Negative thinking is defensive or reactive. When you’re reacting from past experiences, you’re expecting the same as you got before. If you’re defensive, you’re using that as a way to protect yourself from disappointment or hurt. If you can’t be positive, at least find a way to turn the thoughts around to at least be neutral. Open up to different possibilities.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
7 Ways To Truly Master Your Own Mind
Your thoughts determine the quality of your life. They’re like nutrition for your mind.It’s not easy to have the discipline, but the rewards are tremendous. Use the ways in this article to monitor your thoughts so you have a fulfilled life.
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This is a lesson I’ve learned and that I share with my clients. It’s an essential one of you want to be authentic, stay on your purpose and honor your priorities. It’s not easy, but the tips from this article will give you the strategies you need to hold your ground.
Psychological Well-being Can Shorten the Road to Wellness
A large percentage of business leaders believe that a good business culture gives them a competitive advantage. Yet, an almost equal amount believe they have a problem with employee retention and engagement. Including psychological well-being in wellness programming makes a huge impact in employees happiness.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
By Linda-Ann Stewart
Marie went in to interview for a job she was fully qualified for. But she’d had several recent interviews, and hadn’t received an offer from any of them. As a result, she didn’t have the best attitude going into this situation. When she didn’t get the position, she said, “I knew it. I didn’t think I was going to get it.” Unfortunately, she got what she expected. Her belief became a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The attitude you have when you approach a challenge, or a change, greatly determines your outcome. Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you’re right.” Your belief will affect your actions and the way you project yourself. If you don’t think you’ll be successful in a venture, you won’t give it 100% of your effort. You might think you do, but part of your energy will be held back to deal with potential disappointment.
Think about a recent goal you had. Did you believe that you could achieve it? What was your attitude towards it? You may have spent lots of time and action to move it in a positive direction. But if you didn’t believe that you would be successful, guess what? It would be unlikely that you could achieve your goal.
I’ve worked with hundreds of smokers in my practice and classes. If they repeat to themselves, “I can’t quit,” then it will be practically impossible for them to quit. When the smoker changes their attitude to “I can quit,” their subconscious works with them to make it possible. Until then, no matter what tools and techniques they use, they’ll be fighting against themselves and the directives they’ve been giving their inner mind. Your subconscious seeks to prove your belief is correct.
Your subconscious must act on what you tell it. If you want a new direction in your life, or to accomplish a goal, first you have to believe that it’s possible. Your subconscious will take its cue from where you focus your attention. Taking action without believing that you can be successful undermines your abilities and determination. You might make progress, but it’ll be a hard road with few rewards in comparison to the amount of labor you’ve put into it.
If you’re thinking, “This is never going to work,” then your subconscious will follow your direction. Not only that, if opportunities do come your way, you won’t be aware of them. Your subconscious will filter them out of your consciousness. It will be as if they don’t exist. Either you won’t recognize them or you’ll dismiss them. Your subconscious mind has to be congruent with your beliefs.
However, if you decide, “This has a good possibility of being successful, and I’ll do everything I can to accomplish it,” your subconscious will help you. For instance, when you’re choosing to change a habit, your inner mind will be in alignment with your goal and make it easier. If you’re working on a project, opportunities and information may drop into your lap.
What if you want to improve a corner of your life, but aren’t sure you will be able to believe you can accomplish it? Are you doomed to failure? Not necessarily. The more difficult you believe a goal will be to attain, the more commitment you have to bring to it as you work towards the goal. Your attitude needs to at least entertain the possibility that you can be successful.
Then you need to put more effort into the steps that will bring it to fruition. An abundance teacher says that the further away from Source you feel you are, the more action you have to take in the physical world.
Make sure your attitude isn’t one of “Just going through the motions,” because that will short-circuit your efforts. Take small steps, and praise yourself when you successfully complete each one. Your activity and dedication will impress your subconscious with the importance of your goal.
You may take two steps forward and one back, but you will start to make progress. And as you recognize the positive results of your efforts, and begin to believe that it is possible, your progress will accelerate.
Combining a positive attitude with being willing to do whatever is necessary to succeed is an unbeatable recipe for success. When you believe you can, your subconscious will help you to be right.
Affirmation:
If I can believe it, I can achieve it. The power of the Universe is at my command when I decide to commit to an intention. I realize that when I believe I can accomplish it, my subconscious seeks to prove me right. The Universe and my subconscious mind know how to bring about my intention, in a way that resonates with me. As I pair action with my belief that I can succeed, the Universe supports my every effort.
Watch the accompanying Monthly Mindset Coaching Video Build the Strength to Achieve Your Goals
“The Universe loves and approves of me. As an individualized expression of the Universe, I love and approve of myself. I am worthy of all the good that Life can hold.”
Self-worth is important for a life of success and well-being. When you reject yourself, then you’re rejecting an expression of the Universe. No matter what you’ve done, the Universe accepts you. Your actions are separate from who you are. You are a unique individual, who deserves to be loved.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
The Backfire Effect: You’re Right to Get Emotional About this Cognitive Bias
The backfire effect is when a person won’t believe facts that contradict their beliefs. They actually attach to their beliefs even stronger. In business, false information about you on social media can destroy you. This article gives suggestions on how to counter that effect and salvage your reputation.
10 Words People Who Are Not Confident Always Use
Words have power. They project your intentions and they also reinforce your beliefs about yourself. If you use wishy-washy words, you’re not only going to be seen that way, but you’ll have trouble believing in yourself. However, when you change your words, you’ll notice an improvement in the way you feel and how others respond to you. Learn 10 words to avoid.
10 Toxic People You Should Avoid At All Costs
Some toxic people have no idea how they affect people. Other toxic people derive satisfaction from the chaos they create. No matter which category they fall in, they are difficult and stressful to deal with. Toxic people take a toll on you, physically, mentally and emotionally. If you can, avoid them. But first, learn to identify them with the help of this article.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
Do you have a goal or dream, but aren’t acting on it or are spinning your wheels? Then something is missing in its inception. If you’re missing a key element, then you won’t be able to be successful. Learn the 3 key elements to check for if you’re stuck and how they’ll help you when they’re present.
The main elements to address when you’re stuck or spinning your wheels are: your vision, your mindset about your vision, and the plan you use to carry out your vision. If any one of these are unclear, undefined or missing, then you won’t be able to successfully move forward.
1st lets take your vision. This is what you want and where you’re going. It needs to be clear and defined. When you have a clear vision, it attracts the right strategies for you to follow, even when you initially don’t know how you’re going to fulfill it.
Our 2nd element is your mindset. This isn’t just about being positive and optimistic. Any negative beliefs about your vision, or attitudes that undermine your motivation will trip you up. When your mindset supports your vision, then your subconscious scans your environment to seek out information and opportunities to further your success.
The 3rd element is your plan. Some people leap into action, without considering whether that action will take them in the direction of their vision. A plan is necessary, as is the follow through with the plan. Actions need to be targeted and consistent, because inconsistent or haphazard actions create inconsistent or haphazard results. This leads to a feast or famine cycle in life or business. For consistent results, perform consistent, targeted actions.
If you’re not having the success you want with your goal or dream, my coaching tip is to assess these 3 elements. Are any of them missing, not clear or defined? Figure out how they can be addressed or strengthened. When you do, you’ll notice the difference and start gaining traction.
This accompanies my article, The 3 Ingredients that Empower Your Vision.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
by Terri Cole-Whittaker
This title would be a fantastic mantra for most of us. We spend too much time trying to please other people. In doing so, we twist ourselves out of shape, compromise our deepest beliefs, abandon and stifle our uniqueness.
This book is all about our relationship to ourselves and others and how to be true to our real selves. Ms. Cole-Whittaker systematically goes through the different areas that we restrict ourselves to gain approval, such as abundance, guilt, health, relationships, competition and dismantles our excuses for doing so.
In her chapter on “Everyone Can Win,” she addresses the dissatisfaction of employees, and gives guidance to them and their bosses about how to improve their fulfillment.
Each chapter ends with some self-awareness questions and strategies, and includes three affirmations to implement the changes. This book will change the way you think about every area of your life. And as we know, when you change the way you think, your life changes in response.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
How to Turn Off Negative Thoughts in Your Mind
The things you say to yourself affect your view of yourself and your world. Negative beliefs condition you to feel like you’re not enough or capable. When you become aware of those feelings, you can trace them to thoughts that are probably not true. This article gives some tips on how to switch off negative thoughts.
Why Women Need To Grow Their Self-Worth
Both men and women experience the “Imposter Syndrome.” But because of their early experiences and societal pressures, women deal with it more often. This article examines the issue behind women’s self-doubt and gives some suggestions on how to overcome them.
How to Focus & Prioritize Your Life by Copying the Mindset of Elite Entrepreneurs
The secret behind success and productivity isn’t magical, it’s focus. When you focus on one task at a time, you get a lot more done than trying to juggle several. This article gives some valuable tips and suggestions to keep you on track.
How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions
Unfortunately, when we’re feeling down, it colors our opinions about ourselves and our lives. And then those thoughts inspire our decisions and actions, which generally are detrimental to our lives. Learning our negative triggers, and having strategies in place, can stop that downward spiral. This article gives some tips and techniques to use to break that negative cycle.
Complaining Is Bad For Your Health, According To Science
Not only is it unpleasant to be around a complainer, it can become a habit with negative consequences. Constant negativity can take a toll on your physical health as well as your mental health. Here are some reasons that will make you think twice about going down that path.
Your Brain Actually Shrinks While You Sleep To Help You Learn
While you sleep, your brain rests and prepare for the next day. You aren’t preoccupied with external stimuli, and your brain can normalize itself so you can learn new things. If you aren’t getting enough sleep, this article could easily give you some motivation to do so.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
When you’re using an affirmation of “I am now…” if your conscious mind objects to it with “This isn’t true,” or “Who do you think you are,” change the affirmation to one of “I’m choosing.” By doing this, you’re taking it from having the object in the present to having the freedom to choose something different. The conscious mind generally won’t complain about that, and it’s much more empowering.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
