Feb 152019
 

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Self-Care Is Not An Indulgence. It’s A Discipline.
Unfortunately, most people think that self-care is a luxury, something done only when you might have time. Instead, it’s something that you make time for that will improve your health and well being. It requires self-respect, sticking to your priorities and a decision to take responsibility for yourself.

How to Redesign Your Life With Just 3 Questions
People tend to live their lives by following the path of least resistance. Unfortunately, that won’t lead to the life that you want to live. If you want a different life, you need to change your behavior. You need to emerge from reacting to consciously making decisions. This article gives you three questions to reflect on that will help you make choices that enhance your life.

How to Stay Positive: 11 Smart Habits
You can change your attitude to become more positive and optimistic. It all has to do with consciously choosing what to pay attention to. To begin with, you’ll have to remind yourself of these mental perspectives. But over time, they become habits and a natural part of who you are.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Feb 082019
 

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10 Clever Tricks to Trigger Positive Emotions
Changing the way you think can be surprisingly tricky, especially when the going gets tough. Here are some quick and effective exercises that can help you feel happier, avoid anxiety, increase your willpower, deepen relationships and boost confidence. And they don’t involve trying to change how you think.

What Is Goal Setting and Why Is It Important?
Goal setting is your compass to get what you want in life. Without them, you just drift. This article lists five principles for goal setting, identifies the different kinds of goals, and gives tips on how to achieve the goals you have.

The Truth Behind Judging Others and Why We Do It
Judging others blocks you from compassion or empathy. It’s a false way of trying to make yourself feel better. When you’re judging others, you’re judging yourself in the same way. Discover some tips on how to stop criticizing yourself and others.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Feb 012019
 

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How To Tell If Your Perfectionism Is Normal Or Unhealthy
Perfectionism puts an incredible pressure on you. But there are some differences between useful and unhealthy perfectionism. If unhealthy perfectionism is taking over your life and causing you distress, there are some steps you can take to let go of to start feeling better.

Self Esteem Vs. Self Confidence
Self-esteem and self-confidence are two different things. Self-confidence is relatively easy to build, while self-esteem is more complex. This article explains both and gives some simple tips on how to them.

How to Successfully Handle Aggressive and Controlling People
Most of have to deal with intimidating people at some point of our lives. They may be coworkers, bosses, or family members. With some consideration, you may be able to approach them differently so that you have a handle on the interaction. One thing I especially like in this article is its list of your fundamental rights.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Dec 212018
 

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Are GPS zombies eating your brain?
Navigating using GPS can damage the portion of your brain that helps you find your own way to a destination. Because of that, it increases the risk of cognitive impairment, and possibly Alzheimer’s. Part of the reason is that you follow the directions of the GPS without paying attention to where you’re actually going. Learn a couple of tips on how to use your GPS while stimulating your brain at the same time.

The Life-Altering Power Of Setting Boundaries (And How To Do It)
Boundaries are essential to your self-esteem, self-respect and to making sure your have healthy relationships. There are different aspects of boundaries: mental, physical, emotional and so forth. Boundaries are learned, and it can be a challenge to make and keep them. Here are some tips on how to support yourself with them.

Mindfulness: Are You Paying Attention?
According to a recent study, 96% of people said they live on autopilot, mainly due to technology. They aren’t paying attention to what’s going on in their lives. Learning mindfulness allows you to focus on what’s important to you. Mindfulness is simply paying attention to what you’re paying attention to. This article gives you four ways to begin practicing mindfulness in your life.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sparks of Insight

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Dec 042018
 

Sparks of InsightWhen you start to change, whether it’s improving your self-esteem, manifesting more money, or losing weight, people in your life may start making it hard on you. They could start making fun of you, “all in good fun,” or even try to sabotage you. This is to be expected, especially when you haven’t fully incorporated your new attitudes. In a way, they’re reflecting your concerns, fears and ambivalence over changing. Your environment may object as a way of testing to see if you’re dedicated to your new way of being. Stand up to them, call them on it, because as you’re addressing the outer responses, you’re dealing with your own inner concerns.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Oct 262018
 

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How to Construct an Empowering Reality
You create your reality by your beliefs which then prompt your actions. But your beliefs aren’t real. They’re just ideas you’ve accepted. This article has tips on how you take control of your beliefs so they help you create the life you want.

9 Mantras For Anxiety That Experts Use Themselves
Everybody experiences anxiety from time to time. But sometimes, it can become overwhelming. The secret is to nip it in the bud before it has a chance to reach that point. Mantras, intentional self-talk or affirmations can break the cycle of anxiety before it escalates.

Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them, and How to Handle Them
Unfortunately, the bullies we knew in high school grew up into adult bullies. For the most part, they’ve gotten more subtle in their behavior, so they’re harder to recognize. Appeasing them isn’t an option, because it simply encourages them. You have to be proactive to be aware of their tactics and address them in a way that discourages them.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Oct 222018
 

Sparks of InsightIt is so easy to fall into the trap of being critical. Our society actually encourages it. When you judge another person, condition or situation, you’re limiting Universal energy from flowing through you. Judging is a false way of feeling superior or powerful. As soon as you condemn, you’ve labeled it and restricted any benefit that could come from it or to you. And many times, what you’re judging in others is what you’re critical of in yourself. When you become aware of judging any person or thing, catch yourself and stop. Realize that you may not know all the details. Lighten up with others and with yourself.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Oct 192018
 

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It’s Official: Open Plan Offices Are Now the Dumbest Management Fad of All Time
A new study from Harvard reveals that open plan offices decrease rather than increase face-to-face collaboration. Instead, coworkers start using messaging and email more frequently, cutting down on actual interaction. Overall productivity suffers, as well. Businesses are losing money due to this attempt to cut costs.

6 tips to help overcome your addiction to approval seeking
When you try to seek other people’s approval, or rebel by seeking their disapproval, you compromise yourself. Always trying to please others means that you’ll accept whatever attention they give you, even if it’s abusive. As you stop worrying about what other people think of you, you reclaim your power over your life.

Your Words Are Powerful: 8 Positive Speaking Habits to Build Yourself Up
If you have ever put yourself down, then you’ve unconsciously sabotaged your success. Your mind believes you and will follow what you say. However, you can rewire your brain and your habits to be more positive and supportive. Using these 8 tips of how to talk to yourself could change the course of your life.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

How to Raise Your Self-Esteem by Acknowledging Yourself

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Sep 122018
 

A lot of people have a strong inner critic that tears them down, no matter what they do. Instead of helping you, this can undermine your confidence and motivation. To combat this critical inner voice, build yourself up by appreciating yourself and what you do. Linda-Ann will share some specific tips that will cause you to feel better about yourself and accomplish more.



Transcript:

Thank you for joining me. I’m LAS. A lot of people have a strong inner critic. Do you? It’s a part of you who is always criticizing you and everything you do… or don’t do. It tells you that you’re not good enough, not doing enough, not accomplishing enough… just not enough.

Many of my clients have said that they just didn’t feel like they were enough. That was the way they put it, “I don’t feel like I’m enough.” Have you ever felt that way? You may think that always criticizing yourself can push you to do more, but the opposite is, in fact, true. It can actually sabotage you because it undermines your confidence and motivation. I mean, why try when it’s never enough, right?

Today, I want to give you some specific ways you can respond to the constant criticism you hear from yourself. These tips help to shift your attention to something more positive and build you up rather than tear you down. It’s something I do with my clients, both in my coaching and hypnotherapy practice.

Linda-Ann Stewart of Heartvision Consulting, vision strategist. Using my 30 years of experience as a hypnotherapist, I help women business owners and entrepreneurs align their heart with their vision, chart their course and focus on the strategies that will bring them greater success and prosperity on their terms.

When we talk, I urge them to pay attention to what has changed or improved since our last session. To what they have accomplished. Many of them first tell me nothing is different. But as they talk, they realize just how much has changed and what they have accomplished.

We focus on their progress, and by doing so, are able to build on it. It’s a simple technique of acknowledging what they’ve done, instead of focusing on what they haven’t done. When you focus on what you HAVE done, then you’re motivated to do more. You build up momentum, because you’re feeling successful. And success breeds success.

For instance, I once had a friend, Laura, who used this technique of acknowledging what she’d done. She had a strong inner critic that paralyzed her. Do you ever feel that way? She discovered a way to combat that inner critic. She’d acknowledge her small wins each day. In her journal, she’d list that she’d eaten breakfast, fed the dog, washed her dishes, etc.

These are all daily tasks that had to be done each day, right? And you might wonder why she’d write down these daily tasks shortly after she got up. But it made her feel like she’d accomplished something. It triggered the reward circuit in her brain and released pleasure chemicals into her body. It energized her to keep going and do more. It got her out of the paralysis. Sounds good, right?

I’m sure you’ve heard of a gratitude journal, where you write down things that you’re grateful for each day. Some research is now showing that doing the same thing with your accomplishments, no matter how small, can turn your mood around and make you feel more motivated. It can make you feel like you’re good enough, just like when my clients would start to acknowledge their changes. Acknowledging 3 small wins each day for 7 days can lift your self-esteem for 3 months. Wouldn’t that be great? And it’s simple to do.

Just make a commitment to recognize what you’ve done during the day. It can be in a journal form, or on your phone or calendar. You can acknowledge small achievements, like my friend Laura did, or bigger ones. But don’t just limit this to your accomplishments. Also recognize when you’ve made a small step forward. Not just that you’ve finished a project, but that you’ve worked on a small part of it. Give yourself credit for your effort, not just the results. What can you acknowledge yourself for today?

For instance, acknowledge when you declined that donut, or only had one bite of it, or had a salad for lunch. When you balanced your checkbook or paid down your credit card. Or when you made that one follow up call you’d been dreading. All of these are valid actions to celebrate.

Other items you can appreciate about yourself are your strengths, your values, and your talents. For instance, you are consistent in sending out an ezine every month. That’s something to acknowledge. Or when you fulfill a promise, to yourself or someone else, like being on time for a lunch date. Or if you’ve been wanting to draw, and finally put a pencil to paper, that’s something to be proud of.

When you begin to focus on what’s good about you and what you do, instead of what’s negative, you’ll feel better about yourself. You’re praising yourself for being who you are in your life. You’ll feel like you’re making progress, which is important. Because progress means you’re moving forward. It’s encouraging and inspiring. And isn’t that a better way to motivate yourself?

If you’d like some help in achieving your goals, apply for a complimentary Clarify Your Vision coaching consultation.

Thank you for watching. I hope to hear from you that acknowledging yourself has made you feel more motivated and enough. Take care.

Read the accompanying article, 3 Reasons to Acknowledge and Appreciate Yourself.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml

3 Reasons to Acknowledge and Appreciate Yourself

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Sep 112018
 

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“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” William James, pioneer in psychology

Most of us tend to be hard on ourselves. We’re highly self-critical, paying more attention to what we haven’t done than what we have. Although we think this helps push us to be better, to achieve our goals, it actually does the opposite. Criticizing yourself is demoralizing and discouraging, and it undermines your motivation and productivity. It makes you feel unworthy and like you’re never good enough. Being self-critical can paralyze you rather than boost you to get more done. It also disconnects you from your inner self and the Universe, making it harder to access your intuition or activate the Law of Attraction.

We’re also taught not to blow our own horn or shamelessly shout our own praise to the world. That’s considered to be prideful and self-centered. So we tend to hide our accomplishments and brush aside compliments. At the same time, we secretly crave acknowledgement and appreciation. These are normal and appropriate desires. It’s only when we abandon ourselves to seek approval from others that these natural impulses can become toxic.

What It Means to Acknowledge Yourself

But how can you find the appreciation you crave, when seeking it from others is disempowering? And how can you drive yourself without making yourself feel insignificant for not doing enough? The way you find this satisfaction is by acknowledging yourself and your accomplishments. When you do, you’re not being conceited or vain, but being honest about your efforts. Acknowledging yourself has nothing to do with building up your ego to feel better than someone else. It has nothing to do with anyone but you and what’s right about you. This is the way the Universe has always seen you.

By acknowledging yourself, you are simply recognizing your authenticity and accomplishments. You give yourself credit for what you do and who you are. This connects you with your center and the Universe, which has always believed in you. You also have more clarity to direct the Law of Attraction. As you support yourself with this kindness and honesty, you validate yourself and accept that you have value.

The Reasons to Acknowledge Yourself

One of the things I do with clients is to have them acknowledge themselves and celebrate their accomplishments. Most of the time, they don’t realize how much they’ve done or how things have changed until we do this exercise. The following are tangible benefits of acknowledging yourself.

1. Raises your self-esteem. Your self-esteem derives from your sense of how much you respect yourself. When you begin to notice what’s good about you and what you have attained, your self-worth rises and you self-image improves. You believe more in yourself and your abilities, which mean you are willing to expand out of your comfort zone.

2. Increases your motivation. Don’t you want to do more when you feel like you’re making progress? For instance, you start to go through a pile of papers, filing things, and once you see how much you’ve whittled it down, you want to do more. The same is true when you pay attention to even the small wins in a day. It energizes and inspires you. You feel encouraged and to reach for more.

3. Improves your mood. Don’t you feel good when you check off tasks that you’ve completed? It activates the reward circuit in the brain and triggers the release of pleasure chemicals. The same is true when you celebrate your efforts. You feel better about yourself and life, and have more resources to deal with challenges.

Give yourself permission to celebrate who you are and your accomplishments. Consider your good qualities, your efforts, and your progress. By making this a daily practice, your life will be richer and happier. You’ll be meeting one of your deepest needs and empower yourself to fulfill more of your potential. The Universe would approve. What can you do today to acknowledge yourself?

Affirmation:

The Universe appreciates me just as I am. It believes in me and knows that I can achieve whatever I desire. I now give myself permission to acknowledge what’s good about me and the good that I do. I know that the Universe approves of and supports me in this activity.

Watch the accompanying video, How to Raise Your Self-Esteem by Acknowledging Yourself.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml