Sep 122018
 

A lot of people have a strong inner critic that tears them down, no matter what they do. Instead of helping you, this can undermine your confidence and motivation. To combat this critical inner voice, build yourself up by appreciating yourself and what you do. Linda-Ann will share some specific tips that will cause you to feel better about yourself and accomplish more.



Transcript:

Thank you for joining me. I’m LAS. A lot of people have a strong inner critic. Do you? It’s a part of you who is always criticizing you and everything you do… or don’t do. It tells you that you’re not good enough, not doing enough, not accomplishing enough… just not enough.

Many of my clients have said that they just didn’t feel like they were enough. That was the way they put it, “I don’t feel like I’m enough.” Have you ever felt that way? You may think that always criticizing yourself can push you to do more, but the opposite is, in fact, true. It can actually sabotage you because it undermines your confidence and motivation. I mean, why try when it’s never enough, right?

Today, I want to give you some specific ways you can respond to the constant criticism you hear from yourself. These tips help to shift your attention to something more positive and build you up rather than tear you down. It’s something I do with my clients, both in my coaching and hypnotherapy practice.

Linda-Ann Stewart of Heartvision Consulting, vision strategist. Using my 30 years of experience as a hypnotherapist, I help women business owners and entrepreneurs align their heart with their vision, chart their course and focus on the strategies that will bring them greater success and prosperity on their terms.

When we talk, I urge them to pay attention to what has changed or improved since our last session. To what they have accomplished. Many of them first tell me nothing is different. But as they talk, they realize just how much has changed and what they have accomplished.

We focus on their progress, and by doing so, are able to build on it. It’s a simple technique of acknowledging what they’ve done, instead of focusing on what they haven’t done. When you focus on what you HAVE done, then you’re motivated to do more. You build up momentum, because you’re feeling successful. And success breeds success.

For instance, I once had a friend, Laura, who used this technique of acknowledging what she’d done. She had a strong inner critic that paralyzed her. Do you ever feel that way? She discovered a way to combat that inner critic. She’d acknowledge her small wins each day. In her journal, she’d list that she’d eaten breakfast, fed the dog, washed her dishes, etc.

These are all daily tasks that had to be done each day, right? And you might wonder why she’d write down these daily tasks shortly after she got up. But it made her feel like she’d accomplished something. It triggered the reward circuit in her brain and released pleasure chemicals into her body. It energized her to keep going and do more. It got her out of the paralysis. Sounds good, right?

I’m sure you’ve heard of a gratitude journal, where you write down things that you’re grateful for each day. Some research is now showing that doing the same thing with your accomplishments, no matter how small, can turn your mood around and make you feel more motivated. It can make you feel like you’re good enough, just like when my clients would start to acknowledge their changes. Acknowledging 3 small wins each day for 7 days can lift your self-esteem for 3 months. Wouldn’t that be great? And it’s simple to do.

Just make a commitment to recognize what you’ve done during the day. It can be in a journal form, or on your phone or calendar. You can acknowledge small achievements, like my friend Laura did, or bigger ones. But don’t just limit this to your accomplishments. Also recognize when you’ve made a small step forward. Not just that you’ve finished a project, but that you’ve worked on a small part of it. Give yourself credit for your effort, not just the results. What can you acknowledge yourself for today?

For instance, acknowledge when you declined that donut, or only had one bite of it, or had a salad for lunch. When you balanced your checkbook or paid down your credit card. Or when you made that one follow up call you’d been dreading. All of these are valid actions to celebrate.

Other items you can appreciate about yourself are your strengths, your values, and your talents. For instance, you are consistent in sending out an ezine every month. That’s something to acknowledge. Or when you fulfill a promise, to yourself or someone else, like being on time for a lunch date. Or if you’ve been wanting to draw, and finally put a pencil to paper, that’s something to be proud of.

When you begin to focus on what’s good about you and what you do, instead of what’s negative, you’ll feel better about yourself. You’re praising yourself for being who you are in your life. You’ll feel like you’re making progress, which is important. Because progress means you’re moving forward. It’s encouraging and inspiring. And isn’t that a better way to motivate yourself?

If you’d like some help in achieving your goals, apply for a complimentary Clarify Your Vision coaching consultation.

Thank you for watching. I hope to hear from you that acknowledging yourself has made you feel more motivated and enough. Take care.

Read the accompanying article, 3 Reasons to Acknowledge and Appreciate Yourself.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml
Sep 102018
 

Sparks of Insight“My creative mind knows how to manifest my health, wealth and success in just the right way to benefit me in all ways. The next step to these now unfolds in my life, and I recognize it when it appears.”

Your subconscious mind has access to the Universal Mind, and has everything you need to create a wonderful life for you. But you need to believe that it can and will do it with your direction. If you feel your subconscious is limited in its abilities and doesn’t know what to do to manifest your desires, then it will follow your command. Trust that it has all the information, wisdom and power, from its connection with the Universe, to bring you all that you want.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Aug 242018
 

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Don’t Let Distractions Crush Your Dreams

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Aug 102018
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

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I recently had lunch with a friend, Mary, who makes jewelry. Her work is in stores and online, and has begun to get popular. But, as with many creative entrepreneurs, she’s having trouble with loved ones who don’t take her business seriously. She struggles with balancing her work with the expectations of her extended family.

Because she doesn’t have a 9 to 5 job, her family assumes that she’ll be available whenever they want. They don’t respect her work time because she hasn’t insisted that they do. She’s put their desires above her interests. Her message to them and to her subconscious is that her work and priorities aren’t that important. As a result, she’s trained her subconscious and the Law of Attraction to not only accept the interruption to her work, but to attract other interference.

Have you ever noticed that as you’re expanding and changing, you have a lot more distractions? They seem to pop up out of nowhere, and keep getting in the way of what you want to accomplish. If you succumb to them, they’ll sabotage your priorities. But it’s a natural part of the change process. The Universe isn’t testing you. It’s your subconscious testing you to see if you really are dedicated to your dream. The subconscious is also trying to keep you in your comfort zone.

I was amazed at how many of my smoking cessation hypnotherapy clients would experience unexpected stressful situations when they quit smoking. It was their subconscious throwing up road blocks to their goal. The severity of their problems was in direct proportion to the amount of ambivalence they had to becoming an ex-smoker. If they weren’t committed to quitting, they backslid and gave up. The distraction was an excuse for them to continue smoking.

Sometimes the subconscious will know you really don’t want to face a task, and your concentration is disturbed. For instance, you need to get the budget done. But you receive a phone call about an insignificant matter that pulls you away from it. You could have let the call go to voicemail, but welcomed the interruption. That’s the subconscious trying to help you avoid what it knows you don’t want to do.

The main purpose of the subconscious is to keep you safe, even if it means keeping you from doing what you want. It sees any change as a threat. If you allow yourself to get off track, the subconscious will get the message that you want to stay off course. And it will begin to seek out new ways to detour you.

However, if you push the distractions aside and persist with your priorities, there will be fewer disturbances. Your subconscious will get more comfortable and will help you move towards your goal. Your priorities are important. The Universe and Your subconscious will support you as you support yourself. When you respect your own priorities above what anyone else wants from you, you’re instructing your subconscious to respect your interests, too.

Mary decided to make appointments with herself to work, and keep them no matter what. She wanted to make sure nothing got in the way of that time with her jewelry. This will convince her subconscious that she’s committed to her work, and her inner mind will start to support her by reducing distractions. When she recognizes the validity of her business, she’ll be able to stand up for her priorities. As a result, she’ll create boundaries and insist that others recognize them.

Is there some goal or dream you want? If so, set it as a priority. Work towards your goal and don’t let anything get in the way. You can attend to other people’s wishes after you’ve satisfied your priorities. But your priorities come first. How can you respect your priorities and stand up for them? When you figure that out, and act on it, your path to achieving your dream will get easier.

Affirmation:

The Universe supports me as I support myself in the pursuit of my dream. I deserve it, and I respect my time and efforts. I realize that other people may have desires of their own, but I put my well being and interests first. I fulfill my priorities first, then I can address the desires of others.

Watch the video that accompanies this article, Making Your Priorities Important.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml

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Sparks of Insight

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Sparks of InsightAre you more comfortable with failing or being a success? Many people actually unconsciously sabotage their success because it feels strange, unfamiliar and sometimes even scary. I’ve heard it said that it’s harder to fail than to succeed, since we’re born to achieve. If you’ve haven’t been accomplishing what you want, then you’re denying the Universe Its full expression. You were created to allow It to flow through you in abundance.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Jul 052018
 

succcess-goldkey_84055-smI’m sure you’ve heard the computer adage, “Garbage in, garbage out.” This means that the machine will operate on whatever data you program into it, whether it’s good or bad, correct or incorrect. The computer will use that information and your result will be based on it. If it’s valid and accurate information, you’ll get a correct outcome. However, if you’ve entered bad data, it will give you a flawed product. It all depends on what the operator (you) feeds into the computer.

The same can be said of your mind. Your mind operates on the ideas you load into it, from the past or present. If you are functioning on false information, you’re going to get outcomes you don’t want. Unless your mental programming supports your goals, vision and dreams, you’re going to undermine your success. Because the Law of Attraction acts on that information, drawing to you want you’ve accepted as true.

The good news is that you can change your programming. You’re always reinforcing commands in your mind by the beliefs you’ve accepted, the attitudes you’ve developed and the statements you say to yourself each day. Your subconscious (your mental computer) and the Law of Attraction act on your beliefs and bring them into a reality in your life. But your subconscious and the Law of Attraction must follow what your conscious mind decides. When your conscious mind makes a new choice and follows through on it, your subconscious and the Law of Attraction must comply and attract the equivalent.

Follow these steps to program yourself for success:

1. Change your beliefs. Are you programming yourself for what you want or what you don’t want? If you aren’t getting the results you want, assess what your beliefs about it might be. You can change your beliefs, because they’re only ideas that you’ve focused on so long that they’ve gotten to be habits. And you know you can change a habit, right? What belief do you need to have to get the outcome you want?

2. Use auto-suggestion. Every day, you’re giving yourself suggestions that impress your subconscious mind and the Law of Attraction. It They then seeks out opportunities to make the suggestions true. Once you’ve recognized what belief you need to have, write an auto-suggestion for it, in the second or third person positive. Such as an old favorite, “Every day, in every way, you’re getting better and better.” Or, “Every day, in every way, [your name] is getting better and better.” Repeat your statement out loud for a minimum of 5 minutes every day. Or repeat it to yourself as you’re going to sleep at night. Or both.

3. Use visualization. Many people think that visualization is like seeing something on a movie screen. That’s a fallacy. Imagine what your living room looks like. That’s the way you’ll experience visualization. Imagine your acting on any steps towards your goal or dream. This is like a mental rehearsal and imprints your desires on your subconscious and Law of Attraction. Then imagine that your goal or dream is accomplished and how it makes you feel. You can do this at the same time as you’re using auto-suggestion. It instructs your subconscious mind and Law of Attraction to find ways to fulfill your desires.

4. Focus on your vision.
Keep your attention on your intention. When you do, your actions will follow. And this helps you avoid getting distracted. If you do find yourself getting sidetracked, just get refocused and keep moving. Setbacks are normal. Don’t get discouraged. They give you valuable feedback on what you need to do to correct your course and keep moving forward.

Reprogramming your mind takes commitment and persistence. You’re having to change the course of the stream of your thoughts. You’ll have to move rocks (beliefs) and earth (thoughts) to metaphorically create a new channel. But it can be done as long as you’re determined to succeed.

Affirmation:

The Universe completely supports my endeavors, wanting me to have the best. I accept that I deserve the best and have the ability to create it through the power of my Higher Mind. By keeping my mind focused on my dream and desire, I provide the channel through which the Universe sends my good to me.

Watch the accompanying video, Tips on How to Program Yourself to Be Positive.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml

Sparks of Insight

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Jul 022018
 

Sparks of Insight“It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect it’s successful outcome.” – William James

If you begin a project with that belief that it’s going to fail, guess what? It probably will. However, if at the start of the process, you have the attitude that success is a strong possibility, if not probability, and that you’re going to do whatever you have to bring it about, then you have a very good chance of being successful. At the beginning of any change, project, or task, check your negative attitude at the door. It doesn’t pay to carry it forward.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart