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Money Beliefs That Sabotage You

Feb 262019

by Linda-Ann Stewart

Terri was a very successful counselor. She had a full practice and got plenty of referrals. But she had deep issues with money, and struggled with the idea of being financially successful. A friend used this as leverage against her. When he browbeat her for taking money for her services, she was swayed by his arguments would often not charge her clients.

He said that if you want to be of service or spiritual, you shouldn’t charge for your gifts. She took his perspective to heart, and eventually lost her business. And because of this, many people lost a counselor who could have guided them into a greater sense of well-being.

What Money Actually Is

This is just one of the myths about money that many people have. Unfortunately, money is one of the most misunderstood tools that we have and need. When money is a problem, it’s generally not about the cash. It’s about something much more basic. Much of our core beliefs, judgments and lack of self-esteem are projected onto money.

Money is merely an exchange of energy, a symbol. It substitutes for a barter system. When one person offers a product or service, a buyer offers money in return. The buyer presents the money they’ve received as a result of their product or service. Of itself, money is only metal or paper.

Some Money Beliefs That Limit You

Here are some of the money beliefs that people have that are keeping them from having their best life.

“Love of money is the root of all evil.” This one comes from the Christian Bible and is pounded into its followers. When money is made more important than anything else, then it can instigate greed, unethical behavior, and stealing. It’s the worship of money that causes problems. But without money, you can’t pay your bills or have an abundant life. Kept in its proper perspective, as a tool, money can do a lot of good.

“Money doesn’t grow on trees” or “Do you think I’m made of money?” Did you hear this one as a child? It was created by harried parents to discourage kids who wanted something more expensive than the budget could handle. Instead of handling it maturely, by explaining why they couldn’t afford the desired item, parents brushed off the child with these expressions.

“The rich are selfish/dishonest/corrupt/etcetera.” There are some wealthy people who give the rest of their class a bad name. They have worshiped money, and didn’t care what they had to do to get it. There are also a lot of poor people who have done the same. But there are also a lot of rich and poor people who are honest, fair and caring.

If you have the attitude that the rich are bad people, then your subconscious won’t allow you to become rich. Your subconscious wants you to be congruent with your beliefs. Therefore, if the rich are bad, and you aren’t and don’t want to be bad, then you can’t become wealthy. Your subconscious will protect you and keep you “good” and lacking cash. This attitude needs to be adjusted before you can allow yourself to receive more prosperity.

More Money Beliefs That Undermine You

“If I receive money, I’m taking it from someone else.” If there isn’t a circulation of money energy, then the pool gets stagnant and starts to shrink. When money comes to you, you’re receiving it through (not from) others. And you then pass it on to other people. It goes to the Mortgage Company, utility company, and grocery store, which then pay their employees. The employees then use it for their bills and to circulate it to you. The more money you receive, the more you’re able to pass on.

“If you serve and/or are spiritual, you have to offer your gift for free.” This was the belief that sabotaged Terri. After she lost her business, she still counseled, but only once in a while. Suppose you have a gift you want to share. If you’re working 40 plus hours a week for someone else, how much time and energy do you have to serve others?

Just because you want to serve doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your time and well-being. If people want the benefit of your gift for nothing, then it means that there’s a market for it and there are going to be folks willing to pay for it. And they also will want to show their gratitude for what they receive, and can do this through the exchange of energy called money.

Change Your Beliefs

Your beliefs about money are based on what you were told and ideas you’ve reinforced by thinking of them often. But they limit you and what you allow yourself to receive. Since beliefs are created by what you think, by changing what you think, you can change your beliefs. When you start recognizing what you’re thinking about money, and start letting go some of the distorted beliefs, you open yourself to more of this energy flowing into your life.

AFFIRMATION

Money is only energy that flows. This energy is circulating smoothly and harmoniously through my life. I discard any outdated limiting ideas about money, wealth and riches. The Universe wishes me to have enough financial support to live an abundant life. The more energy I have, the more I can circulate through others.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml

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Feb 192019

“All of Life is for me, supporting me, encouraging me, and benefiting me. I am now in a cooperative position with Life and allow It’s expansion to flow through me with ease and harmony.”

Many people feel that life is against them and they have to fight for every bit of good that they have. That’s only because that’s what they believe. When you change your mind to allow Life to uplift you, and you allow it to flow in and through your life, things become much easier.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Feb 112019

There is no separation between the Universe, your good, and you. Any belief that it is apart from you is an illusion. I know some people who feel alienated from the Infinite, and expanded good in their lives, but it’s not that the Universe has moved. It’s their consciousness shutting It out, even while seeking It desperately. There’s an old story about the fish swimming in what it’s looking for – the ocean. Your good and the Universe are inside and all around you. Start by becoming aware of the small things that show you Its presence, such as a sunset, flowers, and a compliment. This way you’ll start to reconnect with the presence of the Divine.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Feb 042019

“As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” – Proverbs 23:7

In this case, the heart means your subconscious, creative mind. Whatever you believe and expect, deep down, is what you’ll experience. These are the beliefs that may not agree with your conscious choices, but are what you truly think. When you have a strong conviction that you have to struggle and life is against you, then that’s the life you’ll have. However, when you believe strongly that things will turn out for the best, then your creative mind will find a way to bring that about.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Dec 182018

“When there is a conflict between the will and the imagination, the imagination always wins.” – William James

When you consciously want one thing, but keep imagining it opposite, then what you visualize will be what manifests, for the imagination also includes the emotions. Let’s say you want more prosperity, but all that fills your mind is the fear that you won’t be able to pay your bills. You dwell (imagination) on your fear, and that’s what gets the attention of your subconscious. Not what you consciously saying you want. Get the two of them in sync, and watch the miracles.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Guided Meditation to Overcome Your Fear of Success

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Dec 132018

Many people have an unconscious fear of success. They’re afraid that it could attract negative attention, or affect their life in a detrimental way. But those fears are generally an outdated remnant of the past. This short, guided meditation is designed to recognize those fears and let them go so you can experience the success you deserve.

Transcript:
Thank you for joining me. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart of Heartvision Consulting. And today, I’d like to take you on an internal journey to overcome your fear of success. Many people have an unconscious fear of success. They’re afraid that it could attract negative attention, or affect their life in a detrimental way. Do you have any such fears?

Those fears are generally an outdated remnant of the past. People either have had a bad experience or saw someone who did, and they want to avoid the pitfalls, so they avoid success. Has something like that happened to you? What they don’t realize is that they now have resources and knowledge that can help them deal with any such challenges. So their fears are no longer valid.

If you’re not experiencing the success you want, it’s a good bet that you’re somehow limiting yourself. You have beliefs and fears that are holding you back from taking the actions that are needed to achieve what you want. And that’s what I want to help you address today. It’s something I help many of my clients with.

I’m a vision strategist. I work with women service professionals and small business entrepreneurs who are frustrated because they’re spinning their wheels and lost in a forest of details of their business.

Using my 30 years of experience as a hypnotherapist, I coach them to intentionally develop and focus on the strategies that keep them on course so they bring their vision into reality.

This short guided meditation is designed to help you recognize your fears and let them go. And then to imagine yourself successful. When you do this, you create a new pattern in your subconscious and new pathways within your brain.

Close your eyes, if you want. Using your imagination, consider how much you want to be successful, whatever success means to you. Allow the excitement, enthusiasm for it, anticipation of it to build and fill you up. This is what you choose for yourself and it is appropriate and acceptable for you. You deserve it.

Now shift your attention to however you might be limiting that success, whatever fears you might have about it. Realize that these fears are insubstantial, they are like a mist that surrounds you. It’s a mist that you have created and held onto, but you don’t need it anymore.

Examine the fear and realize that you have outgrown it, that you have resources and knowledge that can help you overcome it now. You have everything you need within you to deal with any challenge that might arise in your life. Allow the mist to evaporate, since you don’t want it anymore.

Return your attention to your desire for success. The way is now open for you. Imagine confidently taking the actions necessary to achieve it. Imagine you are comfortable taking the actions, being successful and making wise decisions. All of this is now yours. You deserve it and it benefits everyone.
Open your eyes.

How did that feel? This is a first step for you to stop limiting yourself. The fear will probably arise again, because it’s a habit. But as you keep reminding yourself that it’s outdated, you’ll be creating a new, more positive habit that will support your success. How can you keep your mind focused on the fact that success is appropriate and available to you? What one thing can you hang onto? That is the key for you.

If you’d like some help in getting on course and achieving your goals, apply for a complimentary coaching consultation.

Thank you for watching. My hope is for all the doors to success open to you, within you and in your outer world. Take care.

Read the accompanying article, Don’t Let Fear Sabotage Your Success.

Don’t Let Fear Sabotage Your Success

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Dec 062018

Are you afraid of success? That may seem like a ridiculous question, because most people consciously want success in their endeavors. But being successful can bring change, and some people may not be ready for all that means. When they get close to success, they back away from or sabotage it.

For instance, they turn down an opportunity, justifying it by saying, “It just wasn’t right.” Or they resist or procrastinate taking action that could take them to the next level. They don’t make the phone call or follow up on a lead that could bring them a sale. By default, they stay with what they know, even if it’s uncomfortable. The idea of success stirs up fears that prevent them from moving forward.

What you focus on grows, including fear. The Law of Attraction, instructed by what you’re paying attention to, will attract more of what you don’t want. If you’re feeling inadequate, and that’s why you fear success, the Law of Attraction will draw more opportunities for you to feel that way.

Becoming aware of what you’re doing is the first step to remedying the situation. The next step is to understand what specific fear is prompting your resistance. Only then can you overcome it, recognizing it for the falsehood it is. Here are some of the reasons that could be at the core of your fear of success.

1. Fear of visibility. You avoid calling attention to yourself because of past rejection. For you, appreciation or acknowledgement would be uncomfortable and even threatening. But isn’t being able to share your gifts more important than staying safely hidden in the shadows?

2. Fear of criticism. There’s a difference between criticism and feedback. Criticism has a mean-spirited component to it. It’s never pleasant and chips away at your self-confidence. Whether you succeed or fail, it’s going to attract disapproval from someone. Why not do what you want and deal with the censure on your terms?

3. Fear the envy of others. This is very similar to the fear of criticism. Jealous people will try to belittle you to build up their egos. Generally, their jealousy isn’t about you. It’s more about the person who is trying to tear you down. Holding yourself back isn’t going to help them feel better. You might as well let yourself shine.

4. Fear of the responsibility. Greater success brings greater responsibility, and that can be scary. You may feel that you aren’t capable of handling these extra demands. But as more responsibility comes to you, you grow to meet the challenge. Think of it like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it becomes.

5. Fear you’re not ready. You may feel you don’t have the skills or competency for the next step. If you wait until you feel ready, your time may never come. There’s always going to be something else to learn or ability to develop. As long as you’re willing to improve your knowledge, you’ll grow into your success.

6. Fear of disappointment. You have an image of what success would look or feel like. Is it better to keep it as a dream rather than risk it not living up to your expectations? If it doesn’t, you’ll still have gained so much more than you have now. You’ll have learned how to achieve that success, and apply it to a new dream.

7. Fear of what else could change in your life. You may be concerned about how much time you’ll have to devote to your success. Or uneasy that your lifestyle might be turned upside down. You will have to let go of mental and physical habits that have outlived their usefulness. But you’ll still be in control of your choices. If you don’t like what has changed, you can always make different decisions.

All these fears bring old ideas about yourself to the surface, such as unworthiness, incompetence, or incapability. Being successful would mean that these concepts are false, and you’d have to shift your self-image. This is a massive change in itself. That could be the core of all the anxiety you experience. The Universe believes in you and created you to be successful.

Once you have identified what you’re specifically afraid of, it no longer controls you. You can take measures to overcome the fear. Refuse to allow it to hold you back any longer. Forge ahead and claim the success that’s always been waiting for you.

AFFIRMATION:
The Universe believes in me and created me to be successful. I believe in myself and my capabilities. Infinite Intelligence will guide and direct me, bringing me whatever I need to be successful. With the help of the Universe, I can handle whatever comes up. I am now ready to let go of my fears and accept the help and the confidence of the Universe.

Watch the accompanying video, Guided Meditation to Overcome Your Fear of Success.

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