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Mar 092017
 

Grand Canyon Sunset - East of Yaki PointUnwanted Situations Will Keep Happening Until You Learn Your Lesson
Making mistakes is a part of being human. By making a mistake, we have an opportunity to learn from it and do better next time. Sometimes the lessons come with subtle clues that we overlook. This article is one person’s experience with learning some hard lessons after things had fallen apart.

5 Reasons Why You’re Good Enough As You Are
Many of my clients have said, “I don’t feel like I’m enough.” These feelings aren’t based in reality. They come from statements made to and about us by others that we accepted uncritically. They’re beliefs that can be changed. Learn some tips to find better beliefs that are more rational.

9 Secrets That Will Help You Achieve Your Success
There is no secret sauce to success. It’s just a lot of work and doing things that are necessary for success. You’ll have to overcome limiting beliefs and motivate yourself. Here are some tips that will help you fulfill your innate potential for success.

Mar 082017
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

Self-esteem is a basic necessity for all success in personal and professional life. When you like and respect yourself, then you’re likely to make the choices that lead to creating the outcomes that you want. Your self-worth is created by your attitudes about yourself based on what ideas you accepted as a child and the things you tell yourself as an adult.

Your self-image plays a large part in the development of your self-esteem. Your self-image is formulated from your experiences, judgments, labels you’ve accepted, and your talents or your liabilities. These have helped to shape your beliefs about yourself that feed into your self-worth.
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You always act like the person you believe yourself to be. How do you see yourself? Do you perceive yourself as a competent and dynamic individual? Or do you doubt yourself and your abilities? Do you focus on what you’ve done wrong, or what didn’t turn out the way you wanted? This will erode your self-image and contribute to a low self-esteem.

If you have a strong, healthy self-image, then you make healthy decisions that support your vision, dreams and goals. You’ll exercise to stay fit, eat healthy, and avoid substances that would impair your health. These choices may be difficult or inconvenient, such as quitting smoking, ending a one-sided relationship, or finding another job that gives you a better chance to advance in your career. But you protect your health and well-being because you view yourself as someone who is proactive.

Your self-image forms the filter through which you view yourself and how you respond to situations around you. It demands that you remain consistent with your concept of yourself. Suppose you perceive yourself as a supportive person, who likes to make everyone happy. If so, to be congruent, you won’t stand up for yourself when you’re taken advantage of, even at the cost of your welfare.

For instance, Clarisse owned a service-based business. Initially, her attitude was that she offered a service that happened to be a business. With that approach, she was supportive, sympathetic and enabling of everyone who came to her. But her customers took advantage of her after she’d done work for them. After promising to pay, they reneged, saying they couldn’t afford it. Her business began to flounder.

To be successful, she had to shift her view of herself as a businessperson. She realized she wouldn’t be able to help anyone if she wasn’t in business. She changed her inner position to one of being a businessperson who provides a service. With this outlook, she made decisions based on what was good for the business.

To fulfill her desire to be of service to those who needed it, she selectively provided her service pro-bono to a client every once in a while. But they no longer were the majority of her clientele. Her business began to thrive.

Your self-image is malleable. You can impact it, making it stronger and more effective. But to do so, you’ll have to let go of some imbedded, old ideas. They may even be ones that you value, but they’re not helping you or your self-esteem.

Clarisse had to let go of her self-concept of being of service to everyone who needed her. That way was destroying her business. One major change she made was insisting on payment up front. She also set and kept boundaries, in the form of policies. If someone violated a policy, she refused to work with them. And she refused to take responsibility for others’ decisions that prevented them from living up to their agreements with her.

If you want to have more impact, be more effective and more successful, the first place to start is with improving your self-image. Here are a few suggestions of what to do.

1. Let go of the judgments and labels from your childhood. They belong in the past and don’t reflect who you are now. Besides, they were simply someone’s, usually mistaken, opinion and don’t define you in the present.

2. Stop of focusing on what’s wrong with you.
You’ll always be able to find something to criticize in yourself or what you do. Break that habit as it’s not helpful. Instead, focus on what’s right about you.

3. Make a list compliments that you’ve received.
Don’t dismiss them as untrue or someone just being nice. Accept that they’re true of you.

No matter what your dreams, you’ll always make decisions, and act, in alignment with your self-image. To become the person you want to be, and achieve your dreams, you’ll need to change it so it supports what you want in your life. You can do it. Just consider the life that awaits you and stay focused on your dreams.

Affirmation:
The Universe loves and approves of me as I am. I accept my true worth. It’s safe to let go of old concepts that aren’t true of who I am. I now acknowledge the things that I do that are good and right. People like me, and I accept that I am likeable. I now shift my self-image to reflect the person I want to be.

Watch the Monthly Mindset Coaching Tip Video, Meditation to Improve Your Self-Image, that was inspired by this article.

As a speaker, hypnotherapist, and vision coach, Linda-Ann Stewart helps business and professional women who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to create their vision, prioritize, and focus so they increase their productivity, prosperity and peace of mind. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, email her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com with "Complimentary Consultation" in the subject line.

Sparks of Insight

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Mar 022017
 

Sparks of InsightYou aren’t here to live up to anyone else’s expectations, except your own. You are on your own path, to learn and grow. And you don’t owe it anyone to try to explain to them what you’re doing. They’re on their own path, and their experience does not have to be your experience. As happens with humans, they’ll view what you’re doing through the filter of their motives. They won’t be able to understand why you’re making different choices than they would. Let go of any need to convince them of your reasons. You aren’t responsible to make them accept your path. All you are responsible for is following it and being true to yourself. That’s all the Universe asks of you.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Feb 242017
 

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Being an entrepreneur can be both satisfying and stressful. It’s hard to stay focused and overcome obstacles that come up. This article gives tips on how to keep your enthusiasm while dealing with the challenges.

