Not long ago, I was urged to lead a bi-weekly group. I knew I was already stretched thin and wouldn’t be able to do it justice. Several times, on several occasions I declined. Then one day, my defenses were down and I was persuaded to lead it “for a short time.” As soon as I agreed, I regretted it.
Over the next couple of weeks, I tried to fit the new responsibility into my schedule. But the realization that I’d made the wrong decision was reinforced over and over. Finally, I called the current leader and said I couldn’t do it.
“It’s my fault. I went against what I knew in my heart,” I said.
Within a day or so, they found a new leader, and she’s doing a fabulous job.
This situation reminded of two valuable lessons I’ve learned over the years.
1. When I say “No” and know that it’s the right answer, stick to it. I don’t have to explain or justify my reasons why.
2. I’m not indispensable. If I don’t step up, someone else will. And if they don’t, maybe the group (or whatever) shouldn’t continue.
When have you gone against what you knew was right for you? How did you feel? Learn from that, and hold to your truth the next time. It’ll save you time, energy, improve your well being and self-respect.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart