Be Careful of First Impressions

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Feb 122020
 

Within a few moments, you assess whether someone is authentic or not. But the first impression you get of someone could be misleading, and it’s hard to overcome. It’s human nature to want your assessment to be proved right. But not paying attention to signals that contradict your impression can lead to heartache.

Transcript:

Thank you for joining me. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart and I’d like to share a tip about first impressions and how they can be misleading.

Recently, I listened to a podcast interview of a business coach. From his description and promotional materials, I was already inclined to like him. But as he spoke, I felt there was something off. His actions didn’t line up with what he said his values were. As a result, I didn’t trust him.

Have you ever felt that way about someone? That they weren’t really authentic? You’re able to tell when someone is authentic or inauthentic within a few seconds. Your subconscious mind assesses body language, tonality, verbiage, etc. and decides whether a person is trustworthy or not. It’s good to trust your intuition about people.

But sometimes, your intuition can lead you astray. If you decide you like someone, your mind creates a filter and only recognizes the statements, actions and ideas that confirm your assessment. That’s how first impressions can be misleading, and they can be difficult to change.

Even if that person does things that are in direct opposition to your impression of them, your mind will discard the things that contradict your feelings. This is how you get fooled by people who then take advantage of you. It’s hard to accept, isn’t it? It was for me.

It’s human nature to not want your assessment to be proved wrong. For instance, if that person frequently tells you that they have your back, despite evidence to the contrary, you’ll believe what they say. For awhile. But eventually, the truth will out. You’ll begin to compare their words to their deeds. You’ll recognize that their words and deeds aren’t consistent. It’s challenging your first impression, and you’ll eventually change it.

Emerson said, “What you do speaks so loudly I can’t hear what you say.” The tip today is after your first impression of someone, watch to see if their actions are in alignment with what they say. Don’t just accept your intuition. Look to confirm or contradict it. Doing this helps to fine tune your instincts and your intuition. It will help it be more reliable.

Now, it takes some effort to pay attention, certainly more than just going with your first impression. But the effort is worth it, because it will save you from being taken advantage of at some point. It will save you heartache. I know this from personal experience.

I learned to do this from many, many bad experiences where I was fooled by what a person said. Despite their behaviors that denied what they said, I believed their words. Eventually, I figured out that I needed to evaluate their actions and compare them to what they said. It was a hard lesson.

If I’d gone by first impressions with this business coach, I would have been fooled by him. But because of what I’d learned, I was able to recognize that he wasn’t the person he wanted people to believe he was. How can you start doing this for yourself?

If you’d to achieve a 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www. Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You’ll receive the blueprint, as well as tips and directions to support you in accomplishing your goal. Thank you for watching. My wish for you is to listen to your intuition, while you also pay  attention to what a person does. Take care.

Guided Meditation to Create Your Ideal Life

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Feb 052020
 

What would your ideal life be for you? Once you decide what that is, you can create a plan to achieve it. Taking steps each day towards your vision will mean that you will achieve it. Use this meditation to imagine what your life would be like and rehearse your next steps. This will make it easier to follow through on them and accomplish your vision one step at a time.

Thank you for joining me. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart, and I’d like to share a meditation with you to help you create your ideal life.

First, do you know what your dream life would be for you? Think about what would be reasonable and within your control to achieve. Once you’ve gotten an idea of what that would be, develop your vision for it. A vision is important as a guide and to help you stay on course.

Your vision may be several months or years ahead, and it’s hard to work towards something that far away. So just think about the next 90 days. What specific actions can you take towards your vision and achieve within the next 3 months?

Now, let’s do a short guided imagery for it.

If you want, close your eyes. And imagine far into the future, that you’ve accomplished the vision you’ve created. How do you feel living it? How are you acting? How have things changed from when you first thought about it? Are there new beliefs, attitudes or habits you’ve developed along the way? Allow yourself to feel joyful at having reached your vision.

Now, return to today. Imagine your vision in the distance. And now imagine the next 90 days. How much of your vision can you reasonably achieve within that time frame? What small actions can you take in the next week, month, and the month after that to step in the direction of your vision?

Imagine yourself taking your next action steps. Consider how it will feel to have completed them. Commit yourself to taking them. What can you do today and tomorrow that will take you in that direction? Every step that you take brings you closer to your goal.

Open your eyes. When you mentally imagine and rehearse your actions, it makes it easier to follow through with them in the real world. Write down your immediate actions and decide when and how you’re going to take them. Be specific. As they say, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”

If you’d to achieve your 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint. You’ll receive the blueprint, as well as tips and directions about the 4 vital areas that support you in you in accomplishing your goal. Thank you for watching. I know you can begin fulfilling your vision by taking steps towards it each day. What action step are you willing to take today?

Read the accompanying article, How to Manifest Your Ideal Life.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. To achieve a 90-day goal more easily, sign up for her FREE comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You can contact her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com or 928-600-0452.

3 Steps To Achieve Your Goals

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Jul 162013
 

You’ve heard the phrase, “Where attention goes, energy flows.” The more attention you give a goal, the more energy it gains. Learn 3 steps to direct your attention so that it results in actions that will create the outcome you want.



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Napoleon Hill “Think and Grow Rich” #7 – Positive Mental Attitude

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Jul 142013
 

In this rare video, Napoleon Hill, author of “Think and Grow Rich,” talks about how to keep a positive mental attitude. It can clear any obstacles that are in your way. He gives 20 detailed and valuable tips on how to keep your mind positive. These are specific instructions that he never wrote about in any of his books. If you follow his directions, you will transform your life.



~ Linda-Ann Stewart