Some people object to boundaries, believing that they should accept the way other people treat them, no matter what. They have a mistaken belief that boundaries keep other people out. Boundaries actually give people a sense of security, knowing what is acceptable and what is not. Remember that the Universe has set boundaries for you. It’s called the Law of Cause and Effect. When you transgress, and do something less than enlightened, then you reap the consequences. It’s the same with the boundaries you have for other people. If they step over the line, then they get to experience the consequences. Boundaries don’t change other people, they just give them the opportunity to change the way they treat you.
Mindset is at the core of every success and blocks that you might have. It affects how you perceive the world and whether you feel capable of overcoming obstacles. You believe what you tell yourself and then act on those beliefs. To align your beliefs with your desired outcomes, use these strategies to shift your attitudes.
When you feel overwhelmed, your mind shuts down and you can feel paralyzed. So you deal with what’s immediate, or escape to watch cat videos. Instead, use tactics such as taking a walk, breathing or gratitude. If those don’t work, try these tips to keep calm and carry on.
Emotional manipulators defy logic. They derive satisfaction from controlling you and creating chaos. They can cause you to doubt yourself and destroy your self-esteem. But you can learn how to spot them. When you do, trust yourself and stay away from them. They don’t want to be a positive force in your life.
Not everyone is going to approve of you, your opinions or your decisions. And that’s okay. There’s no way anyone can give you unconditional approval, no matter how much they love you. Remember the old saying, “You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time.” (Abraham Lincoln) The same is true of approval. The best thing you can do for yourself and everyone else is to live up to your own values and please yourself.
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Last month, I was interviewed for Jamie Lynn Warber’s Breakthrough & Thrive
– Awaken Your Voice Summit. The summit empowered sexual abuse and trauma
survivors to take charge of their power, healing and happiness. Jamie and I
were connected through another podcast host and I jumped at the chance to reach
these women with my message.
As a hypnotherapist and coach for 30 years, I’ve helped many
sexual abuse survivors achieve their goals. Whether to heal from the trauma,
break habits or improve their life, I discovered that they needed to improve
their self-esteem to be successful. They had to come to realize that they
deserved success before they could achieve it.
These women and this subject are very dear to my heart, as
it is to Jamie Lynn’s, who is a sexual abuse survivor. She shared some of her
story, which was touching and brave of her.
She’s incredibly heart-centered. In our discussion, we explored why
self-esteem is necessary to be successful.
I also gave several strategies and exercises that listeners can use to
raise their self-esteem and sense of self-worth.
It was a delightful discussion. I enjoyed talking with her so much. Even after the interview, we continued chatting for almost an hour, sharing our philosophies, perspectives and experiences. I remain in touch with her, and hope to be on future summits of hers. For now, I keep in touch with her Facebook page, Arise Empowered, LLC. If you’re a sexual abuse and/or trauma survivor, I recommend you check it out.
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Recently, I was honored to be interviewed on a podcast by Beverly Zeimet. She’s the owner of the Identity Revelation Network, helping you to find the real you, your true purpose in life and build your self-esteem, self-worth and all parts of the self. Her podcast, Being the Best You … You Can BE with Beverly Zeimet, has been interviewing people to help viewers get past their limitations and fulfill their potential.
Beverly and I have known each other for some time. Our interview covered my coaching system which helps people develop an empowered mindset and a consistent focus to achieve their vision of success. She had some great points to make, such as discipline isn’t a bad word. Discipline has to do with respect, both self-respect and respect for others. We had a wonderful conversation, and I had a great time with her.
At one point, my internet froze. That’s one of the challenges of living in Northern Arizona. But we just waited a few seconds until it unfroze, and took up the conversation again. I hope you enjoy this interview, and come away with some tips that can help you in your success.
If you’d like to watch more of Beverly’s podcasts, like her on Facebook or her YouTube channel.
As a society, we’re addicted to our phones, which constantly keeps our attention engaged. This is antithetical to creativity and innovation, which needs space to breathe. Instead of wiring your brain for distraction, experiment with the four strategies this article suggests to unplug so you can be open to new ideas.
People fool themselves into thinking they’re more productive when they multitask because it’s so satisfying. Instead, you’re wasting precious focus and energy. This article highlights specifically how multitasking impairs efficiency and productivity.
The more we remain openhearted to ourselves the more available we are to others. We must first become our own best friend so that we are better poised to make a difference in our lives and the lives of others and ultimately impact the greater good for all. Use the strategies in this article to improve your relationship with yourself.
When you care about what other people think, they will always have power over you. Other people’s opinions have nothing to do with you and you’ll never be able to please everyone. Using the mindset shifts in this article will allow you to live more authentically and reclaim your power.
in your head constantly comments on what and how you’re doing. But instead of
being objective, most of the time it’s negative and holds you back. You don’t
have to give it so much power over you. You can tame it with these tactics.
Many times we’re more compassionate towards others than we are to ourselves. It’s time to show the same kindness you have for others and show it to yourself. When you exhibit self-compassion towards yourself, your perception of yourself and your life will change. Practice just a few of these tips and notice how your life improves.
So many stimuli compete for your attention each day that by the end of it, your brain feels like scrambled eggs. You can prevent that from happening by being more conscious of how you divide your attention over specific tasks. Here are three ways to keep your focus flowing.
Negative thoughts only affect you if you give them power. But all too often they catch your attention and disturb your effectiveness. But you have the ability to turn that around and reduce their damage. You have control over your mind, and this article gives you some direction on how to take charge.
The imposter syndrome typically happens to high achieving individuals who have a hard time adjusting to their success. It refers to the fear of being found out that their success is due to luck and not their abilities. This article explores this syndrome so you can understand it more fully and suggests ways to combat it.
Remember the movie, “It’s A Wonderful Life,” with James Stewart and Donna Reed? He’s a man who believed that he lived an insignificant life. Until, that is, he had a vision of what the life of his small town would have been without him. And he discovered that he was important to the well-being and abundance of his environment. Everyone had been impacted by his existence. The same is true of you. You are necessary to the Universe to be right where you are. You perform valuable services for the Universe just by being you. Everything you do creates ripples in the pond of space and time and affects others, people you’ll probably never know, that might even last for generations. So believe in your own importance and significance.
Five Myths about Gratitude
Does gratitude make us lazy? A naïve form of positive thinking? Robert Emmons, the world’s leading scientific expert on gratitude, debunks some common myths and misconceptions. Many of these misconceptions deter people from practicing gratitude—and reaping its many rewards.
14 Health Benefits of Practicing Gratitude According to Science
Through the work of leading researchers like Robert Emmons and Martin Seligman, we know that the virtue of gratitude is more than just saying, “thank you.” Studies offer insights into how a person can improve their overall happiness, health and well-being. In this article, you will discover that expressing gratitude reduces stress, increases optimism, and changes your brain and ways you can do it.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart