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The Trouble with Rose Colored Glasses

The Trouble with Rose Colored Glasses

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by Linda-Ann Stewart

Rose colored glasses on sand.

When I was younger, I saw the best in people. I also recognized their flaws, but mainly focused on the core of good I saw in them. Unfortunately, some of those people were uncomfortable with my insight. They would insult or take advantage of me, as if they were trying to prove me wrong. It seemed the more I saw the good in them, the more it irritated them.

Eventually, as I grew older and more experienced, I sadly realized that I had to detach from them. I accepted they weren’t going to change. So I let them, and myself, go to find something better. This isn’t just true for relationships.

Rosy Filters Can Be Misleading

Being positive and empathetic doesn’t mean wearing rose colored glasses, with an unrealistic view of people and life. For instance, if you view a relationship or situation through a rosy filter, you only see what you want to see. It’s nice and it’s comforting, but you may miss red flags, as well as opportunities.

Believe it or not, deliberately ignoring a fact or situation just gives it more power. The difficulty is always on the fringes of your mind, and it takes energy to keep it suppressed. When you’re positive, you can seek out the best in situations, while being aware of problematic issues.

How to Balance Being Positive with Realism

In Maxwell Maltz’s book, Psycho-Cybernetics, he uses the analogy of golfing for how to maintain focus on your goal. When you’re about to hit the ball off the tee, you’re aware of the sand and water traps so you can avoid them. But you don’t put all your attention on them. Your focus is on the ball and where you want it to go.

The same thing is true about being positive in any situation. You’re aware of the difficulties, recognizing reality, but expecting and working towards the best. When you acknowledge unpleasant details, but cultivate an optimistic mindset, you’re able to make more empowered decisions and experience a fuller life.

Affirmation:

I am Divinely Guided with everyone and in every situation. I recognize those people who I can trust with my confidences. With others, I am guided with how much to share with them. I am aware of any issues, so that I can deal with them, as needed. I deserve, expect and accept the best from every circumstance. Only Divine Good goes through me and comes to me.

As a focus mentor, hypnotherapist, and writer, Linda-Ann Stewart motivates women entrepreneurs and small business owners to focus and transform their business through deliberate actions that break through distraction and overwhelm to greater success, wellbeing and prosperity.To boost productivity and reduce overwhelm, register for her FREE guide, Design Your Best Day, at https://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/guide.html

Be as Kind to Yourself as You Are to Others

Be as Kind to Yourself as You Are to Others

Being kind to others brings great rewards. But there are times when you get depleted when you’ve been kind without paying attention to your needs. Learn some signals that let you know when you need to be kind to yourself. Watch Be as Kind to Yourself as You Are to Others.

Transcript:

We all know that it’s important to be kind to others. One small act of kindness can spread, like the ripples in a pond. But there are times when giving too much of yourself can deplete you. People can expect too much, take advantage of you, or you just can’t draw the line. It’s hard to say “no” when your spirit is willing, but your physical, mental and emotional well being is drained.

I know how it is to be stretched beyond your limit by volunteering and giving of your time and energy. At one time, I’d overextended myself so much that my health suffered.

I’m Linda-Ann Stewart, a focus mentor and hypnotherapist. I empower people to focus and align their heart with their vision so they can achieve their goals.

I learned that to be able to have enough energy to give to others, you need to be able to replenish what you have. Being kind to yourself is as important, if not more so, than being kind to others. If you’re depleted, then you can’t help anyone.

One of the ways to make sure you stay balanced is to know when to pull back and say “not now” or “no.” Some good signals to do this are when you’re starting to feel overwhelmed, resentful,or exhausted. These indicate that it’s time for you to step back, be kind to yourself and restore your energy.

Kindness begins with your being kind to yourself. Give yourself the same thoughtfulness that you give to others, and then you’ll be able to spread that kindness in a much greater way. How can you be kind to yourself today? Thank you for watching.  If you’d like to be notified when I release more videos on mindset, motivation and empowerment, please like my channel and click on the bell. Be kind, to yourself and others, and as always, stay focused.

Please read the accompanying article, Can Kindness Backfire?