Oct 152018
 

Sparks of Insight“People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

Circumstances don’t make us happy or miserable, the way we perceive them do. I’ve known people with all the advantages you could hope for, and they were miserable. And I’ve known people who had very little who were generally happy. The way you view your life and its events causes you to be positive or negative. It’s the same thing as considering a glass half-empty or half-full. Both are correct, but which of those views causes the greater satisfaction?

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Oct 052018
 

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7 Toxic Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate
Many times, we accept behaviors from close loved ones that we would never tolerate in acquaintances or friends. We do this so we don’t rock the boat and can maintain the relationship. But there are some behaviors that are so toxic that we shouldn’t excuse them. Here are some of the worst.

How To Survive (And Even Thrive) As An Introvert At Work
People tend to think that introverts are shy or stuck-up, but that’s not the case. Introverts just need time to themselves to recharge. But most workplaces reward extroverts, even though introverts make good leaders. If you’re an introvert, instead of trying to change yourself, why don’t you leverage your strengths. This article explains some ways you can do that.

How to Calm Down Anxiety When Your Brain is in Overdrive
Everyone experiences stress and anxiety at some point. The problem is when you can’t calm yourself down after a threat has passed. If you’re experiencing chronic anxiety and having panic attacks, here are eight tips to ease them.

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Sep 212018
 

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How to Make Others Feel Significant
You want to appreciate others for their efforts and contributions. But there’s a big difference between appreciating people and making them feel significant. Because sometimes you don’t actually show them how much their support has meant to you. When you actually do things to show them how much they matter to you, then they feel significant.

How to Make Your Priority a Priority
Many times, you think you have a priority, but you don’t treat it that way. It gets shunted aside for something more immediate or convenient. It’s all too easy to get distracted and sidetracked. This article has 5 timely tips on how to actually make your priority a priority so you make sure you act on it.

12 Powerful Tips to Overcome Negative Thoughts (and Embrace Positive Thinking)
It can sometimes be difficult to maintain a positive attitude when there are other people around you who are negative. Or when you’re having a series of setbacks or obstacles. If you take just one of these tips and practice it, it will make it easier for you to be positive. They help reframe situations and thought processes to make a real change in your life.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sep 122018
 

A lot of people have a strong inner critic that tears them down, no matter what they do. Instead of helping you, this can undermine your confidence and motivation. To combat this critical inner voice, build yourself up by appreciating yourself and what you do. Linda-Ann will share some specific tips that will cause you to feel better about yourself and accomplish more.



Transcript:

Thank you for joining me. I’m LAS. A lot of people have a strong inner critic. Do you? It’s a part of you who is always criticizing you and everything you do… or don’t do. It tells you that you’re not good enough, not doing enough, not accomplishing enough… just not enough.

Many of my clients have said that they just didn’t feel like they were enough. That was the way they put it, “I don’t feel like I’m enough.” Have you ever felt that way? You may think that always criticizing yourself can push you to do more, but the opposite is, in fact, true. It can actually sabotage you because it undermines your confidence and motivation. I mean, why try when it’s never enough, right?

Today, I want to give you some specific ways you can respond to the constant criticism you hear from yourself. These tips help to shift your attention to something more positive and build you up rather than tear you down. It’s something I do with my clients, both in my coaching and hypnotherapy practice.

Linda-Ann Stewart of Heartvision Consulting, vision strategist. Using my 30 years of experience as a hypnotherapist, I help women business owners and entrepreneurs align their heart with their vision, chart their course and focus on the strategies that will bring them greater success and prosperity on their terms.

When we talk, I urge them to pay attention to what has changed or improved since our last session. To what they have accomplished. Many of them first tell me nothing is different. But as they talk, they realize just how much has changed and what they have accomplished.

We focus on their progress, and by doing so, are able to build on it. It’s a simple technique of acknowledging what they’ve done, instead of focusing on what they haven’t done. When you focus on what you HAVE done, then you’re motivated to do more. You build up momentum, because you’re feeling successful. And success breeds success.

