Feb 122020
 

Within a few moments, you access whether someone is authentic or not. But the first impression you get of someone could be misleading, and it’s hard to overcome. It’s human nature to want your assessment to be proved right. But not paying attention to signals that contradict your impression can lead to heartache.

Transcript:

Thank you for joining me. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart and I’d like to share a tip about first impressions and how they can be misleading.

Recently, I listened to a podcast interview of a business coach. From his description and promotional materials, I was already inclined to like him. But as he spoke, I felt there was something off. His actions didn’t line up with what he said his values were. As a result, I didn’t trust him.

Have you ever felt that way about someone? That they weren’t really authentic? You’re able to tell when someone is authentic or inauthentic within a few seconds. Your subconscious mind assesses body language, tonality, verbiage, etc. and decides whether a person is trustworthy or not. It’s good to trust your intuition about people.

But sometimes, your intuition can lead you astray. If you decide you like someone, your mind creates a filter and only recognizes the statements, actions and ideas that confirm your assessment. That’s how first impressions can be misleading, and they can be difficult to change.

Even if that person does things that are in direct opposition to your impression of them, your mind will discard the things that contradict your feelings. This is how you get fooled by people who then take advantage of you. It’s hard to accept, isn’t it? It was for me.

It’s human nature to not want your assessment to be proved wrong. For instance, if that person frequently tells you that they have your back, despite evidence to the contrary, you’ll believe what they say. For awhile. But eventually, the truth will out. You’ll begin to compare their words to their deeds. You’ll recognize that their words and deeds aren’t consistent. It’s challenging your first impression, and you’ll eventually change it.

Emerson said, “What you do speaks so loudly I can’t hear what you say.” The tip today is after your first impression of someone, watch to see if their actions are in alignment with what they say. Don’t just accept your intuition. Look to confirm or contradict it. Doing this helps to fine tune your instincts and your intuition. It will help it be more reliable.

Now, it takes some effort to pay attention, certainly more than just going with your first impression. But the effort is worth it, because it will save you from being taken advantage of at some point. It will save you heartache. I know this from personal experience.

I learned to do this from many, many bad experiences where I was fooled by what a person said. Despite their behaviors that denied what they said, I believed their words. Eventually, I figured out that I needed to evaluate their actions and compare them to what they said. It was a hard lesson.

If I’d gone by first impressions with this business coach, I would have been fooled by him. But because of what I’d learned, I was able to recognize that he wasn’t the person he wanted people to believe he was. How can you start doing this for yourself?

If you’d to achieve a 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www. Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You’ll receive the blueprint, as well as tips and directions to support you in accomplishing your goal. Thank you for watching. My wish for you is to listen to your intuition, while you also pay  attention to what a person does. Take care.

Feb 112020
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

Recently, I was watching a video podcast interview of a business coach. I was inclined to like him, as his promotional materials indicated that we shared values of being heart-centered, spiritual, and purpose-driven. However, as I watched the podcast, my inner alarms were clanging. I felt something was off between what he claimed to believe and teach, and what I was actually seeing on the podcast.

There was a definite conflict between what he was saying, and how he was acting. He said all the right things, but his unconscious reactions to the discussion and questions were contradictory. They showed that his values were quite different from those he espoused. Because of that, he lost all credibility with me and my interest in pursuing any kind of business relationship with him.

Be Wary of Inauthentic People

Haven’t you ever encountered someone like that? Someone who seems to be in alignment with your values, but it’s just a mask? This can happen in your personal and professional life. You’re drawn to an acquaintance, but they’re always late to coffee or never show up. A business colleague collaborates with you, but you do all the work and they get all the credit.

If you’re not prepared, the inauthentic person can take advantage of you and leave you the poorer for it. They can undermine your self-esteem, self-confidence, self-respect and sabotage your progress in every area of your life. They can also make you doubt yourself and your perceptions.

It’s sometimes difficult to detect the inauthentic person, especially when their reputation sings their praises. Other people have been taken in by their charm. Don’t let them sway your emotions. They’re probably very good at manipulating your feelings for their purposes. Listen to your intuition and don’t get drawn into their self-promotion.

