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Flagstaff ArboretumHow to Cope with Intense Emotions
A powerful way to diffuse difficult, tense and stressful situations is to take a neutral or objective position to it. This article gives 2 simple ways to detach from viewing negative situations and shifting into being calmer and more resourceful.

10 Little Things You Can Do To Feel Happier Instantly
A lot of people see happiness as a destination, but according to the author, happiness is really a by-product of engaging in meaningful and fulfilling projects and activities. The 10 suggestions to help you feel happier range from being present, being nice to others to being nice to yourself. These small actions will make a huge impact in your life.

Changing Lens: How To Shift Your Focus On Strengths vs. Weaknesses
When trying to grow, change, and improve do you focus on fixing your weaknesses or nurturing your strengths? This article addresses ways of motivating yourself to improve. It discusses the how to focus on your strengths and also on how to avoid motivating yourself through negative means (criticism versus encouragement).

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Flagstaff Aspen Rainbow3 Quick Ways to Boost Your Self Esteem
Self-esteem is basically about having a positive and realistic sense of who you are. You like yourself and understand your strengths. You believe in your abilities and recognize the areas where you could use a little more work. Take these tips to boost your confidence and build your sense of self-worth.

Future Me Leads the Way
The author had a meditation to visualize the person she’d become later in the year. She focused on how she looked and felt. In difficult moments, she would remember that vision. Within a couple of months, she’d become her vision of herself. Use her inspiration to envision your better and future self.

5 Tips To A Positive Life
Happiness is a choice you make. Your attitude and perception is under your complete control.
It takes effort to change your attitude and create a positive life. Take these 5 tips and start taking charge of your happiness.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Brendon Burchard – How to reprogram your mind (for positive thinking)

Brendon Burchard – How to reprogram your mind (for positive thinking)

Brendon Burchard describes how your mind creates its programming. By giving your attention to negative thoughts, it develops into a habit. To become more aware, you can take control and decide what to think. He explains how to become aware of what you’re thinking about. Then redirect your attention to focus on what’s positive.



~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Book Review: Take the Bully by the Horns

Book Review: Take the Bully by the Horns

Take the Bully by the Horns: Stop Unethical, Uncooperative, or Unpleasant People from Running and Ruining Your Life
by Sam Horn

This book is incredible! I recommend it to many of my clients. Full of information, humor, and specific techniques of what to do, it’s essential for anyone who is dealing with a controlling person who comes across as a bully.

I don’t usually like labeling people, but this book addresses more a type of behavior. When a person pushes, takes advantage, and tries to control by intimidation, then they are acting like a bully and need to be responded to as such.

Each chapter is divided into short segments, which makes it much easier to read and absorb. At the end of each chapter, there’s a worksheet to decide how to handle a situation that is similar to the focus of that chapter, and questions to think over. There’s also a summary of the chapter that describes the harmful beliefs a person might have in a difficult situation, as well as the corresponding positive behaviors.

This book validated much of what I’ve come to realize over the years. There are sections on why a bully is the way he/she is, how they manipulate to get their way, what kind of idealistic ideas we might have had that encouraged them, how to stop people-pleasing, how to set and keep boundaries, and much, much more. It even has a chapter on what to tell children who are dealing with bullies at school.

“Take The Bully By The Horns” is also for anyone who lacks self-confidence or has a low self-worth or self-esteem. I’m so glad that I ran across this book and got it when I did. It’s one I don’t lend out of my personal library.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Kendrick Mountain from SnowbowlHow to Deal with Negative People: 16 Hacks
Even when you try to surround yourself with positive people, you’re going to bump up against someone negative during your day. You may even have to deal with them on a daily basis. Here are some valuable tips on how to handle the situation without losing your mind.

A Little Bit of Walking Can Add up to Improve Your Health
A new study suggests that walking an extra two minutes per hour can actually make a difference. Our sedentary lifestyle is contributing to early deaths. Getting up and moving around can significantly lower that risk. Read this article to see the benefits of a small amount of exercise can bring.

Toxic Habits: Overthinking
This article examines how ruminating on something upsetting makes things worse. Learn the characteristics of rumination and also 4 tips on how to nip it in the bud.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Sunset at Hopi Point at Grand Canyon101 Self Improvement Resources That Will Take You From Stuck To Unstoppable
Here are resources that can help improve your self-confidence and self-esteem, deal with anger and let go of the past, live a meaningful life, have great relationships and much more. Each topic heading has several resources listed to help you optimize your life. It could take you months to search for and find these solutions. Before you despair, check out this page and see if your issue is one that’s covered.

