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9 Mindset Shifts That Will Help You Live Your Dream Life

Mindset is at the core of every success and blocks that you might have. It affects how you perceive the world and whether you feel capable of overcoming obstacles. You believe what you tell yourself and then act on those beliefs. To align your beliefs with your desired outcomes, use these strategies to shift your attitudes.

8 Strategies to Manage Overwhelming Feelings

When you feel overwhelmed, your mind shuts down and you can feel paralyzed. So you deal with what’s immediate, or escape to watch cat videos. Instead, use tactics such as taking a walk, breathing or gratitude. If those don’t work, try these tips to keep calm and carry on.

9 Signs You’re Dealing With an Emotional Manipulator

Emotional manipulators defy logic. They derive satisfaction from controlling you and creating chaos. They can cause you to doubt yourself and destroy your self-esteem. But you can learn how to spot them. When you do, trust yourself and stay away from them. They don’t want to be a positive force in your life.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sparks of Insight

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Jul 132020
 
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“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” –  Thomas S. Szasz, Professor of Psychiatry

Forgiving and then forgetting means that you don’t learn from the situation. You have no memory to warn you if the same situation is happening again. To best honor yourself, you can forgive the person, but remember their offense. This way, if you begin to notice a pattern, you can then decide what you need to do from a stronger position.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Podcast Interview-Breakthrough & Thrive Summit

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Jun 162020
 

Last month, I was interviewed for Jamie Lynn Warber’s  Breakthrough & Thrive – Awaken Your Voice Summit. The summit empowered sexual abuse and trauma survivors to take charge of their power, healing and happiness. Jamie and I were connected through another podcast host and I jumped at the chance to reach these women with my message.

As a hypnotherapist and coach for 30 years, I’ve helped many sexual abuse survivors achieve their goals. Whether to heal from the trauma, break habits or improve their life, I discovered that they needed to improve their self-esteem to be successful. They had to come to realize that they deserved success before they could achieve it.

These women and this subject are very dear to my heart, as it is to Jamie Lynn’s, who is a sexual abuse survivor. She shared some of her story, which was touching and brave of her.  She’s incredibly heart-centered. In our discussion, we explored why self-esteem is necessary to be successful.  I also gave several strategies and exercises that listeners can use to raise their self-esteem and sense of self-worth.

It was a delightful discussion. I enjoyed talking with her so much. Even after the interview, we continued chatting for almost an hour, sharing our philosophies, perspectives and experiences. I remain in touch with her, and hope to be on future summits of hers. For now, I keep in touch with her Facebook page, Arise Empowered, LLC. If you’re a sexual abuse and/or trauma survivor, I recommend you check it out.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Apr 182020
 

5 Powerful Mindset Shifts to Stop Worrying About What Other People Think

When you care about what other people think, they will always have power over you. Other people’s opinions have nothing to do with you and you’ll never be able to please everyone. Using the mindset shifts in this article will allow you to live more authentically and reclaim your power.

Feeling Insecure? 6 Tips To Quiet Your Inner Critic

The voice in your head constantly comments on what and how you’re doing. But instead of being objective, most of the time it’s negative and holds you back. You don’t have to give it so much power over you. You can tame it with these tactics.

13 Simple Habits to Cultivate Self-Compassion

Many times we’re more compassionate towards others than we are to ourselves. It’s time to show the same kindness you have for others and show it to yourself. When you exhibit self-compassion towards yourself, your perception of yourself and your life will change. Practice just a few of these tips and notice how your life improves.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sparks of Insight

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Feb 102020
 
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Remember the movie, “It’s A Wonderful Life,” with James Stewart and Donna Reed? He’s a man who believed that he lived an insignificant life. Until, that is, he had a vision of what the life of his small town would have been without him. And he discovered that he was important to the well-being and abundance of his environment. Everyone had been impacted by his existence. The same is true of you. You are necessary to the Universe to be right where you are. You perform valuable services for the Universe just by being you. Everything you do creates ripples in the pond of space and time and affects others, people you’ll probably never know, that might even last for generations. So believe in your own importance and significance.    

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Nov 252019
 

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7 Scientifically Proven Benefits Of Gratitude That Will Motivate You To Give Thanks Year-Round
It’s that time of year where many people begin thinking about everything they have to be thankful for. Although it’s nice to count your blessings on Thanksgiving, being thankful throughout the year could have tremendous benefits on your quality of life. Developing an “attitude of gratitude” is one of the simplest ways to improve your satisfaction with life.

Five Myths about Gratitude
Does gratitude make us lazy? A naïve form of positive thinking? Robert Emmons, the world’s leading scientific expert on gratitude, debunks some common myths and misconceptions. Many of these misconceptions deter people from practicing gratitude—and reaping its many rewards.

14 Health Benefits of Practicing Gratitude According to Science
Through the work of leading researchers like Robert Emmons and Martin Seligman, we know that the virtue of gratitude is more than just saying, “thank you.” Studies offer insights into how a person can improve their overall happiness, health and well-being. In this article, you will discover that expressing gratitude reduces stress, increases optimism, and changes your brain and ways you can do it.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Nov 072019
 

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How to Use a 5 Minute Journal to Invest in Your Happiness
A journal doesn’t just have to be about what you’ve accomplished (though that can boost your mood) or exploring your emotions. It can be about accessing your inner knowing to give yourself guidance and motivation. Most of all, it’s a way to improve your relationship with yourself. Here are 5 ways you can journal with yourself and set yourself up for your best life.

8 Ways to Be More Mindful at Work
It’s difficult to find a balance between your professional and personal lives, with all the overwhelm that technology brings. In this busy world, self-care isn’t an indulgence, it’s a necessity. Mindfulness helps you to recuperate, with the added benefit of increasing your productivity. This article included a great infographic that can give you some great tips on reducing your stress.

Feeling Intensely: The Wounds of Being “Too Much”
Have you been told that you see too much, hear too much, or think too much? Many people have been shamed for this. If you have, then you may be what’s called a “highly sensitive person.” This article state five components many psychologists consider comprises this trait. Discovering that you’re highly sensitive can lift much of the self-doubt and feelings of loneliness.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Oct 112019
 

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Researchers Reveal That Messy People Are Actually Productive Geniuses
I know that people say you have to have a clutter free house and an organized desk. And I find it soothing to have that, to a point. But when everything is put away, I forget about projects I’m working on and my creativity dries up. This research shows why you need to strike a balance. It covers 6 reasons why messy folk are more innovative and efficient.

21 Simple Hacks to Massively Increase Your Productivity
Working harder doesn’t bring you the prize you want, but working smarter does. Some of these tips are ones you probably already know, but they bring something extra to them. I especially love Tip #7: The Power of “No.” If you put even half of these into effect, you’re going to have a smoother and more effective life.

7 Smart Ways to Deal with Toxic People
Some people who are hard to deal with may simply be having a hard time and need understanding, support and encouragement. But there’s another type of person who uses their distress to manipulate and control others. Like the person who rages whenever something doesn’t go their way. These are self-involved people who don’t care how they affect others.These are some excellent tips on how to handle these noxious people.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Self-Compassion Can Help Tame Your Inner Critic

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Sep 112019
 

When you make a mistake or mess up, you probably harshly judge and condemn yourself. This is your inner critic trying to motivate you to do better. But it generally makes things worse. To tame your inner critic, stop accepting what it says or fighting it. Instead, use self-compassion and be kind to yourself and that part of you. Here’s a three step strategy to defuse your inner critic and improve your relationship with yourself.



Transcript:

Thank you for watching. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart of Heartvision Consulting and a vision strategist. I’d like to give you a strategy that will help you improve your relationship with yourself and your ability to achieve your goals. It has to do with being kind or compassionate to yourself and your inner critic.

Unfortunately, when people do something less than perfect, they tend to judge, criticize and beat themselves up. Do you ever do that? Your inner critic is trying to whip you back into line, to motivate or protect you. But all those negative beliefs and labels you’ve given yourself surface, and make you feel lousy. Does it ever help? No, it doesn’t.

So how can you be compassionate with yourself and deal with the inner critic? Here’s a three step strategy to do so.

1. The first step is to pay attention when your inner critic starts its refrain, but refuse to buy into it. What it’s saying is generally not true. It’s just regurgitated stuff from the past, isn’t it? Just observe what you’re thinking and the feelings it dredges up. This is called being mindful. Not reacting to those ideas, just recognizing them.

2. Second step, acknowledge your inner critic and what it’s repeating. How could you be compassionate to this inner critic? Instead of fighting it, just say something like, “I understand what you’re trying to do.” Or “I know you think this is helpful, but it’s not.” One way is to talk to it like you would to a child who is verbally beating themselves up. Be kind.

3. Third step, be compassionate towards yourself. Say something like, “I messed up, but I’ll do better next time.” Or “I’m human and learning more every day.” Or “I had a moment of weakness. I’ll make a better choice next time.” What would you say to your best friend who’d made the kind of mistake you did? You’d be kind.

When you’re nice to yourself, you have more motivation to do and be better. You actually take more responsibility for your actions. Being compassionate towards yourself allows you to learn and make different choices next time. It will improve your self-image, your well being and your ability to achieve your goals.

If you’d to achieve a 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision Worksheet.

Thank you for watching. How can you be kinder towards yourself? Take care.

Read the accompanying article, Be Kind to Yourself for More Success.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Be Kind to Yourself for More Success

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Sep 052019
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

Hanging Hearts

What is your relationship with yourself? Is it adversarial or hostile? For instance, when you make a mistake or fail, are you your own worst critic? You may think that putting yourself down, berating or criticizing yourself will help you do better the next time. But it doesn’t.

Instead, because you’re focusing on what you did wrong, you’re simply setting yourself up to repeat the behavior. And rather than taking care of yourself, you become stressed and frustrated with yourself. This may lead to indulging in self-destructive habits like procrastination, overeating, excessive drinking and more.

Your relationship with yourself is reflected in your relationships with others. If you judge yourself severely, you’re going to attract others who do the same to you. How you treat yourself determines the kind of treatment you’re willing to tolerate from others. You’ll allow people to disrespect, insult and take advantage of you, because you think that’s normal. This can negatively affect your personal and professional relationships, holding you back from achieving your goals and being successful.

Cultivating Self-Compassion

Just because you’ve done something wrong doesn’t mean that you are bad. Rather than being so hard on yourself, what if you were kinder to yourself? Research shows that when you’re nicer to yourself, you’ll experience less stress and anxiety. It also improves your sense of well-being, self-esteem, self-worth and your relationships with others.

People who are kinder to themselves have greater motivation to pick themselves up and try again. When you’re compassionate towards yourself, you’re able to accept yourself for who you are. This gives you additional energy and resilience to improve on your weaknesses and make better decisions in the future.

Shifting your viewpoint makes all the difference. By taking a more realistic view when something upsetting happens, you can put it into perspective and realize that you’re not perfect. You’re simply a human being doing the best you can with the knowledge and resources you had at that time.

When you’re kinder to yourself, you support yourself and your endeavors which allows you to reach your goals. You become more patient with yourself and become more confident. You can cultivate self-compassion by making some easy changes in the way you treat yourself.

Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

1. Use positive self-talk. Give yourself uplifting messages, especially when you realize you didn’t live up to your potential. Tell yourself something like, “It’s okay. I’ll do better next time.” Or, “I am capable and have what it takes to succeed.”

2. When you make a mistake, encourage yourself. Treat yourself as if you were a good friend. Be understanding of what happened and why. Mistakes are the way you learn. You can say, “Everyone makes mistakes. I can learn from this and move on.”

3. Write 3 things you appreciate about yourself every day. It shifts your focus to what you’ve done right in your world. This builds self-acceptance and shows you that you support yourself. You inspire and motivate yourself when you pay attention to what’s good about you.

Self-compassion can improve your relationship with yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have. You’re the only person you’re with every hour of every day. Why not treat yourself well, which is what you deserve?

Affirmation:

The Universe loves and approves of me, just the way I am right now. I realize I’m a spiritual being having a human experience, and as such, I’m not perfect. I do the best I can with the knowledge I have at the time. But I have the capability to grow, learn and be better. I’m kind to myself, and view myself with the same compassion that the Universe does.

Watch the accompanying video, Self-Compassion Can Help Tame Your Inner Critic.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. To achieve a 90-day goal more easily, sign up for her FREE comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You can contact her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com or 928-600-0452.