Book Review-Self-Healing Personality

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Jun 282018
 

The Self-Healing Personality: Why Some People Achieve Health and Others Succumb to Illness
by Dr. Howard S. Friedman

Most of us have heard that our thinking affects not only our lives, but also our health. Unfortunately, many times that concept is dealt with in a simplistic, cookbook type of way. The belief is that a certain ailment always is due to a particular thought pattern. Although the basic idea has merit, the reality is much more complicated than that.

Dr. Friedman, professor of psychology at the University of California at Riverside, has done extensive research into why one person is able to recover from a serious illness, and another isn’t. Bringing together ancient medical philosophy and modern studies, he explores the differences between people with the same disease. He has found that there is a connection between emotions, personality and how resilient a person is, and disease.

Though a person might have an illness-prone personality, this book gives hope that they can turn themselves into one that self-heals. Making practical, healthy changes in habits, as well as finding social support are a couple of ways the author has found to be useful. By learning new ways to respond to the challenges of life, a person can actually impact the way their body heals.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sparks of Insight

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Jun 112018
 

Sparks of InsightDon’t park discernment at the door of your consciousness. Just because you’re working at being non-judgmental, more tolerant and compassionate doesn’t mean that you should avoid being discerning. If someone is being rude, discourteous, inconsiderate, you don’t have to label them as “bad.” But it also doesn’t mean that you have to put up with their attitude or actions. If you’re being used or abused in some way, recognize it and deal with the situation appropriately. Discerning whether someone or something is good for you is a god-given attribute.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sparks of Insight

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Jun 042018
 

Sparks of Insight“What a man thinks of himself, that is which determines, or rather indicates his fate.” – Henry David Thoreau

If you think well of yourself, you’ll make decisions that are beneficial for your health and well-being. You’ll make sure you eat healthy, exercise, have boundaries to be sure you’re not taken advantage of, and surround yourself with friends who are positive and treat you well. In this way, your positive energy will attract opportunities and connections to help you on the path you’re already on. Your fate lies in the standards by which you live your life.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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May 312018
 

Grand Canyon Train TracksAre Your Excuses Really Lies That Sabotage Your Life?
An excuse can be worse than a lie, because you use it to hide your motives from yourself. Most people know when they’re lying to themselves, by a sense of discomfort, even if they dismiss it. But an excuse can seem reasonable, even rational, so it’s more insidious. Learn a way you can determine if your excuse is a lie you’re trying to pass off as plausible.

5 Proven Ways to Set Goals and Achieve Them
Goal setting is important because you’re either working your plan or letting someone else impose their plan on you. When you set a goal, you’re taking charge of the direction of your life rather than letting the wind send you wherever it blows. Studies show that those who set goals are happier and more successful. This article also includes a goal setting worksheet.

How to Say No When You Feel You Can Only Say Yes
Some people are people pleasers and have a hard time saying “No,” even when it costs them. Meeting others expectations is more important than meeting their own. This can lead to stress, overwhelm and a feeling you’re not living to your potential. But when you start saying “No” to what others want from you, you start making your life and goals important. Here are 7 tips to help you start saying “No” so you can be more successful.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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May 252018
 

Step Through WoodsThis column will change your life: don’t say ‘I can’t’ if you can say ‘I don’t’
We all talk to ourselves, either to encourage, doubt or demean ourselves. Our inner self-talk can either motivate or undermine our goals. But there’s a subtle tweak to your self-talk you can make that can help you stay on track. It has to to with reframing your commitment to your intention.

What You Can Learn From The Excuses You Tell Yourself
It’s normal to make excuses, but doing it too much can get you stuck. Excuses can keep you from following your heart and your dreams. Become aware of whether your excuse or your rational mind is in control. This article gives you some red flags to consider and three ways you can overcome your excuses.

Understanding the Mind of a Narcissist
Believe it or not, narcissists have a low self-image and seek validation from others. But when they get it, they fail to appreciate it because it’s never enough. This article describes the traits of a narcissist and three different kinds of them. It also explains how they became the way they are. When you can understand the reasons for their behavior, it can make it easier to deal with.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sparks of Insight

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Apr 132018
 

Sparks of Insight“No part of my mind is affected by others’ negativity. I remain connected with my True Self. I recognize that they have their own issues, and those problems have nothing to do with me. ”

So many times, you’re influenced by other people’s negative moods. It can be hard not to be, and it’s tempting to try to change them so that you feel better. But they have a right to feel bad, and they have to learn how to work their way through it for themselves. It’s their issue, not yours. Many times, trying to change their mind will just make the problem last longer or get worse. Detach from it (and them, if you need to), let them have their mood, and don’t let yourself get caught up in it.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Apr 062018
 

Sparks of InsightWhat are you doing to show yourself that you matter? Are you indulging yourself with self-pity, not standing up for yourself, eating too much, indulging in unhealthy substances, etc.? Or are you making sure you get enough sleep, exercise, eat properly, socialize with people who treat you well? If you don’t care for yourself, why would anyone else? Life treats you the way that you treat yourself. Take steps that show you that your health, well-being and peace of mind is important. Only when you treat yourself as if you count will Life reflect that attitude.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

What Are Your Excuses Telling You?

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Apr 052018
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

Message_Bubbles-2103156Caroline was a massage therapist who worked in a spa. The spa did all the marketing and scheduled her clients for her, and paid her per client. But Caroline thought she could have more freedom and get more clients on her own. She left the spa, and opened her own office.

