You’ve heard the phrase, “Where attention goes, energy flows.” The more attention you give a goal, the more energy it gains. Learn 3 steps to direct your attention so that it results in actions that will create the outcome you want.
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I’ve been working on a business project for several months. For most of that time, it has been difficult to work with and on. It’s moved forward about as quickly and smoothly as pouring molasses in the winter.
Last week, I decided to change my attitude about it. Instead of dreading working on it and expecting it to be hard, I chose to think that it would be smooth and easy to work on. And as soon as I shifted my expectation, it became easier. I was able to complete a section of it in less than half the time than any of the other sections were done.
Struggling with a situation, dreading the difficulty of a project, or just generally banging your head against a brick wall, creates an expectation of trouble. This brings on more obstacles, and progress becomes like walking through wet cement. However, if you shift your attitude to expect it to be easy, you give the subconscious the instruction to be more resourceful.
This project reminded me to choose to think that the situations of my life can be easy. In the past, when I’ve carried this belief, things have flowed incredibly harmoniously. It isn’t easy to change your expectation when the evidence seems against it, but it’s well worth the effort.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
In this rare video, Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich,” talks about how to keep a positive mental attitude. It can clear any obstacles that are in your way. He gives 20 detailed and valuable tips on how to keep your mind positive. These are specific instructions that he never wrote about in any of his books. If you follow his directions, you will transform your life.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
by Linda-Ann Stewart
Not clearly communicating your decisions and desires in a professional and personal situation causes many problems for you, including:
It wastes precious emotional energy when you don’t make a commitment one way or the other. You worry about what will happen when they find out you’re backing out or breaking up. Maybe you duck their calls and avoid them when you see them. Giving them a definitive answer means that they have closure and you no longer have to be concerned. You can put your energy to more constructive use.
It gives your subconscious the instruction not to commit to a direction. If you have a habit of not making a choice and communicating it, your subconscious will follow that pattern with the goals you do want. It will take much longer to achieve them because your subconscious has been programmed to vacillate. When you are decisive, one way or the other, you give your subconscious the message that you choose to accomplish your goals. Even if you change your mind later on, you still are decisive and can move in a direction.
If you never say no to what you don’t want, you can never say yes to what you do want. By equivocating and not definitively saying, “No,” to a situation, you can’t move forward to what you want. Not committing is essentially the same as being indecisive. As long as you have your feet on two paths, you can never travel down one of them. Pick a path and commit yourself to it. You engage the Law of Attraction when you make a clear choice as to what you want. Set the decision behind you and move forward to what you want.
If you don’t want to say, “No,” when you’re asked, you can say, “Let me think about it and get back to you.” Then follow through on your statement and give them your answer within a couple of days. This frees them to find someone else.
In personal relationships, give clear messages. When you feel that the relationship has run its course, let the other person know that it’s time to go your separate ways. This gives them closure and lets them begin the process of healing and moving on.
Clear communication with others means that you also have clear communication within yourself. By giving a definite answer to someone, you’re not wasting time and energy being evasive with others, and you’re supporting your dreams, desires and well-being. This allows you to be true to yourself and fulfill your potential.
Affirmation
I realize that giving clear communication and accurate information is necessary for me to have the best relationship with my inner self. When I pick a path and commit to it, I send a message to my inner self that I’m saying “Yes” to what I want. I follow through with my commitments and confront outstanding issues. In so doing, I free up more energy to be used to further my dreams and desires.
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Question: How come when I use affirmations, negative thoughts take over my mind?
Answer: One reason the negative ideas may be surfacing is that your positive statements are flushing them out of their hidey-hole. As you put more positive in, the negative rises to the surface to be acknowledged before it can be released. But if they’re sticking around, something else is probably going on.
Sometimes the old, negative thought patterns resist our changing them, and the more we affirm positive, the more they clamor. Generally, it’s because they feel like they need to be there for to protect you. You accepted them at a time when they were necessary (or so you thought), but they aren’t helpful any more.
Sometimes, I’ll use an affirmation such as “I have outgrown old, outdated negative thought patterns that were implanted when I was much younger. My subconscious now recognizes that I no longer need or want them in that form, and releases them.”
Whatever you use, you need to understand that they’ll be there until you realize that they aren’t necessary any more. Sometimes it can feel safe to stay in the old (uncomfortable) rut, because its familiar. Or feelings of anger, hurt, fear or guilt can hang onto them.
In that case, you need to address those feelings. Just don’t resist the negative words, that gives them more power. Acknowledge that you recognize that they’ve been there, but you don’t need them any more. You might be surprised what surfaces when you do this.
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by Linda-Ann Stewart
When you talk about another person, you reveal more about yourself than you do about the person you’re discussing. You reveal your biases and the things that bother you. Many times, what you complain about is more a factor of your filters and how you perceive what they’ve said or done, than it is an objective observation.
I know insecure people who consider self-assured people as self-important and arrogant. No evidence to the contrary will shake them from their opinion.
Research shows that when one coworker rates another one, you learn as much or more about the rater as you do about the rated. Negative people tend to rate others as negative, and the same goes with positive people.
You tend to filter your opinions of others through your own filters, and how you view yourself. It’s been said that what we see in others is actually a reflection of who we are. This research, published in the July 2010 issue of Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, tends to confirm that.
Read more about this study at What you say about others says a lot about you, research shows.
In this rare video, Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich,” explains about the benefits of going the extra mile. This a habit of leaders and has marked the turning point of successful people. He gives a formula for it and says that this is the habit you need must follow to advance in your life.
Shawn Achor is a researcher in the field of positive psychology. Using a humorous, personal example, he explains that how we perceive our lives creates our experience. He goes on to explain how we have the success equals happiness equation is backwards. When we can reverse that equation, we have a statistically higher chance of success, productivity and many more positive outcomes. In this video, he includes several quick tips on how to improve our state of mind.
In this rare video, Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich,” explains about the power of the Master Mind principle and alliance. He gives three steps to do to establish what you want in the area of success. “Your mental attitude is the only thing over which you have complete control,” he says. You are the only person who can limit you.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
by Linda-Ann Stewart
Living up to your values isn’t always easy. Sometimes it can be inconvenient and difficult, such as trying to carve out family time from a busy professional life. But if you try to rationalize and ignore your standards, because it’s expedient in the situation, you’ll create internal strife and tension. When you violate your values, you feel abandoned, because you’ve betrayed your deepest self.
Honoring your values builds empowerment and self-worth. By supporting what you feel is important, you validate yourself and your choices. You feel good about yourself, feeling more whole and complete. By taking action on what you feel is right for you, you build a sense of self-respect. You approve of yourself and your actions.
When you live in alignment with your standards, then you feel worthy of happiness, abundance, joy, and all good. You’re more open to the Universal flow of good. There is less inner resistance to it and you feel more deserving of it. Other people recognize that you’re more in tune with yourself, and are drawn to you. And because you can trust yourself, they’ll be able to trust you. Other people know what to expect from you and will respect you for that.
Learning what your values are helps you to make better decisions. You can ask yourself, “Does this allow me to support my values?” and “Does this violate my values?” Sometimes, the choice to follow your heart can be difficult in the short term. You may have to sacrifice something you want so that you’re in alignment with your deepest self. But the long term rewards for being true to yourself are beyond measure.
Affirmation
I recognize and honor the values that I cherish. When I need to make a choice, I consider what’s important to me. Even if it’s a difficult choice, I realize that it’s worth it. My values are unique to me and I deserve to live in alignment with them. As I’m true to myself, I open to more Universal good of abundance, happiness, and joy.
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