Practicing Gratitude Can Increase Happiness by 25%
Psychological research finds that people’s happiness levels are remarkably stable over the long-term. But research also indicates that the simple act of gratitude can raise your comfort level of happiness. Learn how you can utilize this single practice to increase your well being.

I’m Returning to Single-Tasking
Multitasking is such an easy habit to fall into. Even with the best of intentions, it’s hard to resist. Here are some very easy rules to live by so that you’re able to reduce your stress and increase your effectiveness.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Step Through WoodsOCD Expert Who Recommends Meditation as Therapy Is the Focus of New eBook
Dr. Jeffrey Schwartz applies Buddhist teachings to his work with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), and bucks the mainstream belief that the brain is a static organ that dictates our actions. He has shown that you can use meditation to physically rewire your brain. This article explores that topic while discussing the ebook that goes into it in depth.

A Harvard neuroscientist told us the major ways meditation changes your brain
According to the National Institute of Health, 8% of the US population have meditated. Harvard neuroscientist Sara Lazar, a leading researcher in the field, is one of the first to show that meditation practice produces structural changes in the brain. In this article, she shares many of what those changes are and how they affect you. You can also watch Lazar’s 2011 TedX talk on meditation’s effects on the brain.

What science says about meditation: it improves your focus and emotional control
One review of 23 studies on mindfulness meditation found that people who’ve been meditating for just a few months perform better on tasks that test their ability to shut out distractions. There’s also evidence that meditation can improve people’s ability to retain and recall new information. This article examines many of these studies and what they mean for the average person.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Quotes by Wayne Dyer in Tribute

Quotes by Wayne Dyer in Tribute

Sun RaysWayne Dyer, author and motivational speaker, passed away recently. He was a pioneer in the self-help industry publishing the best seller, Your Erroneous Zones, in the mid-70’s. It launched him into the national limelight and he went on to become a leader in the spiritual field. He transformed millions of lives by giving them the direction of how to improve. To honor him, here are some of his quotes to help you live up to your potential.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”

“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”

“Self-worth comes from one thing: Thinking that you are worthy.”

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”

“Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.”

“If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t you will see obstacles.”

“With everything that has happened to you, you can feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”

“You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.”

“The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of the state of your mind.”

“If we focus on what’s ugly, we attract more ugliness into our thoughts, and then into our emotions, and ultimately into our lives.”

“When you abandon making choices, you enter the vast world of excuses.”

“You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you.”

“Begin with the end in mind. Start with the end outcome and work backwards to make your dream possible.”

“A belief system is nothing more than a thought you’ve thought over and over again.”

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Flagstaff Aspen RainbowMindfulness has lost its Buddhist roots, and it may not be doing you good
Mindfulness has gotten very popular in recent years. However, few realize that, for some people, can be harmful. Mindfulness is designe to change our perception of ourselves and the world. Some cannot handle this shift.

Students ‘cannot multi-task with mobiles and study’
Students cannot successfully multi-task in using mobile phones while they are studying, US research suggests. Researchers found that students sending and receiving messages while studying scored lower test results and were less effective at tasks such as note taking. This article examines how multi-tasking affects various aspects of students’ lives.

Sue Bruns: Multitasking: Doing many things at once, but completing nothing
Originally a computer term, the definition of “multitask” (verb) is “to execute two or more jobs concurrently.” It means that the computer is quickly switching from one task to another, alternating between them. This is an amusing article describing the process of multitasking while at the same time modeling what happens when you do.

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Flagstaff Aspen RainbowPositive pressure: Stress is good for you
This article quotes a psychologist who states that all stress is helpful, if you believe it is. I don’t agree with everything said in this article, but I do believe that our belief about stress can contribute to our stress. But there are too many studies that prove that too much stress is detrimental to our mental and physical lives. However, some stress is beneficial because it keeps us active and interested in life.

What to do about brain freeze!
Choking during pressure-packed performances is the worst. This problem occurs in pressure situations, when we’re expending enormous mental effort. Learn why we do it and a creative technique to avoid it.

We’re meditating all wrong, says ‘Buddha from Brooklyn’
Lama Surya Das, the “Buddha from Brooklyn,” is one of the handful of Westerners who have been teaching meditation for decades. “So many people seem to be moving narcissistically — conditioned by our culture, doubtless — into self-centered happiness-seeking and quietism, not to mention the use of mindfulness for mere effectiveness,” he said. True meditation, he said, generates wisdom and compassion, which may be very disquieting, at least in the short term.