But she discovered that she hated the administrative chores the spa had done for her, such as scheduling, paying utilities, and marketing. This caused her to be chronically forgetful. She’d forget to take business cards when networking, pay her bills, or write down appointments, which caused her to miss them. Although her clients knew and liked her, they learned not to trust her and they went elsewhere. Because of her refusal to work on the details of her business, she made less than she had at the spa.

Finally, one of her friends confronted her and said that Caroline’s excuses were clues she was leaving herself. Caroline realized that she really just wanted to give massages. She gave up her business and returned to the spa, where she could let others handle the tasks she despised. She needed the structure the spa gave her. Even though she was giving up control, she was gaining the freedom she’d craved.

Do you chronically defend yourself, to yourself or others about why you didn’t do what you had agreed to do? At your core, you just didn’t want to do whatever it was. Something within you was preventing it. You’re giving yourself a message that you haven’t listened to yet.

When you use excuses, you’re giving the Law of Attraction conflicting information. On one side, you’ve agreed to something, and on the other, you are reluctant to follow through. By not being clear, the Law of Attraction won’t know what you really want. You’ll just idle in neutral until you decide which way you really want to go.

There are times when excuses are valid. For example, if you had a flat tire on the way to work. Or an important phone call delayed your leaving for an appointment. Events that are unexpected and unavoidable are legitimate reasons why you weren’t able to fulfill a promise. But the question to ask yourself is, are your explanations reasonable or are they just trying to get you out of trouble?

The stories you tell yourself are hints as to how motivated you are to achieve your goals, dreams and vision. They may be telling you how you feel about your commitment or your direction. Here are some of the possible messages your excuses are communicating:

Fear. You’re afraid of the next step or where it may take you. Or you’re not confident that you know how to accomplish your task, goal or agreement. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Generally, when you bring the fear into your awareness, you realize it has little validity. Ask yourself, “What do I need to do to gain that confidence?” It could be something as simple as learning a new skill.

Not the right goal/dream/vision.
You could be going in the wrong direction. Or your task, vision or your motivation to achieve it isn’t strong enough. When you find yourself not taking the actions you need to, ask yourself if you’re ambivalent over your goal. If there’s a part of you holding back, you need to address its concerns. Are you really committed to your dream or vision? If not, choose another one or scale back on your current one.

It’s a “should.” You think you “should” want a particular goal. Others have told you that it’s the right one for you. But it doesn’t really resonate with you, or you felt pressured into doing it. This one is especially true when you’ve agreed to do something you really didn’t want to do, such as participate in a charity event. Is it really your priority, or someone else’s? To simplify your life, decline someone else’s objective for you and focus on what you really want

These are just a few of the excuses we make. The only way you’re going to fulfill your goals is if you transcend your excuses. Listen to the message they’re telling you. When you hear it, and change your responses, you’ll be happier and on track to your dream.

Affirmation:
I now become aware of the excuses I make. I realize that they’re giving me powerful messages about what’s holding me back. Since the Universe only wants the best for me, it must be my beliefs and attitudes that are sabotaging me. By understanding the messages I’m giving myself, I’m able to change my beliefs and thus change my responses to support my dreams.

Watch the accompanying video, Stop Believing Your Excuses.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml

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Mar 292018
 

Step Through Woods4 Proven Ways to Bounce Back From Failure
Setbacks are normal, and are actually teaching moments. The only time you fail is when you quit trying. That said, it can be difficult to get back into the swing when you feel you swung and missed. Part of the ability to do it more easily has to do with learned behavior, and part has to do with personality. The tips in this article can help you recover, learn from the experience and try again.

Are You a Goal-Getter?
When you set a goal, you may be uncertain about your chances of success in achieving it. But you think there’s at least a good possibility for it to happen. Wouldn’t you like to increase your odds of success? This article shares 7 steps to achieving the goals you want to accomplish.

How to Program Your Mind to Kick the Bad Habit
We all have bad habits of one kind or another. Sometimes, we excuse ourselves when we try to overcome them and don’t succeed. They’re just so much a part of us and it’s hard to change them. They exist because at some time in the past they helped us. But that time is past and if you want to eliminate them, use the 3 steps in this article.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Mar 232018
 

Woman with outstretched arms This Is Your Brain Under Hypnosis
As a hypnotherapist, this article was especially interesting to me. Unfortunately, so many people have misconceptions about this process, including that it doesn’t exist. Now, neuroscientists are taking an interest in and researching it. They’re beginning to understand its mechanisms. This article shows an experiment with one of those mechanisms.

You Are What You Think
Neuroscience tells us to “Be careful what you wish for,” because you may get it. Your brain follows your attention, and will take you where it thinks you want to go. This applies to both positive goals and to negative thoughts. This article gives you 4 steps to creating your perfect world and solving problems using the power of thought.

“You’ve got this!”: How “You Statements” enhance self-regulation
Life is a giant game of self-regulation. If you can manage yourself and your thoughts, then you’ll have a better life. However, it’s not easy to develop and act on these skills. Positive and supportive self-talk are very helpful in sticking to it. Research is showing that giving yourself positive support in the second or third person is much better than just saying, “I.” Learn how your inner dialogue helps you to improve your self-management skills.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart