How to Make Others Feel Significant
You want to appreciate others for their efforts and contributions. But there’s a big difference between appreciating people and making them feel significant. Because sometimes you don’t actually show them how much their support has meant to you. When you actually do things to show them how much they matter to you, then they feel significant.
How to Make Your Priority a Priority
Many times, you think you have a priority, but you don’t treat it that way. It gets shunted aside for something more immediate or convenient. It’s all too easy to get distracted and sidetracked. This article has 5 timely tips on how to actually make your priority a priority so you make sure you act on it.
12 Powerful Tips to Overcome Negative Thoughts (and Embrace Positive Thinking)
It can sometimes be difficult to maintain a positive attitude when there are other people around you who are negative. Or when you’re having a series of setbacks or obstacles. If you take just one of these tips and practice it, it will make it easier for you to be positive. They help reframe situations and thought processes to make a real change in your life.
Originally written in 1908, this is a classic in spiritual and mystical literature. It’s said that this was the inspiration for Napoleon Hill’s classic, Think and Grow Rich. Starting from the basic fact that we are all one with the Universe, the author then describes how the Infinite affects every aspect of our lives.
The insights contained in this book uplift and transform the reader’s view of their life. Using stories, examples, and straight talk about awakening to the knowledge of the “real being,” the author writes that as we open ourselves to the Infinite, we experience more health, peace and prosperity.
This was among the first books I read when I began my spiritual journey, and helped to form the foundation of
my spirituality. It deeply explores the meaning of life, and gives specific direction on how to more fully
experience the goodness of the Infinite.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
Recently, I was interviewed on a video podcast by Coach Kelly Chisholm. Kelly is a great interviewer and we had a wonderful time talking. She and I met at a retreat some years ago, and have kept in touch. This summer, we met for coffee/tea while she was visiting Sedona.
She coaches women who are going through or who are healing from divorce. The podcast was specifically for members of her group program, From Splitsville to Sanity. It covers the mental, emotional, legal, financial topics around divorce and more.
Women who are divorcing face a complete transformation in their lives. Not only does their marital status change, but their self-image does, as well. She seeks to make the painful process more manageable, so they’re able to heal more quickly and easily.
On the podcast, we talked about various issues about mindset and how they relate to women going through this painful transition. In our conversation, we wandered through why a positive mindset is so important to these women, tips on how to change their mindset and steps they could take on a daily basis to achieve a more positive one.
I was delighted and honored when she asked to interview me. Although I’ve been interviewed in person or by phone before, it was the first time I’ve been interviewed on a video podcast. The time flew by, and we were both sad when it was time to sign off. I hope we’re able to collaborate on other projects in the future.
“What happens is not as important as how you react to what happens.” – Thaddeus Golas
When something challenging happens to you, do you get upset or frustrated? If so, you’re human. But you always have a choice about how to respond to an event. You can automatically allow your emotions to take over and make you miserable, or you can choose a different response that empowers you and might allow you to create a better outcome. The event itself has no power other than what you give it. Will you give it the power to make you unhappy, or will you choose to respond in a conscious way?
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
7 Thoughtful Ways to Stress Less
Stress and anxiety can cause you to age more quickly. Instead, why don’t you start doing things that can reduce them? Quit driving yourself so hard and give up perfectionist tendencies. I know it’s hard, but think of the rewards. This article gives you strategies to shift your perspective and behaviors so you can have a longer, happier and healthier life.
Empower Your Mind To Become Successful in 5 Easy Steps
Success takes grit and hard work. And everyone is looking for easier ways to get things done. But you can use your imagination train yourself to be more successful. This is an infographic that shows 5 different ways to do that, based on neuroscience.
You Have The Power To Choose Your Attitude
When someone cuts you off in traffic, you have a choice to make. You could decide to simply react and get angry. Or you could decide not to waste the emotional energy on something that you can’t change. In these moments like these, it’s worth asking, “What’s to be gained?” This article gives some suggestions of what to consider before you lash out.
It’s sometimes hard to keep your priorities straight. You’re pulled in different directions, especially when other people want something from you. But your priorities are important and necessary if you’re going to achieve any goal. And the most important person to please is yourself. Here are 3 tips on how to respect your priorities and set them first in your life.
Transcript:
Thank you for watching. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart, a vision strategist. Sometimes, it’s just so hard to keep your priorities straight, isn’t it? You’re pulled in different directions. You have competing agendas from yourself and other people.
For instance, let’s say you want to lose 10 pounds, but you also want a piece of your coworker’s birthday cake. It’s really a hard choice. One part of you wants to lose the weight, the other wants the cake. Future benefits vs immediate gratification, and the cake is right there in front of you. But if you don’t focus on your priorities, which are for your future benefit, you sabotage what you want to accomplish, don’t you? I mean, that 10 pounds will always remain because of all the temptations, unless you prioritize your priorities.
And it’s not just sugar that can be your downfall. When you want to accomplish some goal, it’s all to easy to get distracted by small tasks and other peoples desires, isn’t it? Being able to stick to your priorities is important if you ever want to achieve your goals. It doesn’t matter if your goal is personal or professional. You have to make it a priority above other things. This is what propels you forward so that you reach your goal or dream. And this is one of the things I help my coaching clients with.
I specialize in working with women service professionals and entrepreneurs, who spin their wheels and get stuck as their business runs them. Using my 30 years of experience as a hypnotherapist, I help them chart their course and develop the strategies that will accelerate their business to the next level and beyond. And I’d like to share a some tips that I share with my clients.
One of the things that gets in the say of sticking to your priorities is other people’s desires. They want something from you and it can be hard to disappoint them, can’t it? It’s hard to know when it’s appropriate to give them what they want and when it’s not. Especially for women. All too often, we put off our priorities to please others, don’t we?
But priorities are called that for a reason. When you prioritize something, and follow through on it, you’re establishing that it’s important to you. It’s more important than what other people want from you, or than the other tasks and minutiae that crop up to distract you. A priority takes precedence over all that, right?
How can you approve of your priorities, rather than seeking approval from other people? The most important person to please is yourself. If you constantly put your priorities aside for other people, you’ll never get them done. It may feel selfish, but, if you think about it, so is breathing.
By fulfilling your priorities, you’re committing to a certain course of action that will take you to a goal and you’re dedicating your time and effort to towards it. The priority of your goal comes first on the list of things to accomplish.
Life can get in the way, sometimes, and you can get sidetracked, can’t you? But if you establish your priorities, and respect them, you’ll stay on track to accomplish your goal. And your goal is a step towards your dream or vision. So how can you set your priorities first?
1. Set strong boundaries. Let people know what you’ll do and what you won’t do. When you’ll help and when you won’t. And don’t make exceptions, except in a true emergency.
2. Prioritize your priorities. When they’re they most important thing in your mind, that changes the way you think about them and how you respond to distractions and others demands. When you’re faced with temptation, remember that you’ve set your priority above anything else.
3. Take action on your priorities. Take 1 step, do 1 thing. Your brain and subconscious likes accomplishment, even if it’s small. Your subconscious and brain will use that to keep your motivation up and momentum going.
These are 3 steps you can take to make sure you fulfill your priorities. When you act on them, you’ll have more success in achieving your goal, dream and vision.
If you’d like some help in achieving your goals, apply for a complimentary Clarify Your Vision coaching consultation.
Thank you for watching. As you take care of your priorities, your goal will take care of itself.
As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml
I recently had lunch with a friend, Mary, who makes jewelry. Her work is in stores and online, and has begun to get popular. But, as with many creative entrepreneurs, she’s having trouble with loved ones who don’t take her business seriously. She struggles with balancing her work with the expectations of her extended family.
Because she doesn’t have a 9 to 5 job, her family assumes that she’ll be available whenever they want. They don’t respect her work time because she hasn’t insisted that they do. She’s put their desires above her interests. Her message to them and to her subconscious is that her work and priorities aren’t that important. As a result, she’s trained her subconscious and the Law of Attraction to not only accept the interruption to her work, but to attract other interference.
Have you ever noticed that as you’re expanding and changing, you have a lot more distractions? They seem to pop up out of nowhere, and keep getting in the way of what you want to accomplish. If you succumb to them, they’ll sabotage your priorities. But it’s a natural part of the change process. The Universe isn’t testing you. It’s your subconscious testing you to see if you really are dedicated to your dream. The subconscious is also trying to keep you in your comfort zone.
I was amazed at how many of my smoking cessation hypnotherapy clients would experience unexpected stressful situations when they quit smoking. It was their subconscious throwing up road blocks to their goal. The severity of their problems was in direct proportion to the amount of ambivalence they had to becoming an ex-smoker. If they weren’t committed to quitting, they backslid and gave up. The distraction was an excuse for them to continue smoking.
Sometimes the subconscious will know you really don’t want to face a task, and your concentration is disturbed. For instance, you need to get the budget done. But you receive a phone call about an insignificant matter that pulls you away from it. You could have let the call go to voicemail, but welcomed the interruption. That’s the subconscious trying to help you avoid what it knows you don’t want to do.
The main purpose of the subconscious is to keep you safe, even if it means keeping you from doing what you want. It sees any change as a threat. If you allow yourself to get off track, the subconscious will get the message that you want to stay off course. And it will begin to seek out new ways to detour you.
However, if you push the distractions aside and persist with your priorities, there will be fewer disturbances. Your subconscious will get more comfortable and will help you move towards your goal. Your priorities are important. The Universe and Your subconscious will support you as you support yourself. When you respect your own priorities above what anyone else wants from you, you’re instructing your subconscious to respect your interests, too.
Mary decided to make appointments with herself to work, and keep them no matter what. She wanted to make sure nothing got in the way of that time with her jewelry. This will convince her subconscious that she’s committed to her work, and her inner mind will start to support her by reducing distractions. When she recognizes the validity of her business, she’ll be able to stand up for her priorities. As a result, she’ll create boundaries and insist that others recognize them.
Is there some goal or dream you want? If so, set it as a priority. Work towards your goal and don’t let anything get in the way. You can attend to other people’s wishes after you’ve satisfied your priorities. But your priorities come first. How can you respect your priorities and stand up for them? When you figure that out, and act on it, your path to achieving your dream will get easier.
Affirmation:
The Universe supports me as I support myself in the pursuit of my dream. I deserve it, and I respect my time and efforts. I realize that other people may have desires of their own, but I put my well being and interests first. I fulfill my priorities first, then I can address the desires of others.
As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml
“My Higher Mind completely supports my endeavors and makes my way easy and smooth. Everything I need for the completion of my desire is provided, whether it’s connections, information, or opportunities.”
Sometimes people feel like life is blocking and restricting them. It really isn’t, they’re limiting themselves for a variety of reasons. You clear away these false concepts when you remember to allow things to flow, rather than trying to fight against a fog. For everything you need for a fulfilled life has already been approved of for you.
Why You Need to Be Good at Reading Your Emotions
Emotional clarity is the ability to understand what you’re feeling. And new research is showing the importance of emotional clarity for your emotional health and well-being. When you’re able to identify what you’re feeling, you’re able to regulate it and get over negative emotions quickly.
How to Handle Being Bullied as an Adult
We all had to deal with bullies as children. Unfortunately, many of them don’t grow out of the habit. They continue to harass, put down, demean and undermine you and your work. It’s important to be able to identify how an adult bully acts out. They’re usually more subtle than they were as children. But the result is the same. This article gives some suggestions how to deal with these toxic people.
Respect Begins With Each Other
This article deals with a specific industry, but the essence of the concept is important in every walk of life. When you treat someone with a lack of respect, it comes back full circle. Competition can be handled in a civil manner. Standing up for each other will raise everyone’s effectiveness.
Are you more comfortable with failing or being a success? Many people actually unconsciously sabotage their success because it feels strange, unfamiliar and sometimes even scary. I’ve heard it said that it’s harder to fail than to succeed, since we’re born to achieve. If you’ve haven’t been accomplishing what you want, then you’re denying the Universe Its full expression. You were created to allow It to flow through you in abundance.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
