Are You Seeing Clearly?

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Nov 142019
 

At some point, we all make assumptions based on our expectations, preconceived beliefs and ideas. Most of the time, our conclusions are wrong and negatively impact our relationships, opportunities and possibilities. When you challenge your suppositions, you break through to a different perception, which allows for different results. Here are 3 steps to allow you to see more clearly.





Transcript:

Thank you for watching. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart, a vision strategist and I want to tell you a story about how assumptions can be damaging.

I once had a friend who would take the things I said the wrong way. If I said I preferred the color green over blue, she’d take it as an attack on her taste, because blue was her favorite color. If I shared some achievement or good news, she assumed I was putting her down.

This didn’t happen all the time, but when it did, I felt like I’d walked into an episode of the Twilight Zone. I’d be disoriented, trying to figure out how she could have misinterpreted what I said. And then I’d try to assure her I didn’t mean it the way she took it.

Unfortunately, that never worked. Because of this, the friendship eventually ended.

In hindsight, I realized that she was expecting me to attack her, so she took everything I said personally. The story she created around that became her reality. And nothing could convince her otherwise. Because she’d filtered what I said through the lens of her belief and her motivations, she couldn’t see me, or what I said, clearly.

We all do something similar, don’t we, at some time or another? When you make an assumption, you’re filtering what’s said or done through your own expectations and motivations. Your perception is muddied by your preconceived ideas and beliefs. And it generally causes to you to jump to an incorrect conclusion and then act on it, most of the time to your detriment. It could cost you friends, promotions, sales or your self-confidence.

Haven’t you ever leaped to a conclusion, discovered it was wrong, and then had to apologize for it? You weren’t seeing clearly through your filter. Here are 3 steps to see more clearly:

1. Start becoming aware of your assumptions, not only about other people and situations, but about yourself, too. Don’t believe everything you’re telling yourself about the situation, because it’s probably wrong.

2. Question whether there may be another explanation, one that may be as or more accurate or realistic than your conclusion. This allows you to catch those false perceptions before you act on them.

3. Challenge your suppositions and look for evidence that supports or disproves them. When you do, you begin to clear away your filters and perceive things more clearly. And this opens up more possibilities and opportunities for you, in all areas of your life. It may even save a friendship.

If you’d to achieve a 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www. Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You’ll receive the blueprint, as well as tips and directions about the 4 vital areas you need to address so you can accomplish your goal.

Thank you for watching. How can you be more mindful and present, and become aware of your assumptions?

Read the accompanying article, Assumptions Don’t Serve You.

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Sparks of Insight“Money is the root of all evil.” Did you ever get told that? Actually, the full verse is, “The love of money is the root of all evil.” It means that if we seek money to the exclusion of all else, and not care how we accomplish it, we’ll fall off the spiritual path. Money of itself is a nonentity. It’s simply a symbol that we use for an exchange of services or products. Choosing to have more of it is as positive as wanting to be healthier. As long as it remains the means by which you can expand your experience rather than the end in itself, you’re fulfilling your spiritual purpose.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

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Assumptions Don’t Serve You

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Nov 072019
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

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People make assumptions all the time. There’s even a cliché for it. “When you assume, you make an ‘ass’ out of ‘u’ and ‘me.'” Not very classy, but it makes the point. It means that you suppose that you know all the facts when you form an opinion, when you don’t. And you aren’t questioning that maybe you you’re missing evidence on which to formulate your conclusions. You’re building a house on quicksand and don’t know it.

For instance, I’ve had a lot of people comment on my name, Linda-Ann. Many of them assume that I’m called by my first and middle name because I grew up in the south. They’re basing their assumption on some facts. Fact: I grew up in the south. Fact: Many men and women in the south are called by their first and middle names. Conclusion: That’s why I hyphenated my name to Linda-Ann.

The facts are true, but the conclusion is false. It’s missing another fact. I go by that name because, when I was young, my two best friends on my street were also named Linda. Everyone was confused when we played together. We never knew which of us was being referred to when someone called, “Linda!” said, “Linda did that” or, “Linda, stop that!” To tell us apart, our folks and friends started using both our first and middle names.

Facts Are Important

People draw the wrong conclusion because they don’t have all the facts. None of us know everything about another person or a situation. We can’t read someone’s mind. That’s why it’s dangerous to assume you know why someone did or said something to you. You draw a conclusion based on faulty or incomplete information. It doesn’t serve either you or the person you’re evaluating, because you’ve probably made an incorrect assessment. And you make flawed decisions and take actions accordingly.

For instance, you could think that you lost a sale because you didn’t deal with the prospect’s questions well enough. Instead, it could be that it just wasn’t the right product or service for them. Or you could assume that a friend is angry at you over something you said. But it could be that what you said triggered an unhappy memory and they’re just trying to process the emotions that have surfaced.

Unfortunately, assumptions lead to creating whole stories around the supposition. And those stories become real to you. They can keep you stuck, affect relationships, further miscommunication, and block opportunities and progress.

Reasons We Assume

There are a lot of reasons why we leap to an incorrect conclusion. Here are just a few.

It’s easier. Not taking the time to discover the truth means you don’t have to make any changes. For instance, you could decide that getting in shape is simply too hard, when you really don’t want to make the effort.

It’s expedient. It’s a shortcut to a decision about a situation or person. You want a quick answer and don’t want to take the trouble gathering information. If you act on your choice, it could lead you in the wrong direction, damaging relationships and your future.

It feels powerful. When someone jumps to a conclusion, it makes them feel like they have some control over the situation. Feelings of control reduce stress, so this is a way for them to ease inner anxiety.

It’s out of fear. You could be afraid of what you might find out, so drawing a conclusion feels safer. Unfortunately, it’s the more dangerous road to travel because it closes doors.

Gain Clarity for a Better Life

A way to gain clarity about your assumptions is to question them. What facts or evidence do you have that support them? Or that refute them? Do you have all the facts or evidence? What can you do to gain more? You can ask for more information and reevaluate your conclusion for accuracy. It feels risky, but people are usually delighted that you care enough to make a decision based on all of the facts.

Assumptions aren’t helping you. Instead, they’re hindering you. When you realize that, you open doors to much greater possibilities for a better life. Letting go of your suppositions, and checking the evidence, improves your mood, relationships and actions. Take back your power and find clarity, which will lead you to wiser decisions.

Affirmation:

I let go of my assumptions about myself, situations and other people. Instead, I take the time to seek out the facts and become clearer on what’s truly going on. The Universe guides and directs my inquiries; bringing me information I need on which to form a clear opinion. As I do, doors to a greater life full of harmony and joy open for me.

Watch the accompanying video, Are You Seeing Clearly?

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. To achieve a 90-day goal more easily, sign up for her FREE comprehensive Strategic Vision blueprint at www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/setyourcourse.html. You can contact her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com or 928-600-0452.

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This is what’s called the “self-fulfilling prophecy.” You tend to live up to your own expectations and beliefs about what you can and can’t do. If you think you can’t succeed, then the subconscious will make sure to verify that opinion. However, if you believe you can succeed, despite the odds, then everything you need will appear in your life.

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“Infinite Spirit is drawing to me all the I need and desire for perfect joy, harmony, prosperity and health. Every part of me accepts this now. Only good comes to me and I recognize all that I need to do to ease its way to me.”

Mistaken thoughts and outdated beliefs are the only things that stand between you and the good your desire. As you let them go, more abundance appears in your life. And as you follow Divine guidance in any actions you need to take, this opens the doors for more good to flood in.

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