Dec 062018
 

Success Signpost

Are you afraid of success? That may seem like a ridiculous question, because most people consciously want success in their endeavors. But being successful can bring change, and some people may not be ready for all that means. When they get close to success, they back away from or sabotage it.

For instance, they turn down an opportunity, justifying it by saying, “It just wasn’t right.” Or they resist or procrastinate taking action that could take them to the next level. They don’t make the phone call or follow up on a lead that could bring them a sale. By default, they stay with what they know, even if it’s uncomfortable. The idea of success stirs up fears that prevent them from moving forward.

What you focus on grows, including fear. The Law of Attraction, instructed by what you’re paying attention to, will attract more of what you don’t want. If you’re feeling inadequate, and that’s why you fear success, the Law of Attraction will draw more opportunities for you to feel that way.

Becoming aware of what you’re doing is the first step to remedying the situation. The next step is to understand what specific fear is prompting your resistance. Only then can you overcome it, recognizing it for the falsehood it is. Here are some of the reasons that could be at the core of your fear of success.

1. Fear of visibility. You avoid calling attention to yourself because of past rejection. For you, appreciation or acknowledgement would be uncomfortable and even threatening. But isn’t being able to share your gifts more important than staying safely hidden in the shadows?

2. Fear of criticism. There’s a difference between criticism and feedback. Criticism has a mean-spirited component to it. It’s never pleasant and chips away at your self-confidence. Whether you succeed or fail, it’s going to attract disapproval from someone. Why not do what you want and deal with the censure on your terms?

3. Fear the envy of others. This is very similar to the fear of criticism. Jealous people will try to belittle you to build up their egos. Generally, their jealousy isn’t about you. It’s more about the person who is trying to tear you down. Holding yourself back isn’t going to help them feel better. You might as well let yourself shine.

4. Fear of the responsibility. Greater success brings greater responsibility, and that can be scary. You may feel that you aren’t capable of handling these extra demands. But as more responsibility comes to you, you grow to meet the challenge. Think of it like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it becomes.

5. Fear you’re not ready.
You may feel you don’t have the skills or competency for the next step. If you wait until you feel ready, your time may never come. There’s always going to be something else to learn or ability to develop. As long as you’re willing to improve your knowledge, you’ll grow into your success.

6. Fear of disappointment.
You have an image of what success would look or feel like. Is it better to keep it as a dream rather than risk it not living up to your expectations? If it doesn’t, you’ll still have gained so much more than you have now. You’ll have learned how to achieve that success, and apply it to a new dream.

7. Fear of what else could change in your life. You may be concerned about how much time you’ll have to devote to your success. Or uneasy that your lifestyle might be turned upside down. You will have to let go of mental and physical habits that have outlived their usefulness. But you’ll still be in control of your choices. If you don’t like what has changed, you can always make different decisions.

All these fears bring old ideas about yourself to the surface, such as unworthiness, incompetence, or incapability. Being successful would mean that these concepts are false, and you’d have to shift your self-image. This is a massive change in itself. That could be the core of all the anxiety you experience. The Universe believes in you and created you to be successful.

Once you have identified what you’re specifically afraid of, it no longer controls you. You can take measures to overcome the fear. Refuse to allow it to hold you back any longer. Forge ahead and claim the success that’s always been waiting for you.

AFFIRMATION:
The Universe believes in me and created me to be successful. I believe in myself and my capabilities. Infinite Intelligence will guide and direct me, bringing me whatever I need to be successful. With the help of the Universe, I can handle whatever comes up. I am now ready to let go of my fears and accept the help and the confidence of the Universe.

Watch the accompanying video, Guided Meditation to Overcome Your Fear of Success.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml
Nov 162018
 

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3 Simple Habits for Daily Mindfulness
Many people make themselves miserable because they’re reliving a painful past memory or worrying about the future. Those tendencies do not allow you to enjoy your life or be effective in it. Instead, when you’re able to be fully present in the moment, you can be healthier, happier and more productive.

The Surprising Way to Find Answers to Your Problems
Everyone has problems that they need to find solutions for. Some solutions are easier to find than others. When you can find the answer after trying your normal avenues, maybe it’s time to try something different. This article has a creative technique for you to use to think about your question in a new way so you find the answer you seek.

