“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.”- Marcus Aureleus
This statement was written almost 2000 years ago. Even then, they knew how your thoughts affected your life. Your subconscious takes the average of your thoughts, both constructive and destructive, and manifests whatever seems to be strongest. That’s why you’re instructed to watch what you think, and stay positive.
When you are having trouble getting positive about your life, write out how you’d like your life to be. Don’t be concerned with the details of how those things could happen, just script out what you’d like it to look and feel like. Feel how it is to have it the way you want. Get excited and enthusiastic. As you’re creating the script, you may come up with some ideas of what to do to move it along. Get those down, and then pick one to act on. Emotion is what gets things moving, and positive emotion opens the floodgates for the Universe.
Do you find yourself putting on the brakes when you’re pursuing a dream, vision or goal? You could find yourself procrastinating, allowing yourself to be distracted or just feeling uncomfortable about moving forward. This is your subconscious mind causing you to resist taking the actions you need to bring your vision to life.
Your subconscious isn’t a bad guy; it’s just following previous instructions from you. If you’re feeling at all anxious or uncertain about your goal, your subconscious will interpret that as you feeling threatened about change. Since the role of your subconscious is to keep you safe, it will throw up roadblocks to maintain the status quo.
Reasons You Resist
There are three major reasons why you resist taking action:
1. You have the wrong vision. Although you have an idea of what you want, it may not be the right direction for you.
• You’re following a goal someone else laid out for you. For example, someone told you what worked for them, and expects it will work for you, too. What part of your dream excites you the most?
• You’re violating your values. Family time is important to you, but your goal requires you to sacrifice that time to be able to accomplish your goal. How can you adjust your vision to support your values?
• You’re out of alignment with who you are. For instance, you could be an introvert trying to become the best cold calling salesperson in the office. What best aligns with your skills and personality?
2. Fear is getting in your way. You’re afraid of the unknown or changes that might happen.
• You feel intimidated to leave your comfort zone. When you try new things, you feel uncertain and uncomfortable. But if you don’t spread your wings, your world will contract.
• You’re afraid of criticism. When you start making changes, it draws attention to you, and others may object to how you’ve changed. You don’t exist to live according to other people’s expectations.
• You’re afraid of the extra responsibility. By taking on more, you aren’t sure of your ability to handle new things. The only way to grow in confidence is to take risks and learn.
3. Old beliefs are undermining you. You were programmed with these ideas long ago and they’re still controlling you.
• You don’t feel worthy to achieve your vision. Either you don’t take any action or you sabotage yourself whenever you get close to accomplishing your dream. Adopt a new self-image that reflects the possibility that you deserve the best.
• You identify too much with your old attitudes. How you describe yourself determines the actions you take. Change the way you view yourself to be more in agreement with someone who undertakes your goal.
• You don’t feel capable. Just because you don’t know everything right now doesn’t mean you can’t learn. Each step will bring you new knowledge and confidence.
Dissolve Your Resistance
Identifying what’s sabotaging you is the first step to success. Ask, “What is my resistance trying to tell me?” Or, “What part of my vision am I resisting?” Once you know what your reason is, you can begin to overcome the resistance.
Instead of reviling your subconscious and its resistance, appreciate that it’s been so helpful. Realize that your subconscious has been trying to keep you safe. Communicate to it that this thinking is outdated and now change is needed. Adjust your attitude or actions to ease your subconscious mind’s concerns.
There is a reason behind the resistance to your dream, vision or goal. Once you discover what that is and what it’s trying to do for you, you’ll be able to work with and through the block. Ultimately, you’ll be much more successful by listening to what your resistance is trying to tell you.
My subconscious mind is trying to help me at all times. But sometimes it does it in outdated ways. It’s now safe for me to move forward with my dreams. I take responsibility for my actions and the results. I’m worthy of all the best Life has to offer and am capable of far more than I know.
As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. To achieve a 90-day goal more easily, sign up for her FREE comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You can contact her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com or 928-600-0452.
Some people have a hard time succeeding and feel that it’s just a knack that others have. But success is due to your habits and mindset more than anything else. Successful people carefully choose what they let into their minds. Skills can be learned, but mindset comes first. This book empowers you to remember that your success is actually in your hands.
