You already have the best tool within you to achieve your goals. It’s your brain. It’s wired to help you succeed, but you have to know how to use it. When you learn how to activate it properly, not only will you be more successful, but you’ll feel less stressed and more in control.
By understanding the neurochemistry of your brain, you’ll discover how to motivate yourself and stay focused. This book is fill with exercises to lead you step-by-step to get started on a new pathway to getting the life you want. In addition, you’ll learn how to adjust your moods and become more positive.
This book is a delightful, easy to read manual to help you take small, steady steps to change your behavior and improve your results. The author’s mantra throughout the book is “start small, start now.” All those tiny steps will propel you to wonderful shifts in your life. Although the book is directed towards businesspeople, it can help anyone who wants to maximize their potential.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
Meditation to Learn from Your Resistance to Change
Resistance to moving forward is part of the human condition. Any goal worth having is going to stir up a reluctance to change. But resistance can teach you a lot, about why you’re reluctant and what you need to do to take action. Use the questions in this meditation to uncover what’s behind your resistance and what you can do to overcome it.
Transcript:
Thank
you for joining me. Are you resisting taking an action or decision that you
know would allow you to reach your goal? If so, welcome to the human race.
Whenever you want to make a significant change in your life, you’re going to
meet with some inner resistance to moving forward, right? Sometimes, there’s a
good reason for the resistance, like you don’t have everything you need yet.
Other times, it’s just a fear of change or fear of failure.
I’m
Linda-Ann Stewart, a vision strategist, and I’ve worked with hundreds of
clients over the years to overcome their resistance to achieving their goals.
Resistance has a lot to teach you, but you have to be willing to listen to what
it’s trying to tell you. Asking the right questions is a way to discover what’s
holding you back and how you can move forward.
So
I’d like to lead you through a very short meditation to help you ask some of
those questions and gain answers to help you.
If
you’re okay doing so, close your eyes. If not, just get comfortable.
Imagine
some area where you’re resisting change. It could be personal, like changing a
habit or dealing with an ongoing issue, or it could be professional, like
opening up to a new opportunity. Just choose one place where you’re resisting.
Examine the issue and how you feel about it.
Now,
we’re going to ask some questions. Don’t worry if you don’t get any immediate
answers. Those answers may come in a few minutes or hours, when you’re doing
something else entirely. Right now, it’s just important to ask the questions,
and listen.
What
exactly are you resisting?
Why
are you resisting moving forward? Is it fear, or some other emotion? Do you
need some other piece to be in place? Why are you resisting moving forward?
What
would happen if you didn’t resist? If you just let go and moved forward? How
would that affect your life?
What
are you trying to preserve/hang onto by resisting? Is it worth it?
What
are you giving up by deciding to move forward? Is it something you still want,
or have you outgrown it?
What
might you receive from moving forward? Is it better than what you have now?
How
can you make this change less threatening? How can you let go of your
resistance and make it easier to move forward?
The
answers to these questions may not come right away. The answers may surface
over the hours to come. Just keep your mind open to recognize the answers, and
know that you can choose to act on them or not. Open your eyes.
Like
I said, it doesn’t matter if you got any answers right away. The important
thing is to ask and be open to the information. Your subconscious will deliver
what you can accept and work with, maybe today, tonight, or tomorrow. You can
take what your subconscious tells you and make decisions that are best for you.
If you’d to achieve a 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You’ll receive the blueprint, as well as a video of that walks you through it with tips and directions to support you in you in accomplishing your goal.
Thank you for watching. I hope that the answers you get are valuable and help you resolve any resistance you might be encountering with your goal. Take care.
“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” – Thomas S. Szasz, Professor of Psychiatry
Forgiving and then forgetting means that you don’t learn from the situation. You have no memory to warn you if the same situation is happening again. To best honor yourself, you can forgive the person, but remember their offense. This way, if you begin to notice a pattern, you can then decide what you need to do from a stronger position.
Achieving goals is more than just staying the course and taking action. It has to do with your brain. Your brain likes the feeling of reward when you accomplish a task. The more you succeed, the more you’re motivated, encouraged and inspired. Learn what kind of goals to set to keep your brain happy and ultimately create more success.
You are in control of your mood by what you focus on. And you can turn a positive mood on or off, like a switch. Sustaining positive emotions is key to your sense of well being. Learn how you can take charge of your emotions and improve your well being.
Being self aware helps you improve your well being, behavior and success. It enables you to be more authentic. Follow these 5 tips to self awareness to help you to be more successful personally, professionally and emotionally.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you welcome an offender back into your life. That may be the worst thing you could do for yourself. Forgiveness doesn’t absolve a person of the responsibility of what they’ve done and they might not have changed. Forgiving simply means you’re letting go of your anger against the person. When you can truly wish them the best, then you know you’ve forgiven them.
