Do you want to change something in your life? Unfortunately, sporadic actions concerning your goal won’t result in its achievement. Learn 2 tips that can help you accomplish your goal successfully.
When you change the way you say things, you change how people perceive them, and you change your world. Language and messaging is so very important when you want to get an idea across. Here’s an inspirational video that illustrates this concept.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
Question: Why do old, negative habits return when I’m under pressure?
Answer: It’s natural for old habits, mental and physical, to return when a person has experienced stress or distress. The subconscious tends to use all its resources to deal with the current challenge, and has little energy left for a person’s new habits unless the person is very careful, aware, and disciplined. If you succumb to the old habits, once you realize it, you can re-dedicate yourself to your new, more positive habits.
Instead of wasting energy berating yourself, consider this a time when you’re strengthening your resolve and getting back on track. As a person reestablishes their new behaviors, those strategies tend to become stronger and more powerful.
I consider it more a practice than a relearning. You just forgot to practice what you know when the pressure got too great. We all do this from time to time. But each time we practice, it creates a deeper impression on the subconscious, and becomes easier to remember the next time the lesson comes around.
Copyright 2004, 2013 Linda Ann Stewart
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When you have a change in your life, you can have a sense of loss and sadness over what has gone. People don’t understand that this is a normal process. Even if you’re eager for the new door opening, there can be some grief over the old one closing. Learn how this is a normal process and how to approach it.
Question: How long does it take for the subconscious mind to release outdated beliefs?
Answer: I could be facetious and honest if I said “It takes as long as it takes.” But that wouldn’t be very helpful. Actually, there are a lot of factors that go into how long it takes. How badly do you want to make the change? Do you keep your mind focused on the change, knowing that it’s possible? Do you flood your mind with affirmations and statements of the change? Do you take actions that ground the change?
For example, if it would be for smoking, do you cut down, change the places you smoke, etc? For self-esteem, do you treat yourself well, do things that build your feelings of self-worth?
The subconscious will only release its old patterns when it realizes that you don’t need or want them anymore. Your conscious mind must convince your subconscious through the conscious mind’s focus and commitment. And the length of time it takes is in direct proportion to the amount of energy you use for the change. It could be overnight, or it could take years of small changes in that direction.
However, in general, any idea, thought, or belief that your conscious mind stays completely focused on for a month becomes a part of you by becoming part of your subconscious belief patterns.
Copyright 2004, 2013 Linda Ann Stewart
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People expect that when they set an intention and begin to follow through with it, it’ll be easy. Unfortunately, having setbacks is a necessary part of the process. Learn what pitfalls can teach you and how it can make you stronger when you’re fulfilling a goal.
Read the accompanying article Believe You Can and You’re Right.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
Question: How come when I use affirmations, negative thoughts take over my mind?
Answer: One reason the negative ideas may be surfacing is that your positive statements are flushing them out of their hidey-hole. As you put more positive in, the negative rises to the surface to be acknowledged before it can be released. But if they’re sticking around, something else is probably going on.
Sometimes the old, negative thought patterns resist our changing them, and the more we affirm positive, the more they clamor. Generally, it’s because they feel like they need to be there for to protect you. You accepted them at a time when they were necessary (or so you thought), but they aren’t helpful any more.
Sometimes, I’ll use an affirmation such as “I have outgrown old, outdated negative thought patterns that were implanted when I was much younger. My subconscious now recognizes that I no longer need or want them in that form, and releases them.”
Whatever you use, you need to understand that they’ll be there until you realize that they aren’t necessary any more. Sometimes it can feel safe to stay in the old (uncomfortable) rut, because its familiar. Or feelings of anger, hurt, fear or guilt can hang onto them.
In that case, you need to address those feelings. Just don’t resist the negative words, that gives them more power. Acknowledge that you recognize that they’ve been there, but you don’t need them any more. You might be surprised what surfaces when you do this.
Copyright 2004, 2013 Linda Ann Stewart
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If you’re ambivalent about a goal, you’ll vacillate and settle for your current conditions. Indecisiveness won’t help you succeed. To succeed in any venture, you have to make a decision to take the actions necessary for it. Learn how important committing to your goal or desire is.
Question: How do I use self-hypnosis to change a habit?
Answer: Congratulations on wanting to change your life. Self-hypnosis can help you change a habit or quit something, but it takes dedication and commitment on your part.
For instance, I’ve had many smokers come to see me, saying “I really don’t want to quit. I want to want to quit.” In this case, they don’t have the commitment to stop smoking. They want a magic pill that will make it go away. Self-hypnosis makes the process of changing or quitting easier, it doesn’t make the choices for you.
Whatever it is that you want to change, you could decide what it is that you want instead of it. You could use an abstract, like greater self-respect or pride, or you could substitute something more concrete, like a carrot stick or green tea.
Once a day, in self-hypnosis, you imagine the desire for ‘whatever’ transferred to what you really want, and imagine yourself satisfied and delighted with the new substitute or abstract. Then, during your waking hours, whenever you think of the ‘whatever,’ you say to yourself, “No, I don’t do that anymore. Instead, I’m choosing ….”
The change won’t happen overnight, and you will have to dedicate yourself wholeheartedly to letting go of the habit or making the change, no matter what happens. And you may have to practice your self-hypnosis up to three times a day in the beginning.
Copyright 2004, 2013 Linda Ann Stewart
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In this rare video, Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich,” explains about the benefits of going the extra mile. This a habit of leaders and has marked the turning point of successful people. He gives a formula for it and says that this is the habit you need must follow to advance in your life.