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Book Review – Controlling People

November 18, 2015 Linda-Ann Stewart

“Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand and Deal with People Who Try to Control You”
By Patricia Evans

This is a great book for anyone with a controlling person in their life. Patricia Evans has written a couple of other books that I’ve recommended, “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” and “Verbal Abuse Survivor’s Speak Out.” “Controlling People” goes into greater detail of why these people act as they do.

For them, the people close to them are cardboard characters that they project their own thoughts onto. They expect people to agree with them at all times, and to read their thoughts about what they want.

The old “If you loved me, you’d know what I want” is their theme. And if the other person doesn’t agree, or reflect the controlling person’s ideas, then the controlling person feels betrayed and many times will fly into a rage.

Not only does this happen in personal relationships, but it also occurs in society, different cultures, and religions, resulting in bigotry, prejudice, stereotypes, and sometimes death. It all has to do with trying to control others so that they think like the controller, so the controller feels comfortable and safe.

This book was an eye-opener for me in understanding various people I’ve had dealings with. I recommend it to anyone who has a boss, relative, friend or partner who is controlling.

Quotes by Wayne Dyer in Tribute

September 1, 2015 Linda-Ann Stewart

Wayne Dyer, author and motivational speaker, passed away recently. He was a pioneer in the self-help industry publishing the best seller, Your Erroneous Zones, in the mid-70’s. It launched him into the national limelight and he went on to become a leader in the spiritual field. He transformed millions of lives by giving them the direction of how to improve. To honor him, here are some of his quotes to help you live up to your potential.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”

“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”

“Self-worth comes from one thing: Thinking that you are worthy.”

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”

“Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.”

“If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t you will see obstacles.”

“With everything that has happened to you, you can feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”

“You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.”

“The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of the state of your mind.”

“If we focus on what’s ugly, we attract more ugliness into our thoughts, and then into our emotions, and ultimately into our lives.”

“When you abandon making choices, you enter the vast world of excuses.”

“You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you.”

“Begin with the end in mind. Start with the end outcome and work backwards to make your dream possible.”

“A belief system is nothing more than a thought you’ve thought over and over again.”

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Why does an affirmation stop working after a day or so?

August 19, 2015 Linda-Ann Stewart

Question: Why is it that an affirmation works for the first day or two, then stops working?

Answer: Remember that an affirmation only works on your consciousness, that’s what it’s changing. What is different in the way you use it in the first couple of days and the way you use it after that? Many times, when using an affirmation, it will be effective when a person is not putting pressure on it to perform.

I know that may not seem to make sense. But when a person tries to force the outcome, or has the attitude of “Okay, where is the result,” the conscious mind has taken control and is trying to force the issue. In that case, the subconscious doesn’t have the energy to fulfill its mission. The conscious mind is using it all.

A good analogy would be to imagine cupping your hand to hold water in it. If your hand is more relaxed and open, it will be able to hold the water. While if you place your hand in the water, but try to grab it by making a fist, the water will escape. When using an affirmation, you have to use it gently, and know that even when it doesn’t seem to be working, it is working on changing your consciousness.

I think letting go of control one of the most difficult things to learn in mind power. We have to trust the subconscious to manifest the subject of the affirmation, and our left-brained, western society is directly opposed to that. We’re taught to try to control the outcome by thinking constantly about it. That doesn’t work. Whenever you think of the issue, just remind yourself that your subconscious is handling it.

And remember that you’re training yourself. Just like learning a new sport, it’s going to take practice to get it right. And you won’t hit a perfect 100% all the time. Even the best basketball player doesn’t get the ball in the basket every time, but by practicing more, they do sink the basket a significant number of times.

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