In a step-by-step fashion, the author leads you through the different aspects of what it takes to build a success mindset. It identifies specific areas of inquiry to identify mental blocks and what will motivate you to succeed. You’re encouraged to discover the right way for you to develop the traits for success. From becoming clear on what success means to you to new perspectives about sales and marketing, this book covers it all.
At the end of each chapter is an affirmation and actions steps to support you in your success. The book provides an overview of what it takes to build the mindset and strategies to create the success you want. Although this book title says to “win in business,” what you get from the book could help you to win in life.
At some point, we all make assumptions based on our expectations, preconceived beliefs and ideas. Most of the time, our conclusions are wrong and negatively impact our relationships, opportunities and possibilities. When you challenge your suppositions, you break through to a different perception, which allows for different results. Here are 3 steps to allow you to see more clearly.
Thank you for watching. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart, a vision strategist and I want to tell you a story about how assumptions can be damaging.
I once had a friend who would take the things I said the wrong way. If I said I preferred the color green over blue, she’d take it as an attack on her taste, because blue was her favorite color. If I shared some achievement or good news, she assumed I was putting her down.
This didn’t happen all the time, but when it did, I felt like I’d walked into an episode of the Twilight Zone. I’d be disoriented, trying to figure out how she could have misinterpreted what I said. And then I’d try to assure her I didn’t mean it the way she took it.
Unfortunately, that never worked. Because of this, the friendship eventually ended.
In hindsight, I realized that she was expecting me to attack her, so she took everything I said personally. The story she created around that became her reality. And nothing could convince her otherwise. Because she’d filtered what I said through the lens of her belief and her motivations, she couldn’t see me, or what I said, clearly.
We all do something similar, don’t we, at some time or another? When you make an assumption, you’re filtering what’s said or done through your own expectations and motivations. Your perception is muddied by your preconceived ideas and beliefs. And it generally causes to you to jump to an incorrect conclusion and then act on it, most of the time to your detriment. It could cost you friends, promotions, sales or your self-confidence.
Haven’t you ever leaped to a conclusion, discovered it was wrong, and then had to apologize for it? You weren’t seeing clearly through your filter. Here are 3 steps to see more clearly:
1. Start becoming aware of your assumptions, not only about other people and situations, but about yourself, too. Don’t believe everything you’re telling yourself about the situation, because it’s probably wrong.
2. Question whether there may be another explanation, one that may be as or more accurate or realistic than your conclusion. This allows you to catch those false perceptions before you act on them.
3. Challenge your suppositions and look for evidence that supports or disproves them. When you do, you begin to clear away your filters and perceive things more clearly. And this opens up more possibilities and opportunities for you, in all areas of your life. It may even save a friendship.
If you’d to achieve a 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www. Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You’ll receive the blueprint, as well as tips and directions about the 4 vital areas you need to address so you can accomplish your goal.
Thank you for watching. How can you be more mindful and present, and become aware of your assumptions?
“Money is the root of all evil.” Did you ever get told that? Actually, the full verse is, “The love of money is the root of all evil.” It means that if we seek money to the exclusion of all else, and not care how we accomplish it, we’ll fall off the spiritual path. Money of itself is a nonentity. It’s simply a symbol that we use for an exchange of services or products. Choosing to have more of it is as positive as wanting to be healthier. As long as it remains the means by which you can expand your experience rather than the end in itself, you’re fulfilling your spiritual purpose.
~ Linda-Ann Stewart
“Men often become what they believe themselves to be. If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. But when I believe I can, then I acquire the ability to do it even if I didn’t have it in the beginning.” – Mahatma Gandhi
This is what’s called the “self-fulfilling prophecy.” You tend to live up to your own expectations and beliefs about what you can and can’t do. If you think you can’t succeed, then the subconscious will make sure to verify that opinion. However, if you believe you can succeed, despite the odds, then everything you need will appear in your life.
Many people disconnect the material world from the spiritual plane. They think that wanting more physical good, such as abundance or prosperity, isn’t spiritual. Actually, that’s a mistaken belief that prosperity (or anything else) is separate from the Universe. Somehow, the good or abundance exists outside of the Infinite, and the Universe would frown on it. But the Infinite is in everything, including you and prosperity. Why would It withhold It from Itself? The Universe encompasses and includes all good. So start thinking of the good you want as being spiritual.
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~ Linda-Ann Stewart
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