Thought Watching Exercises to Increase Awareness & Reduce Anxiety
We often go about our business without noticing what our mind is telling us because we are too busy with our hectic lives. Some of the advice is probably helpful, but some of it may not be. And if we follow it, we aren’t happy about where we end up. Once you can become aware of your thoughts, you can determine whether they’re constructive or negative. This article gives valuable skills on how to develop the awareness that can put you in the drivers seat of your mind.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Nov 062018
 

Sparks of InsightIt’s been said that, “It’s better to give than receive.” You’re taught from the time you can understand that giving is so much “better.” For many people, with all that conditioning, it’s actually harder for them to receive than to give. When you’re giving, you’re in control. You’re being “good.” When you’re on the receiving end, then you’re vulnerable, and some people may feel that they’re being “selfish.” But for a person to give, there must be a receiver. And the receiver blesses the giver by accepting the gift. So if it’s hard for you to receive even a compliment, remember that by graciously accepting it, you’re giving the other person a present of love.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Nov 012018
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

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In an aircraft, the autopilot is a tool to assist the plane to stay on course, allowing the pilot to attend to other things. The autopilot guides the plane based on information it receives from other systems. Unfortunately, those systems aren’t perfect and accumulate errors over time, and course corrections will need to be made. The same thing is true of your life.

How many times do you lay your keys or glasses down and then don’t remember where they are? Do you ever eat a cookie without remembering doing it, but find crumbs on your hand later? Your mind was on other things while your body acted automatically. What about your relationships? Do you expect they will to continue to grow without tending them?

Before cellphones, I had a boyfriend who put me near the bottom of his list of priorities. Everything in his life came before his agreements with me. If he’d promised to meet me at a restaurant, but a neighbor dropped in for coffee, he’d leave me waiting for hours. He put our relationship on autopilot, and ignored my warnings that it was going off course. Eventually, he flew the relationship into the ground.

If you’re not paying attention, or just going through the motions, this can happen in any area of your life. At work, if you aren’t making any progress, it may be because you’re dealing with what’s immediate, and not what’s important. All your energy is going into being reactive and not proactive or intentional. You aren’t assessing to see if you’ve gotten off track and how you need to shift your priorities to meet your goals.

You Program Your Autopilot

Habits are a form of autopilot. By repeatedly performing a certain action or thinking a particular thought, it develops into an unconscious routine. It operates below your conscious awareness to fulfill its original purpose. Habits are valuable and useful, until they’re not. If you don’t notice when they’re no longer helpful, they will take your life into a vast wasteland.

You can’t live your entire life being aware of every single thought and action. It would use up too much mental and physical energy. That’s what your subconscious mind is for. You program it with your thoughts, beliefs, and what’s most important to you. The Law of Attraction works through your subconscious mind, drawing to you circumstances that will fit your strongest thoughts. And it [your subconscious and the Law of Attraction] works like an autopilot. It They helps keep you on the course that you’ve set by using habits.

Your conscious mind, which is rational, decides on your destination and actions. When it performs its job, it makes decisions that keep you on course. It also makes sure you stay aware of changing conditions in the environment and events. If it notices you’re getting off track, it makes adjustments. The key is that it has to periodically check in to assess if you’re going in the right direction.

When you’re living on autopilot, you’re blocking the flow of Divine inspiration and guidance. It can’t cut through your preoccupation. And you’re not giving the Law of Attraction any intentional direction, so it just gives you more of what you’re paying attention to.

How to Determine If You’re on Autopilot

Life gives you signals that you’re living on autopilot. You could be dealing with some of these issues:

  • What you’re doing isn’t taking you where you want to go.
  • Your habits or beliefs are in direct opposition to your goals.
  • You’re following someone else’s dream or instruction, and it’s making you miserable.
  • You say “Yes” to things when you really want to say, “No.”
  • You can’t remember anything that you’ve accomplished at the end of the day.
  • Your relationships chronically fall apart.
  • You know you’re sabotaging yourself and can feel it in your gut.

If you’ve experienced any of these, it’s time to take a step back, consider the situation and change course. You’ll have to make different decisions than the ones you’ve made and follow through on them. This means you’ll have to pay attention to what you’re doing so you can change the bad habits that have developed and make new ones.

An autopilot is a tool to help a pilot. But you can’t just set it and forget it, any more than you can your subconscious or the Law of Attraction. To stay on course, you need to monitor it and periodically make course corrections. That’s when the conscious mind comes into play. It sets your subconscious autopilot so it can take care of more important things. But every so often, your conscious mind needs to check in and see if you’re on track. It’s better to find out that you’re off course sooner than later, because it’s easier to change.

Affirmation:

The Universe supports all of my endeavors and approves of my choices. It guides and directs all of my decisions. I take charge of my thinking and my life. When I establish a goal or desire, I pay attention to whether I’m moving in that direction. I give the Law of Attraction intentional direction. If I need to make changes, I do so quickly.

Watch the accompanying video The Decisions That Keep You on Course.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml

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Oct 192018
 

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It’s Official: Open Plan Offices Are Now the Dumbest Management Fad of All Time
A new study from Harvard reveals that open plan offices decrease rather than increase face-to-face collaboration. Instead, coworkers start using messaging and email more frequently, cutting down on actual interaction. Overall productivity suffers, as well. Businesses are losing money due to this attempt to cut costs.

6 tips to help overcome your addiction to approval seeking
When you try to seek other people’s approval, or rebel by seeking their disapproval, you compromise yourself. Always trying to please others means that you’ll accept whatever attention they give you, even if it’s abusive. As you stop worrying about what other people think of you, you reclaim your power over your life.

Your Words Are Powerful: 8 Positive Speaking Habits to Build Yourself Up
If you have ever put yourself down, then you’ve unconsciously sabotaged your success. Your mind believes you and will follow what you say. However, you can rewire your brain and your habits to be more positive and supportive. Using these 8 tips of how to talk to yourself could change the course of your life.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Oct 122018
 

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Psychology has identified three mindsets shared by people who actually follow through on their goals
Your mindset will determine whether you’re successful or not. It determines whether you’ll keep going when the going gets tough and whether you believe in yourself and what you’re doing. And one piece of good news is that you can change your attitude. It’s not set in stone. This article shares 3 tips on how to shift your attitude so that it supports your goals.

7 Scientific Benefits of Reading Printed Books
I much prefer reading a print book because I like the look and feel of it. Recently, people have been going back to reading printed books, and there are scientific reasons why that’s a good thing. They’re better for your brain and your health. Find out the reasons why printed books are better for you than ebooks.

17 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself
The best person to be your friend is yourself. When you treat yourself as you would treat a good friend, your self-worth increases. In order to do that, you have to treat yourself with kindness. The only person you’re going to consistently have in your life is you. Wouldn’t you like to have a good relationship with that person?

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Oct 052018
 

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7 Toxic Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate
Many times, we accept behaviors from close loved ones that we would never tolerate in acquaintances or friends. We do this so we don’t rock the boat and can maintain the relationship. But there are some behaviors that are so toxic that we shouldn’t excuse them. Here are some of the worst.

How To Survive (And Even Thrive) As An Introvert At Work
People tend to think that introverts are shy or stuck-up, but that’s not the case. Introverts just need time to themselves to recharge. But most workplaces reward extroverts, even though introverts make good leaders. If you’re an introvert, instead of trying to change yourself, why don’t you leverage your strengths. This article explains some ways you can do that.

How to Calm Down Anxiety When Your Brain is in Overdrive
Everyone experiences stress and anxiety at some point. The problem is when you can’t calm yourself down after a threat has passed. If you’re experiencing chronic anxiety and having panic attacks, here are eight tips to ease them.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Sep 072018
 

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Never Mistake Activity for Achievement
Just because you’re taking action doesn’t mean you’re accomplishing much. Take multi-tasking. You’re always in motion, but don’t actually get much done. Learn 4 tips on how to accomplish more from a famous basketball coach’s model.

The Psychology Behind Messy Rooms: Why The Most Creative People Flourish In Clutter
I have to admit, I’m not the neatest person. I like to have my projects out in the open so they stay top of mind. Now research seems to be bearing out the idea that too much tidiness and organization can stifle creativity. This is a very entertaining article exploring the idea that messiness may help innovation.

8 Keys to Handling Adult Bullies
I don’t know about you, but I’ve encountered bullies in my adult life. I’m sure you have, too. And sometimes, it can be confusing as to how to deal with them. However, it is possible to get them to respect you. This article gives you some great direction on how to handle these challenging people and stay safe.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Making Your Priorities Important

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Aug 152018
 

It’s sometimes hard to keep your priorities straight. You’re pulled in different directions, especially when other people want something from you. But your priorities are important and necessary if you’re going to achieve any goal. And the most important person to please is yourself. Here are 3 tips on how to respect your priorities and set them first in your life.



Transcript:
Thank you for watching. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart, a vision strategist. Sometimes, it’s just so hard to keep your priorities straight, isn’t it? You’re pulled in different directions. You have competing agendas from yourself and other people.

For instance, let’s say you want to lose 10 pounds, but you also want a piece of your coworker’s birthday cake. It’s really a hard choice. One part of you wants to lose the weight, the other wants the cake. Future benefits vs immediate gratification, and the cake is right there in front of you. But if you don’t focus on your priorities, which are for your future benefit, you sabotage what you want to accomplish, don’t you? I mean, that 10 pounds will always remain because of all the temptations, unless you prioritize your priorities.

And it’s not just sugar that can be your downfall. When you want to accomplish some goal, it’s all to easy to get distracted by small tasks and other peoples desires, isn’t it? Being able to stick to your priorities is important if you ever want to achieve your goals. It doesn’t matter if your goal is personal or professional. You have to make it a priority above other things. This is what propels you forward so that you reach your goal or dream. And this is one of the things I help my coaching clients with.

I specialize in working with women service professionals and entrepreneurs, who spin their wheels and get stuck as their business runs them. Using my 30 years of experience as a hypnotherapist, I help them chart their course and develop the strategies that will accelerate their business to the next level and beyond. And I’d like to share a some tips that I share with my clients.

One of the things that gets in the say of sticking to your priorities is other people’s desires. They want something from you and it can be hard to disappoint them, can’t it? It’s hard to know when it’s appropriate to give them what they want and when it’s not. Especially for women. All too often, we put off our priorities to please others, don’t we?

But priorities are called that for a reason. When you prioritize something, and follow through on it, you’re establishing that it’s important to you. It’s more important than what other people want from you, or than the other tasks and minutiae that crop up to distract you. A priority takes precedence over all that, right?

How can you approve of your priorities, rather than seeking approval from other people? The most important person to please is yourself. If you constantly put your priorities aside for other people, you’ll never get them done. It may feel selfish, but, if you think about it, so is breathing.

By fulfilling your priorities, you’re committing to a certain course of action that will take you to a goal and you’re dedicating your time and effort to towards it. The priority of your goal comes first on the list of things to accomplish.

Life can get in the way, sometimes, and you can get sidetracked, can’t you? But if you establish your priorities, and respect them, you’ll stay on track to accomplish your goal. And your goal is a step towards your dream or vision. So how can you set your priorities first?

1. Set strong boundaries. Let people know what you’ll do and what you won’t do. When you’ll help and when you won’t. And don’t make exceptions, except in a true emergency.

2. Prioritize your priorities. When they’re they most important thing in your mind, that changes the way you think about them and how you respond to distractions and others demands. When you’re faced with temptation, remember that you’ve set your priority above anything else.

3. Take action on your priorities.
Take 1 step, do 1 thing. Your brain and subconscious likes accomplishment, even if it’s small. Your subconscious and brain will use that to keep your motivation up and momentum going.

These are 3 steps you can take to make sure you fulfill your priorities. When you act on them, you’ll have more success in achieving your goal, dream and vision.

If you’d like some help in achieving your goals, apply for a complimentary Clarify Your Vision coaching consultation.

Thank you for watching. As you take care of your priorities, your goal will take care of itself.

Read the article that accompanies this video, Don’t Let Distractions Crush Your Dreams.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml

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Aug 102018
 

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Prioritization – More Important Than Any Productivity Technique
Productivity doesn’t mean to get more tasks done. That’s just a way of staying and looking busy and it’s neither efficient or effective. True productivity means to get the most important task done. The one that will drive you closer to your goal. To that end, you need to prioritize what is most important and do that task first.

How to Support Yourself When Your Emotions Don’t
Our emotions are valuable because they provide us with important information. But sometimes our emotions steer us down the wrong path, and we can make self-destructive decisions based on them. This article explores how to determine when our emotions aren’t being helpful and what we can do in that case.

Take a Mindful Moment: 5 Simple Practices for Daily Life
From frustrating to impatient, your experiences each day give you opportunities to practice mindfulness. And it doesn’t need to take much time to reclaim your calm and reason. It just needs a bit of consideration and practice. Explore these simple practices to breathe more peace into your day.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart