Every day you make choices. When you make the same choice over and over, it develops into a habit. Many times, you have habits leftover from earlier in your life that aren’t giving you the results you want now. Learn how you can change your outcomes by changing your habits, and get the results you want.
In this rare video, Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich,” explains how enthusiasm is contagious. Enthusiasm is one of the most important traits for leadership. He gives a short course on salesmanship to help you make a favorable impression on your prospect. These are good tips for anyone meeting new people.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
Question: Which is the best pronoun to use when saying an affirmation: I, you, or he/she?
Answer: You ask an excellent question. The answer, unfortunately, isn’t cut and dried. All three ways of phrasing affirmations have their uses. I most often use the first person (I), so that I identify with what I’m affirming. We tend to become what we identify with, and this is the way most affirmations are worded. This gives the subconscious guidance on what you want it to do.
However, when an affirmation is hard to accept, or our subconscious has some resistance to the affirmation, using a more objective pronoun is very helpful. Using “you” when stating the affirmation becomes a command to the subconscious. This pronoun is especially helpful when you want to directly order the subconscious on what to do. It forcefully breaks up any opposition to the affirmation. If you state and affirmation this way while looking at yourself in the mirror, it becomes very powerful.
When you’re too emotionally involved in the issue the affirmation is dealing with, the use of the third person pronoun “he/she/your name” is called for. Speaking of yourself in the third person helps when you need to deal with the issue a bit more objectively. It’s especially helpful when you need to improve your self-approval to accept the affirmation.
If you state an affirmation in each of these ways, you’ll notice a difference in the way you respond to it. Pick the way that seems to resonate with you the most at the time.
Copyright 2005, 2013 Linda Ann Stewart
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You’ve heard the phrase, “Where attention goes, energy flows.” The more attention you give a goal, the more energy it gains. Learn 3 steps to direct your attention so that it results in actions that will create the outcome you want.
Copyright 2013 Linda Ann Stewart
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I’ve been working on a business project for several months. For most of that time, it has been difficult to work with and on. It’s moved forward about as quickly and smoothly as pouring molasses in the winter.
Last week, I decided to change my attitude about it. Instead of dreading working on it and expecting it to be hard, I chose to think that it would be smooth and easy to work on. And as soon as I shifted my expectation, it became easier. I was able to complete a section of it in less than half the time than any of the other sections were done.
Struggling with a situation, dreading the difficulty of a project, or just generally banging your head against a brick wall, creates an expectation of trouble. This brings on more obstacles, and progress becomes like walking through wet cement. However, if you shift your attitude to expect it to be easy, you give the subconscious the instruction to be more resourceful.
This project reminded me to choose to think that the situations of my life can be easy. In the past, when I’ve carried this belief, things have flowed incredibly harmoniously. It isn’t easy to change your expectation when the evidence seems against it, but it’s well worth the effort.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
In this rare video, Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich,” talks about how to keep a positive mental attitude. It can clear any obstacles that are in your way. He gives 20 detailed and valuable tips on how to keep your mind positive. These are specific instructions that he never wrote about in any of his books. If you follow his directions, you will transform your life.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
Question: How do I balance my natural desire to help someone with my aversion to tolerating discourteous behavior from them?
Answer: I understand the conflict between wanting to help, and having that help rejected and stomped on. You can’t force someone to accept help. You can only offer it, and if it’s rejected, move on. There is no reason why you should put up with unacceptable behavior from other people.
That behavior shows their disrespect of you, others and themselves. We tend to train others how to treat us, so if you set boundaries and stick to them, people will learn what you’ll accept and what you won’t.
Sometimes the best way you can help others is not to help them, and to let them get bumped around. It’s really hard for those of us with natural inclinations to help, but that’s part of our lesson, too. To learn what kind of help others truly need.
Copyright 2004, 2013 Linda Ann Stewart
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You’re always visualizing, in ways you may not be aware of. When you think of performing your next task, you’re creating a mental image of that task. As you drive to work, you have a mental map of your route that you follow, including the landmarks you use to navigate by.
You also visualize yourself. In your mind is an image of yourself as either successful or not, and you recreate that picture in your life, becoming who you think you are.
A new article has spotlighted just how much you use visualization in your day-to-day activities. It’s a study by the AAA Foundation for Traffic Safety at the University of Utah. The study looked at how all the new technology of cars, designed to make us safer, can actually be a hazard.
The new technology that allows you to give verbal directions to your car diverts your attention from the action of driving. “It basically takes our minds, if not our eyes, off the road,” says David Strayer.
Your brain automatically tries to place a face with who you’re talking to. And when that’s a car, your mind seeks to create a person there. Whether you’re aware of it or not, you have to think hard about what you’re saying and the “person” you’re talking to.
This is also why it’s more dangerous to talk on a cell phone while driving than to talk to a passenger. You’re mentally creating the person’s face who is on the other end of the call. This takes more attention and brainpower. When the person is in the car with you, you don’t have to use brainpower to imagine what they look like. They’re already there.
Use your attention and visualization wisely. Keep your mind on your driving when you’re behind the wheel. And make sure that you’re visualizing what it is that you want, including arriving safely at your destination.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
Your life is run by habits. One of the habits that is essential, but that is ignored too often, is the one of self-care. It recharges your batteries and helps you deal with the challenges you face. Learn how important self-care is and how you can include it in your life.
In this rare video, Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich,” talks about the habits you need to cultivate and break to be successful. “Everything you do to or for another, you do to or for yourself,” he says. He describes 8 specific habits that you need to discipline to best use the master key to riches. Self-discipline is the only means by which you can improve your life.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart