Apr 212017
 

Sparks of Insight“Divine ideas flow through me at all times. I rejoice in them and am guided as to how to put them in my life. I am provided with everything I need to fulfill them in my life.”

Everything we have in life started with an idea in someone’s mind, from making tomato sauce to the microwave. Every improvement in your life began as an idea that you had that things could be better. These ideas are always flooding though you, you just have to open your mind to receive them and then act on them.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Apr 132017
 

10 Difficult Life Situations And How To Make The Best Out Of Them
No one’s life is perfect, smooth and harmonious all the time. Life is messy and not all situations are under our control. We lose people and circumstances change. The best we can do is take them philosophically and find the best in them. Here are 10 life situations that many of us deal with and how to approach them.

Grand Canyon National Park - Near Yaki PointThe Psychological Strategy That Will Up Your Game in Anything You Apply It To
In order to change your experience, you need to change your attitude behind your current behavior. How important is it? What will it bring you? Here are some tips to help you achieve your goals more easily and quickly.

13 Realistic Self-Care Tips That Will Keep You Calm In Stressful Times
Everyone gets stressed and overwhelmed at times. To decompress, you need to take care of yourself so you stay mentally and physically healthy. Meditation and deep breathing are helpful. But these tips are ones that everyone will enjoy and be able to implement without any training. For instance, one of the tips is to zone out watching TV.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Mar 092017
 

Grand Canyon Sunset - East of Yaki PointUnwanted Situations Will Keep Happening Until You Learn Your Lesson
Making mistakes is a part of being human. By making a mistake, we have an opportunity to learn from it and do better next time. Sometimes the lessons come with subtle clues that we overlook. This article is one person’s experience with learning some hard lessons after things had fallen apart.

5 Reasons Why You’re Good Enough As You Are
Many of my clients have said, “I don’t feel like I’m enough.” These feelings aren’t based in reality. They come from statements made to and about us by others that we accepted uncritically. They’re beliefs that can be changed. Learn some tips to find better beliefs that are more rational.

9 Secrets That Will Help You Achieve Your Success
There is no secret sauce to success. It’s just a lot of work and doing things that are necessary for success. You’ll have to overcome limiting beliefs and motivate yourself. Here are some tips that will help you fulfill your innate potential for success.

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Mar 082017
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

Self-esteem is a basic necessity for all success in personal and professional life. When you like and respect yourself, then you’re likely to make the choices that lead to creating the outcomes that you want. Your self-worth is created by your attitudes about yourself based on what ideas you accepted as a child and the things you tell yourself as an adult.

Your self-image plays a large part in the development of your self-esteem. Your self-image is formulated from your experiences, judgments, labels you’ve accepted, and your talents or your liabilities. These have helped to shape your beliefs about yourself that feed into your self-worth.
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You always act like the person you believe yourself to be. How do you see yourself? Do you perceive yourself as a competent and dynamic individual? Or do you doubt yourself and your abilities? Do you focus on what you’ve done wrong, or what didn’t turn out the way you wanted? This will erode your self-image and contribute to a low self-esteem.

If you have a strong, healthy self-image, then you make healthy decisions that support your vision, dreams and goals. You’ll exercise to stay fit, eat healthy, and avoid substances that would impair your health. These choices may be difficult or inconvenient, such as quitting smoking, ending a one-sided relationship, or finding another job that gives you a better chance to advance in your career. But you protect your health and well-being because you view yourself as someone who is proactive.

Your self-image forms the filter through which you view yourself and how you respond to situations around you. It demands that you remain consistent with your concept of yourself. Suppose you perceive yourself as a supportive person, who likes to make everyone happy. If so, to be congruent, you won’t stand up for yourself when you’re taken advantage of, even at the cost of your welfare.

For instance, Clarisse owned a service-based business. Initially, her attitude was that she offered a service that happened to be a business. With that approach, she was supportive, sympathetic and enabling of everyone who came to her. But her customers took advantage of her after she’d done work for them. After promising to pay, they reneged, saying they couldn’t afford it. Her business began to flounder.

To be successful, she had to shift her view of herself as a businessperson. She realized she wouldn’t be able to help anyone if she wasn’t in business. She changed her inner position to one of being a businessperson who provides a service. With this outlook, she made decisions based on what was good for the business.

To fulfill her desire to be of service to those who needed it, she selectively provided her service pro-bono to a client every once in a while. But they no longer were the majority of her clientele. Her business began to thrive.

Your self-image is malleable. You can impact it, making it stronger and more effective. But to do so, you’ll have to let go of some imbedded, old ideas. They may even be ones that you value, but they’re not helping you or your self-esteem.

Clarisse had to let go of her self-concept of being of service to everyone who needed her. That way was destroying her business. One major change she made was insisting on payment up front. She also set and kept boundaries, in the form of policies. If someone violated a policy, she refused to work with them. And she refused to take responsibility for others’ decisions that prevented them from living up to their agreements with her.

If you want to have more impact, be more effective and more successful, the first place to start is with improving your self-image. Here are a few suggestions of what to do.

1. Let go of the judgments and labels from your childhood. They belong in the past and don’t reflect who you are now. Besides, they were simply someone’s, usually mistaken, opinion and don’t define you in the present.

2. Stop of focusing on what’s wrong with you.
You’ll always be able to find something to criticize in yourself or what you do. Break that habit as it’s not helpful. Instead, focus on what’s right about you.

3. Make a list compliments that you’ve received.
Don’t dismiss them as untrue or someone just being nice. Accept that they’re true of you.

No matter what your dreams, you’ll always make decisions, and act, in alignment with your self-image. To become the person you want to be, and achieve your dreams, you’ll need to change it so it supports what you want in your life. You can do it. Just consider the life that awaits you and stay focused on your dreams.

Affirmation:
The Universe loves and approves of me as I am. I accept my true worth. It’s safe to let go of old concepts that aren’t true of who I am. I now acknowledge the things that I do that are good and right. People like me, and I accept that I am likeable. I now shift my self-image to reflect the person I want to be.

Watch the Monthly Mindset Coaching Tip Video, Meditation to Improve Your Self-Image, that was inspired by this article.

As a speaker, hypnotherapist, and vision coach, Linda-Ann Stewart helps business and professional women who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to create their vision, prioritize, and focus so they increase their productivity, prosperity and peace of mind. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, email her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com with "Complimentary Consultation" in the subject line.
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Feb 282017
 

Stake Your Claim: Exploring the Gold Mine Within
By Emmet Fox

This book was the first one by this author that I ever read. The practical, spiritual advice from it made him one of my favorite metaphysical authors. Dr. Fox was a well-known spiritual teacher and his insight is timeless.

The title of the book refers to staking your claim to the good that you want in your life. Short, to the point essays about peace, prosperity, empowerment and much more form the chapters of this book. Each essay addresses a different subject, and stands alone in its wisdom.

The counsel in this book will uplift your thoughts, help you gain a more positive, spiritual outlook on what ever difficulty you might be experiencing, and help you live a richer, fuller life. Because of the short essays, this is the perfect book to read in the morning to get the day started right, just before going to sleep, or at any other time when you only have a few minutes to spare.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Feb 172017
 

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Science Shows, This Is The Only Skill You Need To Be Successful In Life
There is one skill that helps you to do better in every area of your life. It’s delayed gratification and it ensures that you have the patience and persistence to overcome your challenges. This article gives some specific tips on how to cultivate this precious ability and put it into action in your life.

How To Break A Bad Habit — For Good
Everyone has wanted to break a bad habit at some time. This article shows how habits are created and reinforced. Knowing the feedback loop helps to know where you can break it. Learn the specific steps to take to start breaking the habit and getting back on track to what you want.

How To Train Your Brain To Go Positive Instead Of Negative
Our brains are designed to help us to survive. To do that, we’re programmed to look out for obstacles and problems. Unfortunately, always being critical doesn’t lead to having a happy life. This article gives you a simple tip to begin to train your brain to build a positivity circuit.

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How often should I use an affirmation?

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Feb 152017
 

Question MarkQuestion: How often should I use an affirmation to heal a chronic condition?

Answer: For any chronic condition, including physical healing, it’s recommended that a person spend ten to fifteen minutes, three times a day in dynamic meditation (using affirmations, imagery and/or visualization) or self-hypnosis (using suggestions, imagery and/or visualization). That’s to flood their subconscious with health or improvement messages. A person should use any statement or visualization that has meaning for them,  because it’s their feelings and beliefs about the situation that they’re working on.

According to Catherine Ponder, a minister and writer of books on prosperity and healing, an affirmation about a single issue needs to be stated aloud for at least fifteen minutes every day. She said that she’d never seen a situation improve with less than that. Once it’s changed, I believe that five minutes a day would probably be enough to keep it stable.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Avoid These 7 Traps That Sabotage Your Dreams

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Feb 142017
 

Sunset Crater, Flagstaff AZDo you have a dream or a vision that you’re not actively pursuing? Maybe you’re not taking action on it or you’re chronically preparing to start. If so, you’re not alone. Self-sabotage is an insidious, subversive and subtle act. It gets hidden amongst the busyness of your life. And it may even seem completely reasonable that you haven’t been able to make any progress toward your dream. But there are unseen forces at work within you that are holding you back.

Here are 7 ways that you undermine yourself and steps you can take to overcome these obstacles.

1. Lack of clarity. You only have a fuzzy idea of what you want. This isn’t very motivating and it won’t impel you to take action. When you don’t have a precise idea of your direction, you won’t take any steps. Specific ideas about your goals allow you to take specific steps towards achieving them, which leads to better results. It also gives the Law of Attraction an explicit pattern to follow.

2. No plan. You may want to go with the flow and resist the structure of a plan. But when you choose to let things unfold in this way, you’re going to be blown around by every circumstance that presents itself. There’s a saying, “When you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” In your busy life, if something doesn’t get prioritized, it doesn’t get done. Create an outline of a plan that serves you, so that the Law of Attraction can draw to you what you need. Your plan should include room for the unexpected.

3. Not working your plan. You’ve created a plan, put it in a drawer and gotten involved in your busy life. The immediate and the urgent have taken precedence. Or you may be dealing with the “shiny object syndrome.” Other enticing options have taken you off track and gotten you nowhere. This just creates confusion for the Universe, as it doesn’t know what you want. It’s ok to make course corrections periodically, but not every day. Assess your plan and get back to working it.

4. Not making your dream a priority. You have a plan, but you let other things get in the way. This may be day-to-day chores or plain old inertia. It’s simply easier to fall back into old habits than it is to clear space to work for your dream. Unless you decide that your dream is important, you’ll never achieve it. And the Universe won’t make it a priority, either. Focus on what you want, schedule taking action and following through.

5. Seeking approval. You’re trying to live up to other peoples’ expectations of you. And you put others’ agendas ahead of your own wants, needs and desires. For the most part, you don’t need their approval nor to meet their expectations. What you want is as important as what they do. Learn to say, “No,” when their expectations conflict with what you want. The Universe approves of you when you do.

6. Perfectionism. You won’t move forward until everything is perfect. This is an unrealistic and unreachable goal. Perfectionism comes from fear that you’ll make a mistake. Of course, you’re going to make mistakes. That’s how you learn and make course corrections. The Universe doesn’t expect your efforts to be flawless. Repeat to yourself, “Progress, not perfection.” As long as you have a vision and the beginnings of a plan, you can make some headway. You can build the rest as you go along.

7. Procrastination.
This behavior is the worst of the offenders. It probably sinks more dreams than anything else. Either you put off starting or you put off uncomfortable or unfamiliar tasks that are necessary to your vision. Out of fear or rebellion, you chronically avoid making a decision or taking an action until the last minute. The Law of Attraction follows your lead and delays any good coming your way. Take some action, no matter how small and build momentum. One small step at a time is all you need to do to make progress.

Self-sabotage is an attempt to keep you safely confined in your comfort zone, so you don’t have to stretch or be anxious. Your subconscious is trying to protect you from the disappointment or rejection that you experienced when you were younger. Unfortunately, this strategy doesn’t support your dream or who you are now.

When you recognize that you’re sabotaging yourself, and that it’s a function of some outdated attempt at self-preservation, you can make changes. It will be uncomfortable at first, as all change is. And you’ll be tempted to step back into old patterns. But you have the power, wisdom and understanding to take charge and shift your world. Open the door to your dreams and step through.

Affirmation:
I realize the self-sabotage is an outdated attempt to keep me safe in a world that no longer exists. I now recognize any ways in which I undermine myself. It’s powerful to bring them out into the light so that I can see they are no longer needed. I now let go of what no longer serves me, and now establish new thoughts, beliefs and behaviors that support my dreams.

As a speaker, hypnotherapist, and vision coach, Linda-Ann Stewart helps business and professional women who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to create their vision, prioritize, and focus so they increase their productivity, prosperity and peace of mind. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, email her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com with "Complimentary Consultation" in the subject line.
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Book Review-Recreating Your Self

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Jan 262017
 

Recreating Your Self: Building Self-Esteem Through Imaging and Self-Hypnosis
by Nancy J. Napier

Most of my clients struggle with self-esteem issues. They have feelings of shame, worthlessness, and due to old programming, don’t take the steps necessary to support their own health and well-being. This book is a great resource to anyone who has experienced these challenges.

The author addresses the subjects of healing the inner child, reviewing past abuses in the light of our current understanding, connecting with our healed, future self and much more. Especially helpful to me was the chapter on the protective parts. These parts were created to help us in a time of stress. Based on the old information, they continue to  control us, and many times this actually hurts our desire to heal. However, we can update their protection and turn them into resources that support us in the present day.

Instructions, exercises and scripts for self-hypnosis accompany each of her chapters to do the inner work and heal. This book is a wonderful addition to anyone who has read John Bradshaw’s books on healing the inner child, or who has had a dysfunctional childhood and wishes to resolve the old wounds to become a happier person.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Sparks of Insight

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Dec 162016
 

Sparks of Insight“I keep my thoughts positive and focused on the Universal Good. Even though I might not see the good in any situation, it is there awaiting my recognition of it. The more I practice this, the stronger and more empowered I become.”

Your good is always in potential, waiting for you to become aware of it. It never goes away. Even in the worst of situations, Universal Good is present for you. Once you recognize it’s available to you, you provide the channel for it to flow through into your life. And like any skill, the more you practice shifting your attention to your good, the more it becomes a habit for you to do so.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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