Empowering Your Mind

Take the Bully by the Horns: Stop Unethical, Uncooperative, or Unpleasant People from Running and Ruining Your Life
by Sam Horn

This book is incredible! I recommend it to many of my clients. Full of information, humor, and specific techniques of what to do, it’s essential for anyone who is dealing with a controlling person who comes across as a bully.

I don’t usually like labeling people, but this book addresses more a type of behavior. When a person pushes, takes advantage, and tries to control by intimidation, then they are acting like a bully and need to be responded to as such.

Each chapter is divided into short segments, which makes it much easier to read and absorb. At the end of each chapter, there’s a worksheet to decide how to handle a situation that is similar to the focus of that chapter, and questions to think over. There’s also a summary of the chapter that describes the harmful beliefs a person might have in a difficult situation, as well as the corresponding positive behaviors.

This book validated much of what I’ve come to realize over the years. There are sections on why a bully is the way he/she is, how they manipulate to get their way, what kind of idealistic ideas we might have had that encouraged them, how to stop people-pleasing, how to set and keep boundaries, and much, much more. It even has a chapter on what to tell children who are dealing with bullies at school.

“Take The Bully By The Horns” is also for anyone who lacks self-confidence or has a low self-worth or self-esteem. I’m so glad that I ran across this book and got it when I did. It’s one I don’t lend out of my personal library.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart