by Linda-Ann Stewart
How do you feel when someone is kind to you? For instance, when
a friend sends you a card, gives you a compliment or your spouse does the
dishes for you. Don’t you feel uplifted? And how do you feel when you do
something nice for someone else? Maybe you do an errand for a friend, call to
see how they’re doing, or help a neighbor carry in her groceries. Don’t you
feel a sense of satisfaction? And what if you see someone be generous to a
stranger? Doesn’t that give you a warm glow and motivate you to do something
When you see, do, or are the recipient of kindness, it
releases hormones that cause you to feel good, inspired and happy. It
stimulates the reward centers of the brain. Within a few minutes the hormones
have stopped flowing, but by remembering the action, you can recreate the joy.
Kindness is like a pebble thrown into a pond, with the ripples extending
outward and touching places unseen.
The Benefits of
The paradox of kindness and compassion is the benefits it
brings to the one who acts, as well as the recipient. Not only do you impact
the person you’re giving to, you’re receiving good feelings in return. Remember
what your mother used to say, “It’s better to give than receive”? In
this case, you receive far more than you give.
Showing kindness and compassion to others bestows the
following on you:
- You’re more attractive to others, personally and professionally.
- People like and trust you more.
- You’re more creative.
- Your self-esteem and self-worth increases.
- Your optimism and positive thinking grows.
- You feel calmer and happier.
- Your stress, pain, anxiety, depression and blood pressure reduces.
Kindness Can Be
Sometimes being kind can be challenging. There are people
who irritate you and you may want to lash out at them. But you don’t know what has
happened in their life that has caused them to be annoying. These are times
when being altruistic and compassionate can have the best results. You may just
change someone’s life, in addition to your own.
For instance, consider being kind in the following
- Smile and compliment the grouchy clerk. They might have had a bad day full of grumpy customers and it’s rubbed off on them.
- Let the aggressive driver into the lane in front of you. They may be running late to an important appointment that could be vital to their well being.
- Don’t complain when the elderly gentleman cuts ahead of you in line at the grocery store. He may have mild dementia and not have even noticed you were there.
In difficult situations, consider what the other person
might be dealing with that’s caused them to be rude. You’re not kind just for
them. You do it for you, because it’s better for your health, mentally,
physically and emotionally.
Focus on Kindness
The more you focus on being kind, the more you want to be
kind. And the kinder you are, the more you’ll grow that area of your brain. Pure
altruism brings you all the rewards mentioned and more. As you’re being kind to
others, don’t forget to be kind and compassionate towards yourself. You deserve
to be treated well, too, by yourself and others.
In the Christmas season, we focus on peace and goodwill
towards others. Why can’t we have this spirit all year long? Think of the life
we’d all have. It begins with each one of us being kind, on a daily basis. It’s
a very simple mindset that takes on a joyful life of its own.
Whenever I have a choice of how to respond to a situation, I choose kindness. Kindness allows the spirit of the Universe to flow through me, blessing my life and the life I impact. I cultivate a generous spirit and compassionate attitude towards myself and others. I generate peace and goodwill towards all people, every day of the year.
Watch the accompanying video, Guided Meditation for Kindness.
As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. To achieve a 90-day goal more easily, sign up for her FREE comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html
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