Negative people enjoy being dream killers. When you have someone like this who is a part of your life, either personally or professionally, it can be draining to interact with them. Their negativity can bring you down and impact your ability to take action. Learn to shield yourself from their negativity with these 6 strategies.
Affirmations are a way of re-programming your beliefs, attitudes and thinking. As a result, they can change the course of your life. This article explores some of the science and benefits of them. It also suggests affirmations for various types of people and conditions. In addition, it has other resources and meditation videos to help you improve your life.
Behaving optimistically makes things better even when we feel bad. Optimism isn’t only about attitude, it’s about behavior. When you act as if you’re optimistic, the outcomes lead to a better mood. To help you stay positive, use the 3 strategies she suggests.
Focus in one of the most important skills to develop if you want to be successful, whether personally or professionally. But because of our current crisis and disruption of our routines, focus is hard to grab onto and maintain. Here’s a couple of strategies to help you to broaden your mental bandwidth and feel more in control.
Transcript:
Thank
you for joining me. I’m Linda-Ann
Stewart, a vision strategist. I wanted
to talk about how to find focus in times that seem unsettled, chaotic, or
uncertain, like now.
Focus
in one of the most important skills to have if you want to be successful,
whether personally or professionally.
But because of our current crisis and disruption of our routines, focus
is hard to grab onto and maintain, isn’t it?
Your attention is taken up with the immediate and the urgent, right? And
there’s so much that’s out of your control right now, which splinters your
focus even more, doesn’t it?
So,
for right now, just focus on what you can control. You can control what you do,
your decisions, and your response to immediate situations. Just paying
attention to what you can control lowers your stress level and you have more
mental bandwidth.
Next,
focus on one thing at a time. Just one thing. The brain can focus only on a
single task at a time. When you’re thinking about or doing too many things at
one time, you’re “task switching” and that exhausts your ability to
function. So when you’re doing something, focus completely on it, if only for
ten minutes.
Using
these two strategies, pretty soon, you’ll feel on more stable ground. And
you’ll be able to pay attention to more than just what’s right in front of you.
And then, amazingly, you’ll be able to start to plan for the future.
If you’d to achieve a 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision Blueprint. You’ll receive the blueprint, as well as a video of that walks you through it with tips and directions to support you in accomplishing your goal.
Thank you for watching. What one thing are you going to focus on today? Take care.
Last month, I was interviewed for Jamie Lynn Warber’s Breakthrough & Thrive
– Awaken Your Voice Summit. The summit empowered sexual abuse and trauma
survivors to take charge of their power, healing and happiness. Jamie and I
were connected through another podcast host and I jumped at the chance to reach
these women with my message.
As a hypnotherapist and coach for 30 years, I’ve helped many
sexual abuse survivors achieve their goals. Whether to heal from the trauma,
break habits or improve their life, I discovered that they needed to improve
their self-esteem to be successful. They had to come to realize that they
deserved success before they could achieve it.
These women and this subject are very dear to my heart, as
it is to Jamie Lynn’s, who is a sexual abuse survivor. She shared some of her
story, which was touching and brave of her.
She’s incredibly heart-centered. In our discussion, we explored why
self-esteem is necessary to be successful.
I also gave several strategies and exercises that listeners can use to
raise their self-esteem and sense of self-worth.
It was a delightful discussion. I enjoyed talking with her so much. Even after the interview, we continued chatting for almost an hour, sharing our philosophies, perspectives and experiences. I remain in touch with her, and hope to be on future summits of hers. For now, I keep in touch with her Facebook page, Arise Empowered, LLC. If you’re a sexual abuse and/or trauma survivor, I recommend you check it out.
“I know that forgiveness releases me from the past. I forgive myself for past mistakes and forgive those who have done me harm. When I can’t forgive someone, I give the situation to God and let God forgive them through me.”
Forgiveness cuts you from hanging onto the past, freeing you for a brighter future. Forgiving yourself and others is a healing balm, but sometimes you simply can’t find the ability to forgive. The offense might have been too great, or you’re still too angry. In that case, let God work through you. God can see the true essence of the other person and has already forgiven their faults. This makes it easier for you to detach from the situation, which makes it easier to free yourself.
People mistakenly think that to forgive a person, they have to excuse the event, too. Nothing could be further from the truth. The individual acted in a particular way that hurt you, and that is their responsibility. In your mind, separate the person from their mistake. Because their action isn’t what you’re forgiving. You’re letting go of your anger, resentment and grudge against the person. And you’re not doing it for them. You’re doing it so it doesn’t continue to poison you.
