by Linda-Ann Stewart
Do you wait until the last minute to do your taxes or a
report? Do you procrastinate and avoid thinking about them until the night
before they’re due? If so, you may be motivated to try to avoid pain, until the
last possible moment. In the meantime, your attention is divided, knowing that
the project is looming over you. While you’re trying to go about your life,
dread nibbles at you.
Or are you someone who does your taxes, or a report, as soon
as can? If so, you’re motivated to get your refund faster or to move on to the
next task. You look forward to not only getting the unpleasant task done
quickly, but to the reward of receiving your refund and clearing your desk. You’re
motivated by seeking pleasure. You take your time and make fewer mistakes,
because you aren’t pressured.
How the Pain Pleasure
Principle Works to Achieve Goals
People are motivated to avoid pain and/or anticipate
pleasure. To find out which governs you the most, assess how you deal with
unpleasant aspects of your life. If you generally procrastinate or let things
go until the last minute, you’re probably motivated to avoid pain.
To achieve your goals, you stir up the pain until it’s so
bad that you must move forward to reduce the discomfort. This is fine for the
short term and to initiate change, but it’s stressful and extended stress leads
to burnout. You’ll associate your goals with pain and eventually abandon them.
Using pain to flog yourself forward wounds the inner self. You also block the flow of the Universe and the Law of
Attraction. Your attention is on the pain, and not on your vision and your connection to your
Higher Self. To avoid the discomfort, you move in any direction that
eases the pain, even if it’s the opposite way you want to go. Or you do the
least amount possible to make the pain go away, and that won’t take you to what
you ultimately want, either.
To function at your best, your subconscious and inner self
need safety, which is the reverse of stress. If you’re motivated by seeking pleasure,
you feel more secure. You’re able to be more creative and effective, and have a
greater range of resources from which to draw. The
Universe and the Law of Attraction are able to expand more good into your life.
You also have your focus on what your goals will bring you.
Getting tasks done ahead of time gives you a sense of
satisfaction and your attention can then be freed for your next step. Your
brain likes the completion, and rewards you with a feeling of being uplifted. Being
motivated to anticipate pleasure is better for long term progress. It draws you
forward towards your vision. It activates the Law of
Attraction to draw to you what you need for your desire.
Using Your Motivation
Style to Your Advantage
No matter if you’re someone who avoids pain or anticipates
pleasure, you can use this motivation principle to more easily achieve your
goals. If you’re been someone who stirs up the pain to initiate action, that’s
fine. Once you’re moving, you can shift to the longer term strategy. Here are
four steps to help you be more successful.
1. Your goal must be
realistic. Create small steps that you can accomplish so you feel like
you’re progressing. For instance, if you expect to accomplish five projects,
when you only have time for three, you’re going to feel like a failure. Even if
you must scale back your expectations, make sure your steps can be achieved in
the time allotted.
2. Write out your
ultimate vision. Write down what it will look and feel like to achieve your
goal. Explain why you want your vision. What changes will it bring into your
life and how will that improve your situation? This stirs up the anticipation
of the pleasure you’ll feel when you’ve reached your goal.
3. Reframe the pain.
Once you get moving, don’t continue to drive yourself with the fear of what
will happen if you don’t take the next step. Instead, give yourself credit for
each step you’ve taken along the way. The subconscious likes the appreciation
and you’ll feel encouraged to continue. Look forward to the benefit you
anticipate from your actions.
4. Take mini-steps.
Work on your goal in short bursts of energy during the day. Think of it as a
series of small sprints, rather than a marathon. Alternate your actions with
some other neutral or pleasurable activity. You’ll stop associating the goal or
task with pain and negativity when it’s not overshadowing your life. Once you
see how much you’re getting done, and feeling the satisfaction, it becomes
easier and easier to work on.
It may feel uncomfortable to make a shift to a different way
of motivating yourself. You’re breaking a long standing habit. But if you do,
you’ll be much happier, more productive and successful in all of your endeavors.
Affirmation:
The Universe wants the best for me and I deserve it. By keeping my vision in mind, I create a mold for the Universe to fill and draw to me everything I need. I acknowledge and appreciate every step I take towards my vision. Each step brings me closer to the achievement of my dreams.
Watch the complementary video, Motivate Yourself with this Strategy.
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