For instance, I once had a friend, Laura, who used this technique of acknowledging what she’d done. She had a strong inner critic that paralyzed her. Do you ever feel that way? She discovered a way to combat that inner critic. She’d acknowledge her small wins each day. In her journal, she’d list that she’d eaten breakfast, fed the dog, washed her dishes, etc.

These are all daily tasks that had to be done each day, right? And you might wonder why she’d write down these daily tasks shortly after she got up. But it made her feel like she’d accomplished something. It triggered the reward circuit in her brain and released pleasure chemicals into her body. It energized her to keep going and do more. It got her out of the paralysis. Sounds good, right?

I’m sure you’ve heard of a gratitude journal, where you write down things that you’re grateful for each day. Some research is now showing that doing the same thing with your accomplishments, no matter how small, can turn your mood around and make you feel more motivated. It can make you feel like you’re good enough, just like when my clients would start to acknowledge their changes. Acknowledging 3 small wins each day for 7 days can lift your self-esteem for 3 months. Wouldn’t that be great? And it’s simple to do.

Just make a commitment to recognize what you’ve done during the day. It can be in a journal form, or on your phone or calendar. You can acknowledge small achievements, like my friend Laura did, or bigger ones. But don’t just limit this to your accomplishments. Also recognize when you’ve made a small step forward. Not just that you’ve finished a project, but that you’ve worked on a small part of it. Give yourself credit for your effort, not just the results. What can you acknowledge yourself for today?

For instance, acknowledge when you declined that donut, or only had one bite of it, or had a salad for lunch. When you balanced your checkbook or paid down your credit card. Or when you made that one follow up call you’d been dreading. All of these are valid actions to celebrate.

Other items you can appreciate about yourself are your strengths, your values, and your talents. For instance, you are consistent in sending out an ezine every month. That’s something to acknowledge. Or when you fulfill a promise, to yourself or someone else, like being on time for a lunch date. Or if you’ve been wanting to draw, and finally put a pencil to paper, that’s something to be proud of.

When you begin to focus on what’s good about you and what you do, instead of what’s negative, you’ll feel better about yourself. You’re praising yourself for being who you are in your life. You’ll feel like you’re making progress, which is important. Because progress means you’re moving forward. It’s encouraging and inspiring. And isn’t that a better way to motivate yourself?

If you’d like some help in achieving your goals, apply for a complimentary Clarify Your Vision coaching consultation.

Thank you for watching. I hope to hear from you that acknowledging yourself has made you feel more motivated and enough. Take care.

Read the accompanying article, 3 Reasons to Acknowledge and Appreciate Yourself.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml
Sep 112018
 

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“The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” William James, pioneer in psychology

Most of us tend to be hard on ourselves. We’re highly self-critical, paying more attention to what we haven’t done than what we have. Although we think this helps push us to be better, to achieve our goals, it actually does the opposite. Criticizing yourself is demoralizing and discouraging, and it undermines your motivation and productivity. It makes you feel unworthy and like you’re never good enough. Being self-critical can paralyze you rather than boost you to get more done. It also disconnects you from your inner self and the Universe, making it harder to access your intuition or activate the Law of Attraction.

We’re also taught not to blow our own horn or shamelessly shout our own praise to the world. That’s considered to be prideful and self-centered. So we tend to hide our accomplishments and brush aside compliments. At the same time, we secretly crave acknowledgement and appreciation. These are normal and appropriate desires. It’s only when we abandon ourselves to seek approval from others that these natural impulses can become toxic.

What It Means to Acknowledge Yourself

But how can you find the appreciation you crave, when seeking it from others is disempowering? And how can you drive yourself without making yourself feel insignificant for not doing enough? The way you find this satisfaction is by acknowledging yourself and your accomplishments. When you do, you’re not being conceited or vain, but being honest about your efforts. Acknowledging yourself has nothing to do with building up your ego to feel better than someone else. It has nothing to do with anyone but you and what’s right about you. This is the way the Universe has always seen you.

By acknowledging yourself, you are simply recognizing your authenticity and accomplishments. You give yourself credit for what you do and who you are. This connects you with your center and the Universe, which has always believed in you. You also have more clarity to direct the Law of Attraction. As you support yourself with this kindness and honesty, you validate yourself and accept that you have value.

The Reasons to Acknowledge Yourself

One of the things I do with clients is to have them acknowledge themselves and celebrate their accomplishments. Most of the time, they don’t realize how much they’ve done or how things have changed until we do this exercise. The following are tangible benefits of acknowledging yourself.

1. Raises your self-esteem. Your self-esteem derives from your sense of how much you respect yourself. When you begin to notice what’s good about you and what you have attained, your self-worth rises and you self-image improves. You believe more in yourself and your abilities, which mean you are willing to expand out of your comfort zone.

2. Increases your motivation. Don’t you want to do more when you feel like you’re making progress? For instance, you start to go through a pile of papers, filing things, and once you see how much you’ve whittled it down, you want to do more. The same is true when you pay attention to even the small wins in a day. It energizes and inspires you. You feel encouraged and to reach for more.

3. Improves your mood. Don’t you feel good when you check off tasks that you’ve completed? It activates the reward circuit in the brain and triggers the release of pleasure chemicals. The same is true when you celebrate your efforts. You feel better about yourself and life, and have more resources to deal with challenges.

Give yourself permission to celebrate who you are and your accomplishments. Consider your good qualities, your efforts, and your progress. By making this a daily practice, your life will be richer and happier. You’ll be meeting one of your deepest needs and empower yourself to fulfill more of your potential. The Universe would approve. What can you do today to acknowledge yourself?

Affirmation:

The Universe appreciates me just as I am. It believes in me and knows that I can achieve whatever I desire. I now give myself permission to acknowledge what’s good about me and the good that I do. I know that the Universe approves of and supports me in this activity.

Watch the accompanying video, How to Raise Your Self-Esteem by Acknowledging Yourself.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml

Tips on How to Program Yourself to Be Positive

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Jul 182018
 

Are you as successful as you’d like, either personally or professionally? One of the main places to address to help you rise higher in your life is your mindset. When you have a positive attitude, it nourishes your overall mindset and sets you up to be more successful. Join me to learn 4 tips that can help you be more upbeat and open to more possibilities.



Transcript:
Are you as successful as you’d like, either personally or professionally? Probably not, because there’s always room for improvement, isn’t there? One of the main places to address to help you rise higher in your life is your mindset. So I’d like to talk a little bit about why a positive mindset is so important and some tips to keep you upbeat that allows you to program your mind for success.

I’m a vision strategist. I work with women service professionals and small business entrepreneurs chart a course for their business that keeps them focused and on track so they experience success on their terms.

And a major part of our work is to align their heart (mindset and passion) with their vision. Do you have problems with your mindset being positive? When I say ‘mindset,’ I’m not just talking about having positive beliefs or attitudes.

Your mindset is a combination of combination of thoughts, beliefs and attitudes about yourself, your vision and your business. It affects your actions, behaviors and the way people respond to you. And it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You could set yourself up to fulfill a negative expectation when you don’t take an action that would benefit you, or go into a situation believing you’ll fail. Had a situation like that? Having a positive attitude could be helpful because it could improve the overall quality of your mindset.

A positive attitude isn’t a guarantee of success. I wish it was. But you have a much higher likelihood of being successful if you have a positive attitude versus having a negative attitude.

To be more positive, you have to start cleaning up your exposure to negativity, and focus more on activities, mental nourishment and associations that are more constructive. I don’t suggest you just wall yourself off from distressing news and only surround yourself with good cheer and live in a happy cloud. It’s important that you keep up with current events and exercise your compassion and empathy. I just mean don’t get stuck or wallow in painful or upsetting news and information. You want to stay balanced and realistic, just not succumb to pessimism and cynicism.

Do things that keep you upbeat, positive and open to the possibilities. Here are 4 tips on how to do this:

1. Minimize your news consumption. You can be aware and knowledgeable about what’s going on without watching or reading the news 24/7. Focus on what you can change, first in your life, and then in the world.

2. Read uplifting books.
These can be self-help, personal development, spiritual, biographies of those who have overcome odds, novels. In essence, anything that causes you to feel empowered and creates a belief that you can meet any challenge life throws at you. Because you can.

3. Watch inspirational videos. YouTube and the internet is filled with these. Check out TedTalks. You could also watch funny videos that raise your mood.

4. Associate with positive people. We all know people who enjoy criticizing, putting others down and ridiculing them. Avoid them as much as you can. Instead, surround yourself as much as possible with those who are optimistic, encouraging and constructive. You become like those you hang around with.

These are just a few tips on how to focus on the positive side of life. If you do a little research, you can find many others, such as positive self-talk and exercise. As you keep your attention on the positive, you’re building new, more resourceful pathways in the brain, so it becomes easier as time goes on. And it lifts your entire mindset, so your actions are more influential and effective.

If you’d like more tips on how to increase your productivity and accelerate your success, as well as another tip on how to be more positive, download my free guide, Take Control of Your Day.

Thank you for watching. I hope you take these tips and use them to create more success in your life.

Read the accompanying article, How to Program Yourself for Success.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml

Sparks of Insight

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Jul 162018
 

Sparks of Insight“The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity.” – Winston Churchill

This is another way of putting the old idea of, “Do you see the glass as half full or half empty?” Studies have shown that the way you approach life, with optimism or pessimism, can predict how successful you’ll be. When you see opportunity in every situation, whether it appears to be beneficial or detrimental, then you’ll likely reap the reality of your attitude.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Jul 022018
 

Sparks of Insight“It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect it’s successful outcome.” – William James

If you begin a project with that belief that it’s going to fail, guess what? It probably will. However, if at the start of the process, you have the attitude that success is a strong possibility, if not probability, and that you’re going to do whatever you have to bring it about, then you have a very good chance of being successful. At the beginning of any change, project, or task, check your negative attitude at the door. It doesn’t pay to carry it forward.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Jun 292018
 

Woman with outstretched arms 7 Practical Tips to Achieve a Positive Mindset
Studies have proven there are multiple physical and mental benefits to positive thinking. But it’s sometimes easier said than done to get into a positive frame of mind. These tips show you how to prioritize your mental well-being

How to See (Clearly) What You Want to Accomplish
As you begin your workday, it’s all too easy to get dragged into dealing with the immediate, instead of what your priorities are. Focus is key to get done what’s important to you. Visualization is a helpful tool to allow you to keep your focus, rehearse for challenges, and practice the steps you need to take to get to your goal. This article gives you specific steps for your morning focusing routine so your day goes more smoothly.

Discover the 7 Key Traits of an ‘Abundance Mindset’
In life, you can choose between viewing the world as abundant or limited in terms of love, relationships, wealth and resources. Your mindset determines your choices. When you choose to view the world as abundant, you have a greater experience of life. And you always have a choice.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Jun 142018
 

Sun RaysWhy Attitude Is More Important Than Intelligence
Most people think that intelligence will lead to success. But research has disputed that concept. Apparently, success is more dependent on whether you think you can grow and improve. They outperform people with high intelligence, but who believe that they cannot change. Fortunately, you can change that fixed attitude and be more able to solve problems and overcome challenges. This article gives 7 tips on how to develop the type of attitude that will bring you success.

Who Do You Think You Are? Why You Could Be Wrong
We tend to label ourselves, and act within the framework of that identity. These roles were developed when we were children, when we adapted to the clues from our parents and other adults around us. When we grow up, we rarely reassess them to determine if those ideas are true. Many times, they aren’t.

4 Actionable Steps to Build a Positive Money Mindset
Many entrepreneurs are realizing that they have limiting beliefs and attitudes about money. Those ideas keep them from taking positive action that yield success. Believe it or not, you have a relationship with money, either positive or negative. To be a successful business person, you need to heal that relationship and release the negative associations you have with it. Follow these tips to begin appreciating this resource.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart