“Criticize Less, Manifest More Good”

“Criticize Less, Manifest More Good”

by Linda-Ann Stewart

Do you remember how your mother used to tell you, “If you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything?” Well, unfortunately, she was right. But not just so that you’re nice or considerate. Not being critical is actually a spiritual principle. It’s the Law of Attraction in action.

Wherever attention goes, energy flows. Whatever you focus on expands, whether it’s a positive or negative, and whether it’s in your life or the lives of others. Criticism is not only negative, there’s usually a lot of force associated with the observation. That power  gets the attention of the subconscious. And your subconscious doesn’t distinguish between the condemning of others’ actions and what’s going on in your life.

When you’re critical of others, the subconscious recognizes the image you’re holding and energy connected with it. Whatever you put your attention on tends to grow because the subconscious thinks you want more of it in your life. When you judge others for some infraction, you’re restricting the flow of Universal good into your life.

In her audio “Prosperity Plus,” prosperity teacher Edwene Gaines tells the story of when she first began attending a metaphysical church. She complained to the minister about  every aspect of the service, the people, and the activities. The minister, very kindly, told her something like, “Be quiet. Your highest spiritual lesson right now is not to complain.”

The Law of Attraction works by attracting what it is that you have your attention focused on, through feelings, what you think about most, and what image is predominently in your mind. When you’re focusing on what you disapprove of, you’re attracting more of that into your life. Your negative feelings and thoughts have shut off your mental magnet for good. Instead the Law of Attraction is bringing you more of what you don’t want.

Ask yourself, “Why do I feel the need to disapprove of that person, situation or thing?”
Some people think that the only way they can feel better is to tear others’ down. It makes them feel superior to the ones they’re judging. It means that their inner critic is incredibly strong, and they thrust their own feelings of inadequacy on others’s to achieve some relief from judging themselves. If this is the case, then you might want to work on your sense of self-worth. List the ways that you criticize yourself, and begin to respond to those statements in a more supportive way.

Is the situation one that truly needs changing?
Sometimes you need to recognize and acknowledge the 800 pound gorilla in the room before you can decide what to do about it. You don’t need to direct hostility towards the gorilla, though. That just perpetuates the situation by continuing to passively observe and judge. Instead, use that energy to be pro-active and determine what you need to do to make it better.

Put yourself on a criticism diet.
No matter how tempting, don’t criticize, condemn, judge, or disapprove of others’ statements or actions, or situations or conditions in your life. This helps you become aware of how much you do it, and guides you toward avoiding it altogether.

Find one thing to appreciate about the person or situation.
To paraphrase what your mother said, “Find one good thing to say about them.” If you’re stuck in traffic, you can appreciate that you’re having time to relax and take deep breaths. Suppose your boss yells at you, give thanks that at least you still have a job. What is one thing that you like or can value about the person or condition?

As you stop criticizing others and condemning situations, you’ll notice that your life starts to brighten. Finding something good about it gives the Universe, and your subconscious,  the intention to bring something beneficial into your life. The Law of Attraction works whether it’s negative or positive. Make the choice to put it to work in a much more beneficial way for you.

Affirmation

I know that the Universe attracts to me that which I focus upon. Therefore, I now place my attention on positive, uplifting and generous ideas. Whenever I’m tempted to criticize someone, condemn a situation in my life, or judge myself, I say to myself, “Stop that.” Immediately, I find something good, positive, or valuable in it. In doing so, I am directing my creative mind to attract more Universal good into my life.

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Optimist’s Live Longer

Optimist’s Live Longer

Last month, at the American Psychosomatic Society’s annual meeting, a research study was presented that showed that optimistic women had a considerably lower risk of death, from any cause, than pessimistic women. The study consisted of almost 100,000 women over 8 years, it was found that those women who had an optimistic viewpoint lowered their risk of death by 14 percent than those women who were pessimistic. Men weren’t studied, so it’s uncertain whether the benefits would be as great for them.

Read the full story at Trust Me-The Glass Is Half Full.

How Long Do I Use Affirmations?

How Long Do I Use Affirmations?

Question: When I’m working with an affirmation, do I have to repeat it for the rest of my life?

Answer: Yes and no. Isn’t that specific? When you begin to use an affirmation, you are working with it to change your mental beliefs. You aren’t changing the Universe’s mind about you, what you want, or whether the Universe feels you deserve it. The answer to all of those questions, from the Universe’s perspective is “yes.” The only mind you have to change to accept what your affirmation is about is yours. The affirmation is to counteract the beliefs and attitudes that have restricted what you’ve wanted.

You are always affirming. Sometimes your affirmation is “I can’t.” If that’s what you believe, then that’s what you get. When you affirm, “I can,” you are beginning to flood the “I cannot’s” out of your mind. When you no longer ever think “I can’t,” and always think “I can,” then the affirmation has served its purpose. You will be experiencing what you began to use the affirmation for. So you can stop deliberately saying the affirmation.

However, when you totally believe in affirmation asserts, then your automatic response to yourself in any situation will be “I can.” Remember, you’re always affirming something to yourself. So the answer is also, “yes,” you will use your affirmation for the rest of your life. Because it will have become a part of you.

Originally published in “The Cedarfire Newsletter,” September 2000.

Copyright 2000 Linda Ann Stewart
All Rights Reserved

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Blessing The Disappointments

Blessing The Disappointments

Last week, I had a day of disappointments. First, a package that I was eagerly awaiting went missing at the post office when I went to pick it up. Somehow, they’d misplaced it. They took my phone number, saying they’d call when they found it.

Second, a teleseminar that I was really looking forward to was postponed due to unforeseen circumstances. They postponed it a week. However, that means I can’t attend the teleseminar live since I have clients that day. I can still get the audio of the call, but I’d wanted to be on the call in case I’d had any questions.

When I learned of the teleseminar postponement, I decided to bless the circumstances. “Something good is going to come out of this,” I said as I slammed a cabinet door. And it did. Someone from the post office called to say the missing package had been found. The time they called was what would have been ten minutes into the teleseminar. If I’d been on that call, I wouldn’t have gotten that package for at least another couple of days.

All in all, everything worked out, though not in the way I would have wished. For a second time that day, I drove back to the post office and picked up the package. But at least I got it, and I will be able to listen to the content of the teleseminar. The whole situation could have turned out much worse. It’s just another reminder to me to bless each seeming disappointing or upsetting circumstance. That gives the Universe and the subconscious mind direction to bring something good from it.

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Book Review – “Do What You Love, The Money Will Follow”

Book Review – “Do What You Love, The Money Will Follow”

Do What You Love, The Money Will Follow
by Marsha Sinetar

This is a wonderful book about choosing to follow your dream. It addresses many other issues besides just allowing more money to flow into your life. This book is all about creativity, in its myriad of forms. Self-esteem is essential to believing in yourself, and believing in yourself is necessary to success in life.

Whether you desire more success in your career, or better relationships with others, this book discusses how your relationship with yourself affects every aspect of your life. Exploring why and how you might hold yourself back, this book gives new insights and ways of dealing with those limitations.

The Synchronicity of Darwin and Lincoln

The Synchronicity of Darwin and Lincoln

I just discovered that today is the anniversary of both Charles Darwin and Abraham Lincoln’s 200th birthday. Two men, ahead of their time, who had such an impact on the United States and the world, share the day they were born.

And they have more similarities than simply their birthday. They both lost their mother’s early in life, suffered from depression, religious doubt, had a strained relationship with their fathers, lost children (which wasn’t so unusual in those days), and struggled with finding their careers until their thirties.

Their decisions, ideas and insights completely changed the world they lived in. I wonder at the synchronicity that had these two revolutionary men, born in separate countries on the same day with so much in common.

Dr. Terry Cole-Whittaker In Sedona, AZ

Dr. Terry Cole-Whittaker In Sedona, AZ

Dr. Terry Cole-WhittakerThe Sedona Church of Religious Science sponsors Dr. Terry Cole-Whittaker March 6-8, 2009 for the weekend seminar: “A Spirit of Opulence.”

Some of Dr. Terry’s students are the Who’s Who of entrepreneurs, teachers, speakers, musicians, and educators. She has authored 5 best-selling books, including: “What You Think Of Me Is None Of My Business” and her newest, “Creating Your Destiny-A remarkable Guide To Making Decisions That Give You Happiness and Prosperity.”

Attend these seminars to:
Be free of worry, fear and stress and live joyfully. Walking in the Spirit. Receive gifts and money through expected and unexpected ways. Know your life’s work and prosper from doing what you love. Gain the home, mate, money, success, prosperity and life you deserve.

Seminar Topics:

“The Ultimate Prosperity Program” – Saturday, March 7, 9am-12pm
“A Spirit of Opulence” (co-facilitated with Dr. Terry and Rev. StanleyOtterstrom, minister of the Sedona Church of Religious Science) -Saturday, March 7, 1:30pm-4pm
“8 Steps to Spiritual and Material Riches” – Sunday, March 8, 1pm-4pm

Friday Sunset Reception with Dr. Terry: $60 in advance
Price for Saturday: $75 in advance, $99 at the door
Price for Sunday: $45 in advance, $55 at the door
Three Seminar Package: $110 in advance
VIP Package (Friday evening sunset reception with Dr. Terry and all seminars): $155 in advance

Held at Sedona Creative Life Center, 333 Schnebly Hill Rd., Sedona, AZ

For more information or to register: visit
www.ASpiritOfOpulence. com or call (928) 282-1446.

Changing Attitudes About Missed Opportunities

Changing Attitudes About Missed Opportunities

This past month, I’ve had several opportunities that have fallen into my lap, only to evaporate at the last second. It’s been highly frustrating. In the last one, even as I was upset at the apparent loss, I made the conscious decision to bless the situation, and affirm that something better would show up in its place. And it did. I discovered something that was better suited for my purposes.

I know many people are suffering through the challenge of had economic times. However, consider changing your attitude from one of resistance and fear, to blessing the situation and knowing that you’ll be guided to what is for your Highest Good and abundance. It’s a tough concept to work with, but it gives your creative mind the instruction to seek something better for you.

Contemplating The Delight Of Modern Conveniences

Contemplating The Delight Of Modern Conveniences

I just passed the first anniversary of moving from the house I lived in for over twenty-five years in rural area near Sedona, Arizona. Throughout those years, because of the remoteness, I dealt with numerous challenges. Our rough dirt road dipped through a dry wash that would fill when it rained and prevent us from fording it. We had a fireplace that was our primary source of heat. Over the years, I carried dozens of cords of wood up steps into the house.

Another quirk of the area was that the electricity would fail out occasionally, from thunderstorms, a truck knocking over a power pole, or a squirrel getting up close and personal with a transformer. When that happened, of course, there was no heating (other than our fireplace) or cooling, and none of the conveniences of modern life that we’re accustomed to.

What was even more difficult was when the water stopped flowing. We were on a community well that had various problems. Twice it went dry, and our community had to dig a deeper well each time. For many of those years, the circuit breaker that allowed the electric current to power the pump would overload, and would switch off. As soon as the water tank went dry, our house, being high on the hill, was one of the first to become aware of that fact. Being without electricity is annoying, but being without water is upsetting. Our contemporary houses have no ability to compensate for no water, short of trucking it in.

Now that I’m living in a modern house, with central air conditioning and heating, living on a paved road, within walking distance of grocery stores, I’m finding life much easier. One of the lessons I learned from those years in rural Arizona was to be thankful for the most basic of modern conveniences. Things that most people take for granted, I’m grateful for. Being able to just turn up the heat, drive to my destination without worrying about whether the water in the wash is too high for me to leave, have water on demand and without worry is such a gift.

I no longer have to be on guard because at any moment something I counted on will be gone and I’ll have to make adjustments or alternative plans. And although I loved that area and my life there, I’m finding it enjoyable to put my energy into moving forward, rather than just trying to overcome the struggle.

Book Review – “Psycho-Cybernetics”

Book Review – “Psycho-Cybernetics”

Psycho-Cybernetics
by Maxwell Maltz

When I was a teenager, my mother tried to get me to read this book. Because I was a bit rebellious, I refused to comply. Some years ago, I finally picked this book up, and read it. I then used it to repeatedly hit myself over the head (gently), saying “I wish I’d read this when I was a teenager.”

This is a great book to explain how the subconscious mind works, and how our success mechanism works. It is a classic that never gets outdated. The author was a plastic surgeon who used what he called “self-image psychology” with some of his patients. You may have already read this book. If you have, I encourage you to pick it up again.