The Persistence of Your Dream

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Apr 192017
 

Do you have a dream that keeps surfacing, but you haven’t done anything about. It’s something that you really want, daydream about, but don’t take any action on. Don’t abandon it. Pursue it. Learn why failure isn’t an excuse to quit trying, and how to keep going. This video accompanies this month’s article, Say “Yes” to Your Vision.




Transcript:
Do you have a dream that keeps surfacing, but you haven’t done anything about? However, it keeps trying to get your attention, like a persistent itch. It just won’t let you alone.

What will it take for you to decide to scratch that itch, or pursue your dream? Maybe you’ll find that it’s not for you or that it’s not important enough. If so, that’s a signal to let go of that dream and move on to another one.

However, if you fail, get blocked or have a set-back, that’s not a signal to quit. It’s a signal to keep going. Most people don’t succeed the first time they follow through on a vision.

Did you know that, on average, it takes 30 attempts before a person successfully quits smoking? 30. But if a smoker keeps at it, each time, they learn what works for them and what doesn’t. That knowledge is used for the next attempt, and the next, until they’re successful.

On average, an entrepreneur will fail 4 times before they succeed. Being an entrepreneur means you have a learning curve. And you have to have the commitment to keep learning and keep going. Each time you try your chance of succeeding increases.

To begin to fulfill your dream, start taking micro-steps in its direction. It will help you get used to the idea of moving towards it and help create that habit.

Failure, setbacks or obstacles aren’t a signal to quit. If your vision persists, they’re signs to keep going, that you have more to learn. Have the commitment to move forward, to learn and grow, and keep applying that knowledge. Only then will that itch be satisfied.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sparks of Insight

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Apr 142017
 

Sparks of InsightEveryday we have an undercurrent of statements that we repeat to ourselves. Most of them are neutral as we talk our way through our day. But many of the statements are self-derogatory. Putting ourselves down and criticizing what we do. How would a friend respond to this kind of condemnation? The Universe certainly doesn’t believe this way. You are your best friend, and need to treat yourself as one. Become aware of your automatic remarks, challenge them, and change them into positive ones.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Mar 232017
 

The 10 Proven Habits of the Happiest People In The World
After studying the research on happiness, the author shares the interesting habits of happy people. They range from choosing happiness and mindset to taking care of themselves. If you cultivate these habits, you’ll be much happier and have more self-esteem.

GC-S.KaibabTr-OohAah-sm-0888Exercise May Be As Valuable As Good Genes In Lowering Dementia Risk
We’re learning just how important that exercise is in every area of our lives, from emotional and mental health to physical health. Now, there’s evidence that exercise can be as great an influence on disease as genetic predisposition. Although they still don’t know which exercise or how much is necessary, benefits may come from just walking 3 days a week.

How To Become More Mindful Using Nothing But A Journal
Mindfulness is instrumental in reducing stress and increasing creativity. Unfortunately, many people associate learning mindfulness with a spa, retreat or sitting and meditating. It can be accomplished that way, but there is a simple way to practice it that’s much easier. Using a simple journal and a pen can help you develop this beneficial ability.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Meditation to Improve Your Self-Image

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Mar 142017
 

Your self-image affects everything about you and your life. The way you perceive yourself filters how you view and respond to the world. It’s built of beliefs, and beliefs can be changed. Watch and listen to this short meditation that will help you start to shift how you think about yourself so that it’s more positive.



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Your self-image is how you perceive yourself to be. And it affects your decisions, actions, attitudes and relationships. Your self-image is the filter for who you think you are and how you respond to situations around you. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy that you make true. But you can also change it because it’s build of beliefs. And beliefs can be changed. Here’s a short meditation to get you started.

If you want, close your eyes. Take a deep breath, let it out, and relax.

Consider what is right about you. Think of the things you’ve done that have been right and good. Reflect on what’s good, valuable and worthwhile about you. Contemplate what you like about yourself – your appearance, talents, characteristics. People view you as a good person. Think of all the compliments you’ve ever been given. Accept them. Allow yourself to feel the warmth of their glow. Now, consider the person you want to be. What do you need to believe to be that person? What if you start believing it now? What would change? You can start making those changes right now. How would that feel?

Open your eyes. When your negative self-talk starts to bring you down, shift your attention to what’s positive about you. This will help to improve your self-image and will make massive changes in your world.

Read the article, 3 Steps to Improving Your Self-Image, that inspired this meditation.

As a speaker, hypnotherapist, and vision coach, Linda-Ann Stewart helps business and professional women who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to create their vision, prioritize, and focus so they increase their productivity, prosperity and peace of mind. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, email her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com with "Complimentary Consultation" in the subject line.
Mar 082017
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

Self-esteem is a basic necessity for all success in personal and professional life. When you like and respect yourself, then you’re likely to make the choices that lead to creating the outcomes that you want. Your self-worth is created by your attitudes about yourself based on what ideas you accepted as a child and the things you tell yourself as an adult.

Your self-image plays a large part in the development of your self-esteem. Your self-image is formulated from your experiences, judgments, labels you’ve accepted, and your talents or your liabilities. These have helped to shape your beliefs about yourself that feed into your self-worth.
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You always act like the person you believe yourself to be. How do you see yourself? Do you perceive yourself as a competent and dynamic individual? Or do you doubt yourself and your abilities? Do you focus on what you’ve done wrong, or what didn’t turn out the way you wanted? This will erode your self-image and contribute to a low self-esteem.

If you have a strong, healthy self-image, then you make healthy decisions that support your vision, dreams and goals. You’ll exercise to stay fit, eat healthy, and avoid substances that would impair your health. These choices may be difficult or inconvenient, such as quitting smoking, ending a one-sided relationship, or finding another job that gives you a better chance to advance in your career. But you protect your health and well-being because you view yourself as someone who is proactive.

Your self-image forms the filter through which you view yourself and how you respond to situations around you. It demands that you remain consistent with your concept of yourself. Suppose you perceive yourself as a supportive person, who likes to make everyone happy. If so, to be congruent, you won’t stand up for yourself when you’re taken advantage of, even at the cost of your welfare.

For instance, Clarisse owned a service-based business. Initially, her attitude was that she offered a service that happened to be a business. With that approach, she was supportive, sympathetic and enabling of everyone who came to her. But her customers took advantage of her after she’d done work for them. After promising to pay, they reneged, saying they couldn’t afford it. Her business began to flounder.

To be successful, she had to shift her view of herself as a businessperson. She realized she wouldn’t be able to help anyone if she wasn’t in business. She changed her inner position to one of being a businessperson who provides a service. With this outlook, she made decisions based on what was good for the business.

To fulfill her desire to be of service to those who needed it, she selectively provided her service pro-bono to a client every once in a while. But they no longer were the majority of her clientele. Her business began to thrive.

Your self-image is malleable. You can impact it, making it stronger and more effective. But to do so, you’ll have to let go of some imbedded, old ideas. They may even be ones that you value, but they’re not helping you or your self-esteem.

Clarisse had to let go of her self-concept of being of service to everyone who needed her. That way was destroying her business. One major change she made was insisting on payment up front. She also set and kept boundaries, in the form of policies. If someone violated a policy, she refused to work with them. And she refused to take responsibility for others’ decisions that prevented them from living up to their agreements with her.

If you want to have more impact, be more effective and more successful, the first place to start is with improving your self-image. Here are a few suggestions of what to do.

1. Let go of the judgments and labels from your childhood. They belong in the past and don’t reflect who you are now. Besides, they were simply someone’s, usually mistaken, opinion and don’t define you in the present.

2. Stop of focusing on what’s wrong with you.
You’ll always be able to find something to criticize in yourself or what you do. Break that habit as it’s not helpful. Instead, focus on what’s right about you.

3. Make a list compliments that you’ve received.
Don’t dismiss them as untrue or someone just being nice. Accept that they’re true of you.

No matter what your dreams, you’ll always make decisions, and act, in alignment with your self-image. To become the person you want to be, and achieve your dreams, you’ll need to change it so it supports what you want in your life. You can do it. Just consider the life that awaits you and stay focused on your dreams.

Affirmation:
The Universe loves and approves of me as I am. I accept my true worth. It’s safe to let go of old concepts that aren’t true of who I am. I now acknowledge the things that I do that are good and right. People like me, and I accept that I am likeable. I now shift my self-image to reflect the person I want to be.

Watch the Monthly Mindset Coaching Tip Video, Meditation to Improve Your Self-Image, that was inspired by this article.

As a speaker, hypnotherapist, and vision coach, Linda-Ann Stewart helps business and professional women who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to create their vision, prioritize, and focus so they increase their productivity, prosperity and peace of mind. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, email her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com with "Complimentary Consultation" in the subject line.

Eliminate Self-Sabotage

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Feb 142017
 

Self-sabotage is designed to keep you in your comfort zone. It ensures that you unconsciously undermine yourself to maintain the status quo. But you don’t have to be held hostage to it. You have the ability to overcome it. Learn what it takes to eliminate self-sabotage.



~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Avoid These 7 Traps That Sabotage Your Dreams

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Feb 142017
 

Sunset Crater, Flagstaff AZDo you have a dream or a vision that you’re not actively pursuing? Maybe you’re not taking action on it or you’re chronically preparing to start. If so, you’re not alone. Self-sabotage is an insidious, subversive and subtle act. It gets hidden amongst the busyness of your life. And it may even seem completely reasonable that you haven’t been able to make any progress toward your dream. But there are unseen forces at work within you that are holding you back.

Here are 7 ways that you undermine yourself and steps you can take to overcome these obstacles.

1. Lack of clarity. You only have a fuzzy idea of what you want. This isn’t very motivating and it won’t impel you to take action. When you don’t have a precise idea of your direction, you won’t take any steps. Specific ideas about your goals allow you to take specific steps towards achieving them, which leads to better results. It also gives the Law of Attraction an explicit pattern to follow.

2. No plan. You may want to go with the flow and resist the structure of a plan. But when you choose to let things unfold in this way, you’re going to be blown around by every circumstance that presents itself. There’s a saying, “When you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” In your busy life, if something doesn’t get prioritized, it doesn’t get done. Create an outline of a plan that serves you, so that the Law of Attraction can draw to you what you need. Your plan should include room for the unexpected.

3. Not working your plan. You’ve created a plan, put it in a drawer and gotten involved in your busy life. The immediate and the urgent have taken precedence. Or you may be dealing with the “shiny object syndrome.” Other enticing options have taken you off track and gotten you nowhere. This just creates confusion for the Universe, as it doesn’t know what you want. It’s ok to make course corrections periodically, but not every day. Assess your plan and get back to working it.

4. Not making your dream a priority. You have a plan, but you let other things get in the way. This may be day-to-day chores or plain old inertia. It’s simply easier to fall back into old habits than it is to clear space to work for your dream. Unless you decide that your dream is important, you’ll never achieve it. And the Universe won’t make it a priority, either. Focus on what you want, schedule taking action and following through.

5. Seeking approval. You’re trying to live up to other peoples’ expectations of you. And you put others’ agendas ahead of your own wants, needs and desires. For the most part, you don’t need their approval nor to meet their expectations. What you want is as important as what they do. Learn to say, “No,” when their expectations conflict with what you want. The Universe approves of you when you do.

6. Perfectionism. You won’t move forward until everything is perfect. This is an unrealistic and unreachable goal. Perfectionism comes from fear that you’ll make a mistake. Of course, you’re going to make mistakes. That’s how you learn and make course corrections. The Universe doesn’t expect your efforts to be flawless. Repeat to yourself, “Progress, not perfection.” As long as you have a vision and the beginnings of a plan, you can make some headway. You can build the rest as you go along.

7. Procrastination.
This behavior is the worst of the offenders. It probably sinks more dreams than anything else. Either you put off starting or you put off uncomfortable or unfamiliar tasks that are necessary to your vision. Out of fear or rebellion, you chronically avoid making a decision or taking an action until the last minute. The Law of Attraction follows your lead and delays any good coming your way. Take some action, no matter how small and build momentum. One small step at a time is all you need to do to make progress.

Self-sabotage is an attempt to keep you safely confined in your comfort zone, so you don’t have to stretch or be anxious. Your subconscious is trying to protect you from the disappointment or rejection that you experienced when you were younger. Unfortunately, this strategy doesn’t support your dream or who you are now.

When you recognize that you’re sabotaging yourself, and that it’s a function of some outdated attempt at self-preservation, you can make changes. It will be uncomfortable at first, as all change is. And you’ll be tempted to step back into old patterns. But you have the power, wisdom and understanding to take charge and shift your world. Open the door to your dreams and step through.

Affirmation:
I realize the self-sabotage is an outdated attempt to keep me safe in a world that no longer exists. I now recognize any ways in which I undermine myself. It’s powerful to bring them out into the light so that I can see they are no longer needed. I now let go of what no longer serves me, and now establish new thoughts, beliefs and behaviors that support my dreams.

As a speaker, hypnotherapist, and vision coach, Linda-Ann Stewart helps business and professional women who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to create their vision, prioritize, and focus so they increase their productivity, prosperity and peace of mind. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, email her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com with "Complimentary Consultation" in the subject line.
Feb 092017
 

Flagstaff Aspen RainbowChoosing positivity lets us get in touch with our emotions
When we’re controlled by negative emotions, then we react without thinking. This can be very destructive to our lives and relationships. But we have a choice what to think, which affects our feelings. This article describes the challenge we face and why it’s so important to choose well.

8 Habits of Considerate People
Being kind and considerate makes people more open to us and what we want. Neuroscience is beginning to show us that the impulse to beg considerate is stronger than a self-serving instinct. Learning how you can be considerate will not only further your career, but it is healthier for you.

If You Want To Lead Your Life More Effortlessly, You Should Embrace This New Mindset
Sometimes, when we don’t achieve a goal in the time frame we expected or how we wanted, we get discouraged. At those times, the mind tries to give us an easy out, but one that makes us feel helpless. Instead of accepting the lie the mind is telling us, it’s more empowering to shift it to another mindset. This mindset is more empowering and compassionate, and encourages us to try again in a different way.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Jan 252017
 

Flagstaff ArboretumPeople Love Working with Extraverts, Until the Going Gets Tough
New research shows that the extrovert advantage has its limits. Extroverts are at an advantage in business. But when there are conflicts and disagreements, people tend to resent their style of handling it. Introverts, however, tend to navigate the storms more smoothly because of their unique strengths.

9 Ways To Differentiate Real Friends And Toxic Friends
Everyone has had a toxic friend in some degree at one time or another. They can gaslight you and make you think that they’re the only one who has your back, when the opposite is true. This is a very simple infographic that illustrates the differences between these real and toxic friends.

5 Things You Can Do to Improve Your Mindset in 20 Minutes
These tried and true tips will help you take on the day with confidence. You’ll be able to reset your attitude, become more positive and have a more productive day. You’ll notice a tremendous difference within just a couple of weeks.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Create More Space for Your Dream

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Jan 172017
 

Are you always trying to put more and more into an already overloaded life and schedule? You’re eventually going to run out of time and space to work on your dream. The only way you can remedy this is to let go of things that aren’t helping any longer. Learn why it’s so important and how you can create more space in your life.



~ Linda-Ann Stewart