Recognizing an Inauthentic Person

Everyone hides pieces of themselves to be able to deal with their society and culture. For instance, if you’re an artist, you wouldn’t wear bohemian clothes to your job at the bank. Or when your mother-in-law visits and claims her son loves her goulash, but you know he doesn’t. It wouldn’t be good for family harmony for you to tell her the truth.

The difference is a person’s intention. A truly inauthentic person is deliberately insincere and wants to project an entirely different personality to fulfill their agenda. They may need approval, acceptance, control, status, money or power and the only way they think they can gain it is through playing a role.

Here are some behaviors that people have when they are inauthentic and untrustworthy.

They don’t walk their talk. They say one thing and act contrary to what they say. For instance, in the podcast, the coach said he wasn’t trying to sell anything and just wanted to share information. But he constantly pushed his services hard and disparaged anyone who didn’t use them.

They try to impress or intimidate you. There’s a difference between benign self-promotion and boasting that they’re better than anyone else. A person can show how their talents, skills and decisions set them apart without being a braggart. When they keep telling you how great they are, be wary.

They need flattery and attention. Wanting appreciation is normal. Needing constant praise and approval shows a lack of self-confidence. They need external reassurance that they’re accepted.  

They treat people like commodities. They consider that people exist only to fulfill their wants and needs. Even though they act like they’re kind and giving, it’s very calculated. There’s always a major payoff for them.

They get defensive and aggressive. When they don’t get what they want, they attack the person who has withheld it. The coach belittled a caller who questioned his process. The coach took it as a personal attack, when the caller just wanted clarification.

Keep your distance when you meet an inauthentic person. If it’s someone in your inner circle, like a relative or coworker, minimize contact as much as possible. Unfortunately, they cannot be trusted with your confidences. When they don’t get what they want from you, they’ll lose interest and find someone else who will fulfill their need.

Trust your instincts. If you feel uneasy about someone, pay attention. You’ll notice when something is out of alignment. Let them go, and move on. Because of your new awareness, you’ll start noticing people who are genuine and sincere. These folks are the ones you can trust.

Affirmation:

The One Life within me guides and directs me into safe and appropriate relationships. I listen to the still, small voice from within that whispers to me, letting me know who is an authentic person and who is not. I bless all people, no matter who they are. But I choose to spend time and energy with those who are trustworthy, genuine and sincere.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. To achieve a 90-day goal more easily, sign up for her FREE comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You can contact her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com or 928-600-0452.
Feb 102020
 
Sparks of Insight

Remember the movie, “It’s A Wonderful Life,” with James Stewart and Donna Reed? He’s a man who believed that he lived an insignificant life. Until, that is, he had a vision of what the life of his small town would have been without him. And he discovered that he was important to the well-being and abundance of his environment. Everyone had been impacted by his existence. The same is true of you. You are necessary to the Universe to be right where you are. You perform valuable services for the Universe just by being you. Everything you do creates ripples in the pond of space and time and affects others, people you’ll probably never know, that might even last for generations. So believe in your own importance and significance.    

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Feb 052020
 

What would your ideal life be for you? Once you decide what that is, you can create a plan to achieve it. Taking steps each day towards your vision will mean that you will achieve it. Use this meditation to imagine what your life would be like and rehearse your next steps. This will make it easier to follow through on them and accomplish your vision one step at a time.

Thank you for joining me. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart, and I’d like to share a meditation with you to help you create your ideal life.

First, do you know what your dream life would be for you? Think about what would be reasonable and within your control to achieve. Once you’ve gotten an idea of what that would be, develop your vision for it. A vision is important as a guide and to help you stay on course.

Your vision may be several months or years ahead, and it’s hard to work towards something that far away. So just think about the next 90 days. What specific actions can you take towards your vision and achieve within the next 3 months?

Now, let’s do a short guided imagery for it.

If you want, close your eyes. And imagine far into the future, that you’ve accomplished the vision you’ve created. How do you feel living it? How are you acting? How have things changed from when you first thought about it? Are there new beliefs, attitudes or habits you’ve developed along the way? Allow yourself to feel joyful at having reached your vision.

Now, return to today. Imagine your vision in the distance. And now imagine the next 90 days. How much of your vision can you reasonably achieve within that time frame? What small actions can you take in the next week, month, and the month after that to step in the direction of your vision?

Imagine yourself taking your next action steps. Consider how it will feel to have completed them. Commit yourself to taking them. What can you do today and tomorrow that will take you in that direction? Every step that you take brings you closer to your goal.

Open your eyes. When you mentally imagine and rehearse your actions, it makes it easier to follow through with them in the real world. Write down your immediate actions and decide when and how you’re going to take them. Be specific. As they say, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”

If you’d to achieve your 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint. You’ll receive the blueprint, as well as tips and directions about the 4 vital areas that support you in you in accomplishing your goal. Thank you for watching. I know you can begin fulfilling your vision by taking steps towards it each day. What action step are you willing to take today?

Read the accompanying article, How to Manifest Your Ideal Life.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. To achieve a 90-day goal more easily, sign up for her FREE comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You can contact her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com or 928-600-0452.
Feb 032020
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

Do you know what your ideal life would be like? I don’t mean that you’ve won the lottery and are living the life of a multi-millionaire. That would be nice, I know. But I mean a life that is realistic and that you can create for yourself through your thoughts and actions.

You’ve already created the life you have now, through your thoughts, beliefs and behaviors. These have either been programmed in the past or were of your deliberate choosing. The Law of Attraction took that programming and brought you the life you now have. To create your ideal life, take charge and mold your life into what you want it to be.

As you consider your ideal life, you develop clarity about what it would consist of. Contemplate a life that delivers all you need to be happy, healthy and fulfilled. Although it needs to be realistic, don’t aim too low. Really dream about a life that would bring you joy. Once you’ve begun the process, it’s time to get specific.

Six steps to create your ideal life:

Create the vision. Your vision gives your subconscious and the Law of Attraction a destination. It’s where you want to end up. As you develop your vision, consider how your life could flow smoothly. Imagine that all you need is provided. Reflect on what you want in the way of harmony, health, travel and relationships. What kind of schedule do you want to keep? This is the time to really dream.

Focus on one area. If you try to work on too many goals at the same time, you spread your energy too thin. Your subconscious and the Law of Attraction will get overwhelmed. You’ll be able to advance a little bit on some of them, but it will be so small that you’ll get discouraged. Instead, pick an area that you really want to change, and focus on that first. You’ll reach it much sooner and then be able to move on to your next goal.

Develop the steps. What do you need to do to create your ideal life? Break your steps down into mini-steps, making them easy to accomplish. How much of it can you achieve in 90 days? Make that your goal. When you have a vision, it may seem too distant and unattainable. Breaking your vision into 90 day goals makes it much more approachable and doable. Then attend to your immediate goal every day, accomplishing one task toward its achievement. This convinces your subconscious and the Law of Attraction that you really are dedicated to your goal.

Construct a visualization. Visualization isn’t just “seeing” something in your mind. Write out your vision completely, as if you’re scripting it. Include how you act and feel with it being accomplished. This gives your subconscious and the Law of Attraction a model to follow. As you do, you may discover that you want to change some habits or attitudes about yourself or your vision. Also script how you accomplish your next step. With this visualization, you’re rehearsing your actions, which make it easier to follow through with in life. Read your script every day.

Check your progress. As you move forward, you may get detoured or distracted. This is normal. Life happens. Every week, take a few minutes to evaluate how far you’ve come and whether you’re still on course. If not, adjust your course to get back on track. Plan out your week, and schedule your next steps. Continually committing yourself to your vision means that you will accomplish it and empowers the Law of Attraction.

Celebrate your achievements. No matter how small the accomplishment, give yourself a mental pat on the back. It feels good to acknowledge that you’ve taken a step. This rewards you for your efforts and encourages you to keep going. Since you want more of those positive feelings, you’ll stay focused on your next step so you continue to feel good.

As you work through these steps, you’ll discover information and resources that you need. Your focus allows you to notice ideas that you would have ignored before. You may also discover you need to shift your priorities or give up outgrown ideas or relationships to accomplish your vision. You deserve your ideal life. Open the door to receive it.

AFFIRMATION:

The Universe supports my endeavors and helps to keep me focused and on course. I deserve the best life that Life has to offer. I now envision it and give myself permission to open the door to succeed. The Universe empowers me to take each step, knowing that each step brings me closer to my ideal life.

Read the accompanying video, Guided Meditation to Create Your Ideal Life.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. To achieve a 90-day goal more easily, sign up for her FREE comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You can contact her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com or 928-600-0452.

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Dec 122019
 

Meditate

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~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Guided Meditation to Overcome Resistance to Your Goal

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Dec 112019
 

Resistance to achieving a goal is natural. It’s a response of your inner mind to your feeling uncertain about the change that comes with achieving a goal. When you’re committed to a goal, but the resistance persists, it can be discouraging. This guided imagery meditation can begin to dissolve your resistance to moving forward and getting on course.





Transcript:

Thank you for joining me. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart, a vision strategist. I’d like to share a short meditation to help you overcome any subconscious resistance to your goal, vision or dream.

Resistance is natural. It means that you’re leaving your comfort zone, where you feel secure. The subconscious wants to keep you safe, so it creates anxiety and resistance in the form of procrastination, negative self-talk and the like. I’m sure you know what it is for you, right?

Well, though it doesn’t feel like it, your subconscious is performing a service for you. It’s helping you decide if your goal is more important than the uncomfortable feelings that will surface to keep you in place.

If you are committed to your goal, you can use this guided imagery meditation to convince your subconscious of your intent.

If you want, close your eyes. Imagine an image for your resistance, in whatever way your resistance manifests. It could be procrastination, fear, self-doubt, an old belief or something else.

Your image could be literal, or it could be symbolic, like a locked door, an anchor or a wall. It could also be simply a sense or feeling or a sound. Accept whatever image comes to mind. Imagine it bright, strong, and big and close to you.

Now shifting your attention to one side or the other, beside it, imagine an image for your goal, vision or dream. Again, it could be literal, like you accomplishing your goal, or it could be symbolic, like a sunrise. It could be a sense of satisfaction or the sound of people clapping. Accept whatever image comes, but imagine this one is faded, weak and small and a little bit of a distance from you.

Realize your resistance is trying to keep you safe. But it’s doing it now in a way that’s not helpful. You are committed to your vision, dream or goal, and are willing to face the uncomfortable feelings that might rise as you move forward. As they surface, you remind yourself that they’re just your subconscious being concerned for you.

As you understand this, the image for your resistance begins to fade, to weaken, to become smaller and recede away from you, into the distance. It’s served its purpose and knows it’s ok for you achieve your vision, goal or dream. As it fades, your image for your goal begins to become brighter, stronger, and bigger and comes closer to you. It fills your world.

You know the actions you need to take to make this goal, vision or dream a reality. You feel confident and eager to now take the steps necessary to move forward. You take this confidence with you throughout the day and days to come.

Open your eyes.

This meditation won’t do all the work to get you on course. It’s a big part of it, but you actually need to take definite actions, specific ones to move you forward. Actions convince your subconscious of your sincerity and dedication, and ease its concerns about your safety. With that, your subconscious will minimize its resistance and it will help you to achieve your goal.

If you’d to achieve a 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www. Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You’ll receive the blueprint, as well as tips and directions about the 4 vital areas that support you in accomplishing your goal.

Thank you for watching. What actions can you take right away that will begin to dissolve your resistance? Take care.

Read the accompanying article, Are You Resisting Your Vision?

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Dec 062019
 

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~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Book Review-Success Is Easy: Shameless No-nonsense Strategies to Win in Business by Debbie Allen

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Nov 182019
 

Success Is Easy: Shameless, No-nonsense Strategies to Win in Business
by Debbie Allen

Some people have a hard time succeeding and feel that it’s just a knack that others have. But success is due to your habits and mindset more than anything else. Successful people carefully choose what they let into their minds. Skills can be learned, but mindset comes first. This book empowers you to remember that your success is actually in your hands.

In a step-by-step fashion, the author leads you through the different aspects of what it takes to build a success mindset. It identifies specific areas of inquiry to identify mental blocks and what will motivate you to succeed. You’re encouraged to discover the right way for you to develop the traits for success. From becoming clear on what success means to you to new perspectives about sales and marketing, this book covers it all.

At the end of each chapter is an affirmation and actions steps to support you in your success. The book provides an overview of what it takes to build the mindset and strategies to create the success you want. Although this book title says to “win in business,” what you get from the book could help you to win in life.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Nov 072019
 

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~ Linda-Ann Stewart