Knowing My Values Has Filled up the Long-Existed Missing Gap in My Life
Your values are an important piece of who you are. But few people can articulate what they are. Values affect your decisions, your actions and what fulfills you, without your being aware of it. When you know your values, you can choose your decisions to support them. This article gives instructions on how to find your values and live by them.
9 Difficult Decisions the Happiest People Always Get Right
You’re about as happy as you decide to be. One way to be happier is to do the right thing. Many people will take the easy way out, but this leads to a lack of self-respect. Instead, make decisions and follow through on them. Here are nine decisions to make that will make you happier in the long run.
How to Develop Trust through Self-Trust
Self-trust is a major component of your success. When you have it, you have a good relationship with yourself. You also have credibility with yourself. This article covers the four core building blocks to self-trust. Cultivate this trait and you’ll notice a rise in your self-respect and self-esteem.
Many people grow up in dysfunctional families that have caused them to feel ashamed of natural needs, desires, and sometimes of just being. This results in their not feeling worthy, effective, or mattering. Healing The Shame That Binds You not only addresses the core issues behind the toxic shame that people feel, explains how it formed and where it comes from, it also gives valuable direction on how to heal it.
Most of us have been exposed to some sort of toxic shame, and carry it with us. This shame prevents us from living up to our potential, accepting ourselves, and accepting all the good Life has to offer us. The author examines these issues, to give the reader a deep understanding on how shame formed, different ways it manifests (such as panic attacks, addictions, and compulsions), and steps to take to resolve the problem.
This book isn’t just one of theory and information. It includes meditations, exercises, new behaviors to practice, and affirmations. Different methods of healing are explained and demonstrated. Anyone who grew up in a dysfunctional home, or who absorbed a sense of shame would benefit from reading this valuable source.
Are Our Workplaces Getting Ruder?
Rudeness, disrespect or insensitive behavior at work affects job performance in a major way, and its incidence is increasing. It harms your relationships and your mental and physical health. But incivility doesn’t just impact us at work. We experience it in our private lives, too. This article gives 4 suggestions on how to deal with the issue at work. But these approaches can also be used in other areas of our lives.
5 Practical Steps to Stop Procrastination for Good
If you’re a procrastinator, you tend to delay acting until a deadline is looming. Unfortunately, that generally means you do sub-par work and never live up to your potential. This article, paraphrasing a TED Talk on the subject, gives a clever metaphor for what happens in a procrastinators brain. It also gives 5 steps to derail procrastination and a link to the TED Talk the author mentions.
Three Ways to Put A Positive Spin on (Almost) Anything
We know that research has shown that being positive is good for the mind and body. But there are just times when stuff happens, and it becomes incredibly difficult. The author of this article experienced such a period. She got through it by using 3 strategies. They’re ones that I’ve used for many decades and teach my clients. They work and are proven to improve your mood and attitude in a short time.
Do you have personality traits that you’re rejecting by trying to fit yourself into a mold that works for others, especially in your career? If so, you’re going to be wasting energy and not being as productive as you could be. Accepting yourself and working with your characteristics will make you much happier and more successful.
Do you have natural characteristics that involves your work life, that you’re fighting against?
I’m not talking about procrastination or perfectionism, which are learned traits. But what natural characteristics are you trying to repress them to fit into what everyone else expects from you? When you do, it’s a form of self-rejection. Not only does it erode your self-esteem, but it reduces your effectiveness.
For instance, years ago, I took a creative writing class that met at 9am every Thursday. I’m not at my peak at that time. I’m functional at best. A group of us from the class formed an organization to sponsor what became an international writing contest. I was secretary of the group and took notes at our meetings. One day, the president suggested we meet at 8am. I’m not a morning person. The person who sat next to me in class said, “Don’t do that to Linda-Ann. Haven’t you noticed that she doesn’t mentally join the class and start participating until 10am?” We all laughed, and because it was true, the president set the meeting at 10am.
How about you? Is there a personality trait you have that you’re fighting against? Are you trying to fit into someone else’s mold? I know that there are times it’s unavoidable. But if you are, you’re wasting your time and energy. They could be better used to accepting your idiosyncrasies and viewing them as your strengths. In other words, you know how to optimize your productivity.
For example, do you work best listening to music? How can you do that in a way that doesn’t affect others? Do you prefer to work in groups? What about teams? Maybe you can find a partner or partners to bounce ideas off of, so you can collaborate with them and have a sense of camaraderie.
When you’re able to honor your personality traits, you build a sense of self-trust and feel better about yourself. What are your idiosyncrasies? How can you accept and adjust them to fit into your work? When you’re able to do this, not only will you be more productive and successful, and be a whole lot happier.
3 Ways Gratitude leads to Positive Impact in Your Life
More and more research studies are finding that gratitude benefits your health, career and realationships. Although this article says it shows 3 ways it impacts your life, it actually addresses 9 ways. It also includes instructions on how to begin to bring these benefits into your life now.
You Can Change Your Mind
There is one thing that you have complete control over, and that’s what you think. Recognizing that you have this power, and that when you use it to shift to something more positive, impacts your life. When you change your mind, the world you experience changes, as well.
19 Ways to Conquer Low Self Esteem: 19 Influencers Chime in
Unfortunately, all too many people suffer with low self-esteem. The author sent a question to 19 people, and received powerful answers in response. If you experience low self-esteem, one of these answers may just help you to break through it.
Make Someone Else’s Day, and 3 Other Ways to De-Stress
Unfortunately, we live in a highly stressed world and many are just trying to survive. Although it’s important to be effective at your job, it doesn’t have to impair your mental, emotional and physical well being. This article suggests 4 ways to reduce your stress and improve your happiness.
Signs Of Low Self-Esteem And The Root Causes You Might Not Know
People with low self-esteem tend to be over-critical of themselves. And many people have this problem and don’t know it. This article gives some symptoms, so you can assess if you suffer from it. Only by becoming aware of the issue can you start to remedy it.
5 Ways To Stop Doubting Yourself
Self-doubt destroys reaching for your dream. It holds you back and can undermine you in ways you’re not aware of. You make excuses or avoid challenges. The opposite of self-doubt is self-confidence. This articles gives ways to eliminate self-doubt and regain your confidence so you can attain your dreams.
This month, our phone service went down before noon the day before I held my teleclass, Vision Secrets to Accelerate Your Success on August 10th. Both landline and cell services were unavailable throughout the region.
Workers on a local road construction had cut a major fiber optic cable. Fortunately, I still had internet service, since it didn’t run on that cable. For that I was very grateful, because many in the area weren’t as fortunate.
This is not the best thing that could happen the day before holding a teleclass. I choose to use a teleconference line for my classes, rather than a webinar service, because our internet service in rural Arizona can be unreliable. It was ironic that the generally reliable service I’d chosen to use was down for the count.
After a few moments of panic, I remembered that I had a ‘Plan B.’ My teleconference service has a webcall, or VoIP, option. So if the phone company didn’t get the cable fixed, I could use that. Not a great solution, but at least I could hold the call.
Fortunately, they were able to fix the cable about 12 hours after it was cut. So I was able to hold the call as I’d first planned. The teleclass went smoothly and harmoniously, and I breathed a big sigh of relief.
Life doesn’t always go as planned. Sometimes there are bumps, and you don’t know why. When this happens, you can get upset, get angry, and waste your energy. Or you can work to figure out what your options are and how you can continue to move forward. How can you make that shift quicker in your life?
3 Quick Tricks to Networking for People Who Hate Networking
Networking is a necessary evil for those who are in public relations, own a small business or others. It can be uncomfortable, frustrating and many times fruitless. This video gives some great tips on how to connect more easily and benefit from these events.
How to Program Your Mind to Kick the Bad Habit
Bad habits not only hold us back, but cause us to lose self-respect. But it’s hard to deal with the pain and discomfort of changing the habit, so we keep doing it. Breaking a bad habit can be done, but you have to prepare and plan for it. This article gives 3 great tips on how to start that process and be successful at it.
Why too much choice is stressing us out
Choice is supposed to be beneficial, so we have freedom and autonomy. But realistically, when we have too many choices, it becomes too hard to decide. And many times, we choose not to choose. And when we do, we’re less satisfied. This affects us in our grocery and clothes shopping, as well as when we use dating sites.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
How to Stop Spinning Your Wheels
We all spin our wheels at some time or other. Either we get stuck in a feedback loop of being upset, or we repeat actions that don’t get us the results we want. This article focuses on the spinning we do when we’re upset, but the suggestions can also work to get us better outcomes in general.
How to to Stop Receiving Offensive Criticism
Everyone has experienced criticism (sometimes unsolicited) that goes over the line into rudeness and beyond. This article is more about how to ask for an opinion in a way that doesn’t open you up for criticism that goes too far. Learn how to ask questions to get helpful feedback and how to handle once you get it.
12 Habits of Genuine People
Genuine people know who they are. They are confident enough to be comfortable in their own skin. People who are genuine walk their talk and inspire trust. These 12 characteristics can help you determine whether someone is actually genuine and authentic.
Why We Should Be Having More Meaningful Conversations
Introverts hate small talk. They prefer to dive into deep conversations. Research is now verifying that deep discussions are good for you, making you happier. If you have trouble having meaningful discussions, this article gives you some direction on how to initiate them.
Why Keeping a Daily Journal Could Change Your Life
Journaling gives you powerful access to your creativity and being able to find solutions. Research shows that it can improve your health and well being. This article focuses on how to use it to organize and streamline your day for maximum efficiency. But the writer also goes into many of the other benefits that keeping a journal brings.