You Can Be Mentally Stronger If You Do This Small Act Every Day
When we set big goals but don’t achieve them, it can be detrimental to our self-esteem. Some people don’t set goals for this very reason. But you don’t have to give up on goals. You just have to do it in a more reasonable way. Learn how to do this and where to focus your attention so that you are able to accomplish more.

The 5 Ways To Feel More Relaxed In Just 30 Seconds
There are a myriad of ways to lower stress, but most take several minutes to achieve that state. If you don’t have the time for meditation, yoga or exercise, how do you find a quick fix? This article shares several easy tips to be calmer, more centered and relaxed. And they take little to no time at all.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Book Review-Recreating Your Self

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Jan 262017
 

Recreating Your Self: Building Self-Esteem Through Imaging and Self-Hypnosis
by Nancy J. Napier

Most of my clients struggle with self-esteem issues. They have feelings of shame, worthlessness, and due to old programming, don’t take the steps necessary to support their own health and well-being. This book is a great resource to anyone who has experienced these challenges.

The author addresses the subjects of healing the inner child, reviewing past abuses in the light of our current understanding, connecting with our healed, future self and much more. Especially helpful to me was the chapter on the protective parts. These parts were created to help us in a time of stress. Based on the old information, they continue to  control us, and many times this actually hurts our desire to heal. However, we can update their protection and turn them into resources that support us in the present day.

Instructions, exercises and scripts for self-hypnosis accompany each of her chapters to do the inner work and heal. This book is a wonderful addition to anyone who has read John Bradshaw’s books on healing the inner child, or who has had a dysfunctional childhood and wishes to resolve the old wounds to become a happier person.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Jan 252017
 

Flagstaff ArboretumPeople Love Working with Extraverts, Until the Going Gets Tough
New research shows that the extrovert advantage has its limits. Extroverts are at an advantage in business. But when there are conflicts and disagreements, people tend to resent their style of handling it. Introverts, however, tend to navigate the storms more smoothly because of their unique strengths.

9 Ways To Differentiate Real Friends And Toxic Friends
Everyone has had a toxic friend in some degree at one time or another. They can gaslight you and make you think that they’re the only one who has your back, when the opposite is true. This is a very simple infographic that illustrates the differences between these real and toxic friends.

5 Things You Can Do to Improve Your Mindset in 20 Minutes
These tried and true tips will help you take on the day with confidence. You’ll be able to reset your attitude, become more positive and have a more productive day. You’ll notice a tremendous difference within just a couple of weeks.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Dec 022016
 

Sparks of Insight“If you don’t run your own life….someone else will.” – John Atkinson

When you give up what’s important to you because someone else wants you to, then you’re allowing them power over your life. You could have planned a quiet evening at home, but a friend wants you to go to a movie you have no desire to see. If you let yourself be talked into it, you have abandoned yourself. You have a right to live your life your way.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Dec 012016
 

Grand Canyon Colorado River5 Struggles Overly-Nice People Would Understand So Well
Many people admire nice people, but unfortunately, others take advantage of them. Nice people expect others to be like them, so they give them the benefit of the doubt, when they may not deserve it. Not only does this article describe some of the struggles nice folks have, but it gives some suggestions on how to deal with them.

Why Your Attitude Is Everything
One of the most important steps you can take toward achieving your greatest potential in life is to monitor your attitude. Most people don’t have an awareness of what their attitudes are. But your attitude governs the way you perceive the world and the way the world perceives you. Here are 10 ways to improve your attitude.

Power of Consistency: 5 Rules
Consistency is the difference between failure and success. This article describes why it’s important to success in business. But the same could be said about your personal life. Learn about the rules and start applying them in your personal and professional lives.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Sep 132016
 

Grand Canyon Sunset - East of Yaki PointPsychologists Reveal One Of The Best Ways To Boost Your Mood
Research has found that altruism or being kind can improve your mood better than doing things for yourself. There are other benefits to these acts, as well. Read the article for a deeper understanding of how focusing beyond yourself is better for you mentally and physically.

10 Surprising Facts About Rejection
Research finds that rejection affects more than just your feelings. It also impacts your reason, intelligence, brain and more. This article has some interesting facts about how rejection and how it can be eased.

Frequent Complaining Can Badly Affect Your Brain, Here’s Why
Are you stuck in a cycle of negativity? If so, you’ve trained your brain to keep you there. But there is a way you can get out of it. This article goes into how and why you get stuck, and what to do to change it.

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Sep 072016
 

Sparks of InsightScience Explains How Writing Down Tiny Achievements Every Day Changes Our Brains
Recent research shows that when you feel like you make progress, then you’re more likely to be creative, productive and increase your confidence. And it’s not just progress on goals, but small events that happen every day. Discover how to become more aware of your progress and how it affects you.

What to Do When You Are Your Own Worst Critic
There is something in your human nature that makes you very self-critical of yourself. It’s one of the greatest challenges you need to overcome to be successful. This article shares three techniques to quiet your inner critic down.

Self-Criticism or Self-Compassion?
Researchers say that the inner critic doesn’t really help you and can be destructive. Neuroscientists suggest that it affects the brain in negative ways. Learn three ways to be more positive about yourself so you can increase your motivation and resilience.