Mar 272020
 

Manage Your Attention, Not Your Time

So many stimuli compete for your attention each day that by the end of it, your brain feels like scrambled eggs. You can prevent that from happening by being more conscious of how you divide your attention over specific tasks. Here are three ways to keep your focus flowing.

5 Habits That Turn Off Negative Thinking

Negative thoughts only affect you if you give them power. But all too often they catch your attention and disturb your effectiveness. But you have the ability to turn that around and reduce their damage. You have control over your mind, and this article gives you some direction on how to take charge.

Impostor Syndrome: Why Success Makes You Feel Like A Fraud

The imposter syndrome typically happens to high achieving individuals who have a hard time adjusting to their success. It refers to the fear of being found out that their success is due to luck and not their abilities. This article explores this syndrome so you can understand it more fully and suggests ways to combat it.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Feb 112020
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

Recently, I was watching a video podcast interview of a business coach. I was inclined to like him, as his promotional materials indicated that we shared values of being heart-centered, spiritual, and purpose-driven. However, as I watched the podcast, my inner alarms were clanging. I felt something was off between what he claimed to believe and teach, and what I was actually seeing on the podcast.

There was a definite conflict between what he was saying, and how he was acting. He said all the right things, but his unconscious reactions to the discussion and questions were contradictory. They showed that his values were quite different from those he espoused. Because of that, he lost all credibility with me and my interest in pursuing any kind of business relationship with him.

Be Wary of Inauthentic People

Haven’t you ever encountered someone like that? Someone who seems to be in alignment with your values, but it’s just a mask? This can happen in your personal and professional life. You’re drawn to an acquaintance, but they’re always late to coffee or never show up. A business colleague collaborates with you, but you do all the work and they get all the credit.

If you’re not prepared, the inauthentic person can take advantage of you and leave you the poorer for it. They can undermine your self-esteem, self-confidence, self-respect and sabotage your progress in every area of your life. They can also make you doubt yourself and your perceptions.

It’s sometimes difficult to detect the inauthentic person, especially when their reputation sings their praises. Other people have been taken in by their charm. Don’t let them sway your emotions. They’re probably very good at manipulating your feelings for their purposes. Listen to your intuition and don’t get drawn into their self-promotion.

Recognizing an Inauthentic Person

Everyone hides pieces of themselves to be able to deal with their society and culture. For instance, if you’re an artist, you wouldn’t wear bohemian clothes to your job at the bank. Or when your mother-in-law visits and claims her son loves her goulash, but you know he doesn’t. It wouldn’t be good for family harmony for you to tell her the truth.

The difference is a person’s intention. A truly inauthentic person is deliberately insincere and wants to project an entirely different personality to fulfill their agenda. They may need approval, acceptance, control, status, money or power and the only way they think they can gain it is through playing a role.

Here are some behaviors that people have when they are inauthentic and untrustworthy.

They don’t walk their talk. They say one thing and act contrary to what they say. For instance, in the podcast, the coach said he wasn’t trying to sell anything and just wanted to share information. But he constantly pushed his services hard and disparaged anyone who didn’t use them.

They try to impress or intimidate you. There’s a difference between benign self-promotion and boasting that they’re better than anyone else. A person can show how their talents, skills and decisions set them apart without being a braggart. When they keep telling you how great they are, be wary.

They need flattery and attention. Wanting appreciation is normal. Needing constant praise and approval shows a lack of self-confidence. They need external reassurance that they’re accepted.  

They treat people like commodities. They consider that people exist only to fulfill their wants and needs. Even though they act like they’re kind and giving, it’s very calculated. There’s always a major payoff for them.

They get defensive and aggressive. When they don’t get what they want, they attack the person who has withheld it. The coach belittled a caller who questioned his process. The coach took it as a personal attack, when the caller just wanted clarification.

Keep your distance when you meet an inauthentic person. If it’s someone in your inner circle, like a relative or coworker, minimize contact as much as possible. Unfortunately, they cannot be trusted with your confidences. When they don’t get what they want from you, they’ll lose interest and find someone else who will fulfill their need.

Trust your instincts. If you feel uneasy about someone, pay attention. You’ll notice when something is out of alignment. Let them go, and move on. Because of your new awareness, you’ll start noticing people who are genuine and sincere. These folks are the ones you can trust.

Affirmation:

The One Life within me guides and directs me into safe and appropriate relationships. I listen to the still, small voice from within that whispers to me, letting me know who is an authentic person and who is not. I bless all people, no matter who they are. But I choose to spend time and energy with those who are trustworthy, genuine and sincere.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. To achieve a 90-day goal more easily, sign up for her FREE comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You can contact her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com or 928-600-0452.

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Dec 122019
 

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7 Ways to Practice Being in the Present Moment
Having habits and a routine help you maneuver through daily life. Without them, you’d be exhausted making decisions for point during your day. But if you live completely on autopilot, you’re living like a zombie. When you become more mindful, you start participating in your life. Here are some ways to get you started.

Why Multi-Tasking Is Worse Than Marijuana For Your IQ
Multi-tasking isn’t the productive use of time that we were told that it would be. In fact, it’s just the opposite. Instead, learn how to use your brain’s natural cycles to enhance your your creativity and productivity. Use these 7 steps to create a Power Hour with concentrated chunks of time for the optimal performance of your brain.

Research shows that 50-year-olds can have the brains of 25-year-olds if they meditate for just 15 minutes a day
Most people see their brain cortexes shrink as they age, and we’ve been told that this is inevitable. But in a recent study, 50-year-old meditators same amount of gray matter as those half their age. And it takes only a few minutes a day. This is great news for us as we age. We have control over our learning and memory.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Nov 162019
 

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One of Those Days: How to Bounce Back When Nothing Seems to Go Right
Everyone has had days that started out on the wrong foot, and just kept spiraling down. It’s hard to stop the cycle once it’s started, but it can be done. Discover how these three strategies can help you turn the day around.

Why Multitasking Doesn’t Work
Successful multitasking is a myth. You really can’t focus on more than one thing at a time.
It’s not like chewing gum and walking. You’re trying to split your cognitive resources, which means you only have half to give each task. This article goes much deeper into the research and the effects of it, like talking on the cell phone while driving is like driving drunk.

3 Simple Steps to Set Business Goals That FINALLY Come True
Goals are inspired by your wanting to fulfill more of your potential. But sometimes, you get blocked in your pursuit of your goals, feel frustrated and give up. But if you plan for the setbacks, you’ll be able to overcome the obstacles and achieve your desires. Use these steps to keep you on track for your goals.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Are You Seeing Clearly?

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Nov 142019
 

At some point, we all make assumptions based on our expectations, preconceived beliefs and ideas. Most of the time, our conclusions are wrong and negatively impact our relationships, opportunities and possibilities. When you challenge your suppositions, you break through to a different perception, which allows for different results. Here are 3 steps to allow you to see more clearly.





Transcript:

Thank you for watching. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart, a vision strategist and I want to tell you a story about how assumptions can be damaging.

I once had a friend who would take the things I said the wrong way. If I said I preferred the color green over blue, she’d take it as an attack on her taste, because blue was her favorite color. If I shared some achievement or good news, she assumed I was putting her down.

This didn’t happen all the time, but when it did, I felt like I’d walked into an episode of the Twilight Zone. I’d be disoriented, trying to figure out how she could have misinterpreted what I said. And then I’d try to assure her I didn’t mean it the way she took it.

Unfortunately, that never worked. Because of this, the friendship eventually ended.

In hindsight, I realized that she was expecting me to attack her, so she took everything I said personally. The story she created around that became her reality. And nothing could convince her otherwise. Because she’d filtered what I said through the lens of her belief and her motivations, she couldn’t see me, or what I said, clearly.

We all do something similar, don’t we, at some time or another? When you make an assumption, you’re filtering what’s said or done through your own expectations and motivations. Your perception is muddied by your preconceived ideas and beliefs. And it generally causes to you to jump to an incorrect conclusion and then act on it, most of the time to your detriment. It could cost you friends, promotions, sales or your self-confidence.

Haven’t you ever leaped to a conclusion, discovered it was wrong, and then had to apologize for it? You weren’t seeing clearly through your filter. Here are 3 steps to see more clearly:

1. Start becoming aware of your assumptions, not only about other people and situations, but about yourself, too. Don’t believe everything you’re telling yourself about the situation, because it’s probably wrong.

2. Question whether there may be another explanation, one that may be as or more accurate or realistic than your conclusion. This allows you to catch those false perceptions before you act on them.

3. Challenge your suppositions and look for evidence that supports or disproves them. When you do, you begin to clear away your filters and perceive things more clearly. And this opens up more possibilities and opportunities for you, in all areas of your life. It may even save a friendship.

If you’d to achieve a 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www. Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You’ll receive the blueprint, as well as tips and directions about the 4 vital areas you need to address so you can accomplish your goal.

Thank you for watching. How can you be more mindful and present, and become aware of your assumptions?

Read the accompanying article, Assumptions Don’t Serve You.

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Nov 072019
 

Peace

How to Use a 5 Minute Journal to Invest in Your Happiness
A journal doesn’t just have to be about what you’ve accomplished (though that can boost your mood) or exploring your emotions. It can be about accessing your inner knowing to give yourself guidance and motivation. Most of all, it’s a way to improve your relationship with yourself. Here are 5 ways you can journal with yourself and set yourself up for your best life.

8 Ways to Be More Mindful at Work
It’s difficult to find a balance between your professional and personal lives, with all the overwhelm that technology brings. In this busy world, self-care isn’t an indulgence, it’s a necessity. Mindfulness helps you to recuperate, with the added benefit of increasing your productivity. This article included a great infographic that can give you some great tips on reducing your stress.

Feeling Intensely: The Wounds of Being “Too Much”
Have you been told that you see too much, hear too much, or think too much? Many people have been shamed for this. If you have, then you may be what’s called a “highly sensitive person.” This article state five components many psychologists consider comprises this trait. Discovering that you’re highly sensitive can lift much of the self-doubt and feelings of loneliness.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Nov 012019
 

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Stop Chasing Success. Seek Significance.
Success has its ups and downs and is fleeting. It can be alluring to make it your goal. But most people’s inner desire is to have an impact in their world by making a difference. Sometimes this can happen through your job and sometimes it can be found elsewhere. Here are 8 steps to get you started on making the shift from chasing success to seeking significance and have a more fulfilling life.

Fight Exhaustion and Stay Productive at Work with These 12 Essential Tips
Sleep deprivation, stress and burnout contribute to a feeling of exhaustion. Unfortunately, you can’t just take a day or month off to recover every time this happens. You have to force yourself to crawl through it. But here are some ways that you can amp up your focusing abilities and help your body to get more done.

Want To Feel Happier Today? Try Talking To A Stranger
As humans, we’re social creatures and need relationships for health and happiness. Unfortunately, smartphones have created a barrier to establishing and supporting our relationships. They’ve become an easy way to avoid contact. Recent research shows that making a connection with a stranger through a smile or small talk can make your day.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Oct 242019
 

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New Neuroscience Reveals 4 Rituals That Will Make You Happy
When you feel bad, it’s hard to imagine feeling good. But you have the power and the ability to do just that. Taking charge and making different decisions that activate your brain’s reward centers will help your happiness in the short term and long term.

6 Simple Ways to Become More Resilient
Resilience allows you to bounce back from challenges more quickly. This trait isn’t something that we have or we don’t. We all have it in some form or other, and it can be developed further. When you follow these tips, you’ll cope with future setbacks more easily.

8 Ways To Improve Your Focus
The average attention span of a human is less than a goldfish’s. And because of technology and our fast paced world, our attention spans are dwindling even farther. To be successful, you need the ability to pay attention. Fortunately, focus is a muscle that you can build if you work on it.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sparks of Insight

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Oct 212019
 

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“Infinite Spirit is drawing to me all the I need and desire for perfect joy, harmony, prosperity and health. Every part of me accepts this now. Only good comes to me and I recognize all that I need to do to ease its way to me.”

Mistaken thoughts and outdated beliefs are the only things that stand between you and the good your desire. As you let them go, more abundance appears in your life. And as you follow Divine guidance in any actions you need to take, this opens the doors for more good to flood in.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Reduce Stress and Anxiety Quickly and Easily

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Oct 102019
 

Stress and anxiety can quickly escalate and send you spiraling off course. But there’s a simple technique you can do in two minutes that will reduce stress, anxiety, and improve your overall health. Learn this technique and a couple of tips that will make it more effective so you’re able to stay on course and achieve your goals.





Transcript:

Thank you for joining me. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart and a vision strategist. I wanted to talk about a natural way to reduce stress and anxiety that takes about two minutes to begin working. Wouldn’t that be wonderful? I can attest that it does work.

Recently, I was scheduled for a medical appointment immediately after my regular checkup with my primary provider, making it a two-fer. But the later one had to be coordinated between two offices and there was some confusion between them. The morning of the appointments, I called to see if the confusion had been cleared up. It hadn’t. Great, huh?

After another couple of more calls, it still wasn’t handled. As you can imagine, I was getting more tense and anxious the closer the time came for me to leave, and still no resolution. My blood pressure and heartrate were soaring, just what you want before a checkup, right?

Finally, I made a call a few minutes before I was to leave for my regular medical checkup, planning on rescheduling the second appointment, but I discovered that it had finally be straightened out.. Whew! Except, I was sure my blood pressure was going to be through the roof when I saw my primary provider in about half an hour.

To lower my stress, my blood pressure and my heart rate, I sat and took long, slow, deep breaths for a couple of minutes. That’s about all the time I had before I had to leave. At my regular appointment, my blood pressure was within a couple of points of my normal. It was such a relief!

When you take long, slow, deep breaths, it releases chemicals that reverses the stress response, and it only takes a couple of minutes for it to happen. When I say deep breath, I don’t mean [raise shoulders and breathe]. That will actually increase the feelings of stress and anxiety.

Instead, breathe from your belly. Push your belly out as you breathe in. Then pull it in to force the air out. If you haven’t done this before, it feels counterintuitive and awkward. But it’s the way you breathe when you’re sleeping.

To best activate this relaxation response, breathe in to the count of 4, and breathe out to the count of 8. Just do that cycle 10 times, and you’ll start noticing you’re feeling calmer. It’s a physiological reaction.

To make it even more effective, breath in through your nose, and out through your mouth, as if you’re gently blowing out candles. It’s called “pursed lip” breathing and more efficiently empties the lungs. This allows more space for oxygen to enter when you inhale.

This breathing technique will allow you to think more clearly, to communicate better and make better decisions, improve your memory and immune system, reduce inflammation and symptoms of depression, in addition to easing stress and anxiety. It’s better than any pill. Just a minute of it will begin to ease performance anxiety.

I know it seems too easy, but try it. If you’re especially uptight, do the cycle, inhale 4, exhale 8, 25 times, which would be about 5 minutes. I know it works from my personal life, because this recent issue isn’t the only time I’ve used it. And I’ve also taught it to my clients, and it’s helped them stay on course to their goals.

If you’d like some help in getting on course and programming your business for success, apply for a Complimentary Coaching Consultation.

Thank you for watching. You have the ability to take charge of your stress and anxiety and have a more harmonious life. I hope you practice this technique for your health and well being. Take care.

Read the accompanying article, How to Stay On Course with Your Priorities.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart