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The Trouble with Rose Colored Glasses

The Trouble with Rose Colored Glasses

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by Linda-Ann Stewart

Rose colored glasses on sand.

When I was younger, I saw the best in people. I also recognized their flaws, but mainly focused on the core of good I saw in them. Unfortunately, some of those people were uncomfortable with my insight. They would insult or take advantage of me, as if they were trying to prove me wrong. It seemed the more I saw the good in them, the more it irritated them.

Eventually, as I grew older and more experienced, I sadly realized that I had to detach from them. I accepted they weren’t going to change. So I let them, and myself, go to find something better. This isn’t just true for relationships.

Rosy Filters Can Be Misleading

Being positive and empathetic doesn’t mean wearing rose colored glasses, with an unrealistic view of people and life. For instance, if you view a relationship or situation through a rosy filter, you only see what you want to see. It’s nice and it’s comforting, but you may miss red flags, as well as opportunities.

Believe it or not, deliberately ignoring a fact or situation just gives it more power. The difficulty is always on the fringes of your mind, and it takes energy to keep it suppressed. When you’re positive, you can seek out the best in situations, while being aware of problematic issues.

How to Balance Being Positive with Realism

In Maxwell Maltz’s book, Psycho-Cybernetics, he uses the analogy of golfing for how to maintain focus on your goal. When you’re about to hit the ball off the tee, you’re aware of the sand and water traps so you can avoid them. But you don’t put all your attention on them. Your focus is on the ball and where you want it to go.

The same thing is true about being positive in any situation. You’re aware of the difficulties, recognizing reality, but expecting and working towards the best. When you acknowledge unpleasant details, but cultivate an optimistic mindset, you’re able to make more empowered decisions and experience a fuller life.

Affirmation:

I am Divinely Guided with everyone and in every situation. I recognize those people who I can trust with my confidences. With others, I am guided with how much to share with them. I am aware of any issues, so that I can deal with them, as needed. I deserve, expect and accept the best from every circumstance. Only Divine Good goes through me and comes to me.

As a focus mentor, hypnotherapist, and writer, Linda-Ann Stewart motivates women entrepreneurs and small business owners to focus and transform their business through deliberate actions that break through distraction and overwhelm to greater success, wellbeing and prosperity.To boost productivity and reduce overwhelm, register for her FREE guide, Design Your Best Day, at https://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/guide.html

Getting in the Flow

Getting in the Flow

You have a powerful tool to create a better day for yourself. It will allow you to direct your energy towards your goals, and be able to enjoy better results. Learn about how this tip empowers you and builds confidence. Watch Getting in the Flow.

Transcript:

Welcome. I’d like to share a quick mindset tip for creating a better day for yourself. Wouldn’t that be great?

I’m Linda-Ann Stewart, a focus mentor, writer and hypnotherapist. These videos are dedicated to empower you to focus and align your heart with your vision so you can achieve your goals.

Here’s the tip. At the beginning of your day, focus on the best outcome you can imagine. Imagine it in detail, that everything goes your way. I know it sounds simple, right? But this tactic is very effective.

Imagining things going smoothly doesn’t mean you can’t create contingency plans. In Psycho-Cybernetics, Maxwell Maltz says to be aware of the possible problems so you can avoid them. He uses the example of a golfer. That golfer needs to know where the traps and obstacles are, but he doesn’t focus on them. His attention is on his ball and where he wants it to go.

Putting your energy towards bringing about the best outcome reduces your stress, and gives you more resources and creativity to handle any challenges. You act from a place of power and confidence, instead of fear. This means you have a much better chance of enjoying the results you want.

So focus, imagine and expect the best, and keep your eyes on the ball. 

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