Self-control, and all the benefits from it, may not be related to inhibiting impulses at all. People who exhibit more self-control may be structuring their environment so that there are fewer temptations. They also reframe temptations so they’re easier to dismiss. Learn more about how to train yourself to have more self-control, achieve your goals and have a better life.
Gaslighting is a manipulation tactic used to gain power over other people. And it works all too well. It’s done slowly, over time, so that the victim doesn’t recognize that they’re being brainwashed. They begin to question their own reality. This article details how gaslighters use various techniques so that you can identify them and not fall into the gaslighters trap.
Positive affirmations are an effective way to reprogram your subconscious mind and align your beliefs with what you want in life. Affirmations can relieve stress, improve your self-image, increase motivation and keep you on course to your goals. This article highlights guidelines to creating and using your own positive self-talk statements to create the life you want.
Question: Can I use affirmations for different issues in the same day?
Answer: I’d suggest that unless the affirmations are for the same issue you not use them the same day. It’s not so much that it would confuse your subconscious as it would overload it if they’re on different issues.
Imagine you’re having to work on several different projects at the same time. You’d feel overwhelmed and wouldn’t get any of them done quickly. It would take much more time to get them all done, taking more time than if you’d done each separately.
I suggest you focus on one issue at a time. If you do want to add another affirmation, making it one for general improvement would be helpful.
Sometimes affirmations don’t work because you don’t think about them when you say or meditate on them. You’re just repeating them by rote and your feelings aren’t engaged. A thought always precedes a feeling, so think about what the affirmation means to you as you meditate or state it. The emotion you put into it is what powers the affirmation and makes it manifest.
Negative people enjoy being dream killers. When you have someone like this who is a part of your life, either personally or professionally, it can be draining to interact with them. Their negativity can bring you down and impact your ability to take action. Learn to shield yourself from their negativity with these 6 strategies.
Affirmations are a way of re-programming your beliefs, attitudes and thinking. As a result, they can change the course of your life. This article explores some of the science and benefits of them. It also suggests affirmations for various types of people and conditions. In addition, it has other resources and meditation videos to help you improve your life.
Behaving optimistically makes things better even when we feel bad. Optimism isn’t only about attitude, it’s about behavior. When you act as if you’re optimistic, the outcomes lead to a better mood. To help you stay positive, use the 3 strategies she suggests.
“Infinite Spirit is drawing to me all the I need and desire for perfect joy, harmony, prosperity and health. Every part of me accepts this now. Only good comes to me and I recognize all that I need to do to ease its way to me.”
Mistaken thoughts and outdated beliefs are the only things that stand between you and the good your desire. As you let them go, more abundance appears in your life. And as you follow Divine guidance in any actions you need to take, this opens the doors for more good to flood in.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
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When you make a mistake or mess up, you probably harshly judge and condemn yourself. This is your inner critic trying to motivate you to do better. But it generally makes things worse. To tame your inner critic, stop accepting what it says or fighting it. Instead, use self-compassion and be kind to yourself and that part of you. Here’s a three step strategy to defuse your inner critic and improve your relationship with yourself.
Thank you for watching. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart of Heartvision Consulting and a vision strategist. I’d like to give you a strategy that will help you improve your relationship with yourself and your ability to achieve your goals. It has to do with being kind or compassionate to yourself and your inner critic.
Unfortunately, when people do something less than perfect, they tend to judge, criticize and beat themselves up. Do you ever do that? Your inner critic is trying to whip you back into line, to motivate or protect you. But all those negative beliefs and labels you’ve given yourself surface, and make you feel lousy. Does it ever help? No, it doesn’t.
So how can you be compassionate with yourself and deal with the inner critic? Here’s a three step strategy to do so.
1. The first step is to pay attention when your inner critic starts its refrain, but refuse to buy into it. What it’s saying is generally not true. It’s just regurgitated stuff from the past, isn’t it? Just observe what you’re thinking and the feelings it dredges up. This is called being mindful. Not reacting to those ideas, just recognizing them.
2. Second step, acknowledge your inner critic and what it’s repeating. How could you be compassionate to this inner critic? Instead of fighting it, just say something like, “I understand what you’re trying to do.” Or “I know you think this is helpful, but it’s not.” One way is to talk to it like you would to a child who is verbally beating themselves up. Be kind.
3. Third step, be compassionate towards yourself. Say something like, “I messed up, but I’ll do better next time.” Or “I’m human and learning more every day.” Or “I had a moment of weakness. I’ll make a better choice next time.” What would you say to your best friend who’d made the kind of mistake you did? You’d be kind.
When you’re nice to yourself, you have more motivation to do and be better. You actually take more responsibility for your actions. Being compassionate towards yourself allows you to learn and make different choices next time. It will improve your self-image, your well being and your ability to achieve your goals.
Ask The ExpertComments Off on Will saying an affirmation occasionally make changes?
Question: If I say an affirmation a few times a week, will it turn my life around?
Answer: Saying an affirmation a few times a week won’t undo decades of programming. Change won’t happen overnight. It takes about 30-40 days (and sometimes a few months depending on the difficulty of the issue) of CONCENTRATED focus and affirmations to turn things around.
By concentrated, I mean you can’t do the affirmations, then during the day, counteract them with old, negative beliefs. This gives the subconscious mixed messages. You have to catch those automatic, negative thoughts and turn them around to be consistent with the goal of your affirmation.
“All of my affairs are being prospered and Divinely Guided. The one Spirit within me increasingly blesses my finances, relationships, health, and happiness. I accept only good that comes to me in full measure.”
Prosperity doesn’t only mean money, wealth and riches. It also means have better health, joy, and the best in all areas of your life. By opening your mind and heart to a greater good, you allow the Universe to pour more of it into your life.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
I got my copy of this book over thirty years ago. Since then, it’s become a classic of how to manifest the life you want. It touches on all the basics of how to use your mind to its highest potential, along with clear instructions on how to practice each one.
Starting with the basics of creative visualization, she explains the steps and what to do at each step of the way. She addresses how to write and use affirmations.
From this practical beginning, she moves deeper into more advanced areas, still giving easily understood directions on how to experience it for yourself. Subjects such as healing, prosperity, relationships, self-esteem, among others are covered.
Many people who already have a grounding in these ideas may think they have little use for this book. Although it can be considered an introduction to the power of your mind, since it covers so much ground, it also condenses the information so that it’s a wonderful reference text.
Filled with affirmations, techniques, meditations, and exercises, this book is an essential addition to the library of anyone who uses these ideas.
“Peace, serenity and tranquility are the truth of my being. I now allow it to flow through me from my core. No matter what is going on in my life, I center myself and stay calm.”
Tension and anxiety is a protective response to what is happening or has happened in your life. But that reaction isn’t a permanent part of you, even though it may feel it is. Peace is at your center, and you can touch it when you quiet your mind and body. When you’re able to draw upon that serenity at will, you’ll discover that the events of your life simply come and go and you don’t have to let them affect you.