You Live By?
Values are not what we talk about. They are how we live. They determine why we make and live the choices we eventually do. Sometimes we live by one set of standards but judge ourselves by another. Here are some tips on how you can align your values with who you are.