Sep 182019
 

Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway (r)
by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.

Fear can be a paralyzing emotion. It prevents us from being all that we can be, locks us away from our truest self, and wastes energy that could move us forward. Much of the fear is outdated and false ideas that we’ve been acting on.

Fear is also a normal response to change, but it depends on how we perceive the fear. When we believe the message of it is to avoid something new, then it limits us. But when we process the fear as excitement, it propels us forward.

The author of this book experienced it for herself and developed a strategy to get beyond it. This book is based on what she learned. Dr. Jeffers believes that fear is mainly an educational problem. That we’ve been programmed to be afraid, and that through examining and changing our beliefs, we can overcome our blocks.

The step by step instructions in this book lead us to acknowledge the fear, but move through it and beyond it.

This book teaches the reader how to become a positive thinker, raise self-worth, become more assertive, connect with a higher power, and make rational decisions. Anyone who has dealt with fear holding them back should use the exercises in this book to help them grow.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sep 132019
 

Success gold key

A Stanford University psychologist’s elegant three-step method for creating new habits
New habits are hard to initiate and maintain. They need to be something you really want for yourself. Then, create small steps that can take you there a little at a time. This article explains the other steps to take to establish that new habit.

The 10 Mindsets of Highly Productive People
Successful people are organized and manage their time, albeit in different ways. It all has to do with their mindset. When they manage their time, they feel more in control and they’re happier people. To be more efficient and productive, use these 10 tips on how to approach your time management.

What If You Don’t Do the Things that Matter Most to You?
You tend to do the things that are most important to you every day. It shows by your results. But are your results actually helping you to achieve the goal that is dear to your heart? What is a goal that you’re reaching towards? Be inspired to make it a habit to establish it as a priority.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sep 112019
 

When you make a mistake or mess up, you probably harshly judge and condemn yourself. This is your inner critic trying to motivate you to do better. But it generally makes things worse. To tame your inner critic, stop accepting what it says or fighting it. Instead, use self-compassion and be kind to yourself and that part of you. Here’s a three step strategy to defuse your inner critic and improve your relationship with yourself.



Transcript:

Thank you for watching. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart of Heartvision Consulting and a vision strategist. I’d like to give you a strategy that will help you improve your relationship with yourself and your ability to achieve your goals. It has to do with being kind or compassionate to yourself and your inner critic.

Unfortunately, when people do something less than perfect, they tend to judge, criticize and beat themselves up. Do you ever do that? Your inner critic is trying to whip you back into line, to motivate or protect you. But all those negative beliefs and labels you’ve given yourself surface, and make you feel lousy. Does it ever help? No, it doesn’t.

So how can you be compassionate with yourself and deal with the inner critic? Here’s a three step strategy to do so.

1. The first step is to pay attention when your inner critic starts its refrain, but refuse to buy into it. What it’s saying is generally not true. It’s just regurgitated stuff from the past, isn’t it? Just observe what you’re thinking and the feelings it dredges up. This is called being mindful. Not reacting to those ideas, just recognizing them.

2. Second step, acknowledge your inner critic and what it’s repeating. How could you be compassionate to this inner critic? Instead of fighting it, just say something like, “I understand what you’re trying to do.” Or “I know you think this is helpful, but it’s not.” One way is to talk to it like you would to a child who is verbally beating themselves up. Be kind.

3. Third step, be compassionate towards yourself. Say something like, “I messed up, but I’ll do better next time.” Or “I’m human and learning more every day.” Or “I had a moment of weakness. I’ll make a better choice next time.” What would you say to your best friend who’d made the kind of mistake you did? You’d be kind.

When you’re nice to yourself, you have more motivation to do and be better. You actually take more responsibility for your actions. Being compassionate towards yourself allows you to learn and make different choices next time. It will improve your self-image, your well being and your ability to achieve your goals.

If you’d to achieve a 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision Worksheet.

Thank you for watching. How can you be kinder towards yourself? Take care.

Read the accompanying article, Be Kind to Yourself for More Success.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sep 062019
 

Meditate

What Most People Have Wrong About Achieving Goals
According to Dr. Marshall Goldsmith, if you do not create and control your environment, then your environment creates and controls you. Other people, circumstances, or habits will get in the way of what you’re working towards. Before you create strategies, start with your vision of how you want your life to be. Then think about the design and plan.

The Meandering Path to That ‘Aha!’ Moment
Recent studies at a University indicate that our moments of breakthrough happen after we’ve left a problem alone for awhile. Picking at the problem generally delays the inspiration. Letting it go, and doing something else, sparks that moment of creativity.

Neuroscience shows that 50-year-olds can have the brains of 25-year-olds if they sit quietly and do nothing for 15 minutes a day
Here’s more evidence for the benefits of meditation and mindfulness. Not only did they improve the quality of their brains, the researchers found they the part of the brain associated with fear, anxiety, and aggression shrank. The article also covers how long a person had to meditate to receive these benefits.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Sep 052019
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

Hanging Hearts

What is your relationship with yourself? Is it adversarial or hostile? For instance, when you make a mistake or fail, are you your own worst critic? You may think that putting yourself down, berating or criticizing yourself will help you do better the next time. But it doesn’t.

Instead, because you’re focusing on what you did wrong, you’re simply setting yourself up to repeat the behavior. And rather than taking care of yourself, you become stressed and frustrated with yourself. This may lead to indulging in self-destructive habits like procrastination, overeating, excessive drinking and more.

Your relationship with yourself is reflected in your relationships with others. If you judge yourself severely, you’re going to attract others who do the same to you. How you treat yourself determines the kind of treatment you’re willing to tolerate from others. You’ll allow people to disrespect, insult and take advantage of you, because you think that’s normal. This can negatively affect your personal and professional relationships, holding you back from achieving your goals and being successful.

Cultivating Self-Compassion

Just because you’ve done something wrong doesn’t mean that you are bad. Rather than being so hard on yourself, what if you were kinder to yourself? Research shows that when you’re nicer to yourself, you’ll experience less stress and anxiety. It also improves your sense of well-being, self-esteem, self-worth and your relationships with others.

People who are kinder to themselves have greater motivation to pick themselves up and try again. When you’re compassionate towards yourself, you’re able to accept yourself for who you are. This gives you additional energy and resilience to improve on your weaknesses and make better decisions in the future.

Shifting your viewpoint makes all the difference. By taking a more realistic view when something upsetting happens, you can put it into perspective and realize that you’re not perfect. You’re simply a human being doing the best you can with the knowledge and resources you had at that time.

When you’re kinder to yourself, you support yourself and your endeavors which allows you to reach your goals. You become more patient with yourself and become more confident. You can cultivate self-compassion by making some easy changes in the way you treat yourself.

Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

1. Use positive self-talk. Give yourself uplifting messages, especially when you realize you didn’t live up to your potential. Tell yourself something like, “It’s okay. I’ll do better next time.” Or, “I am capable and have what it takes to succeed.”

2. When you make a mistake, encourage yourself. Treat yourself as if you were a good friend. Be understanding of what happened and why. Mistakes are the way you learn. You can say, “Everyone makes mistakes. I can learn from this and move on.”

3. Write 3 things you appreciate about yourself every day. It shifts your focus to what you’ve done right in your world. This builds self-acceptance and shows you that you support yourself. You inspire and motivate yourself when you pay attention to what’s good about you.

Self-compassion can improve your relationship with yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have. You’re the only person you’re with every hour of every day. Why not treat yourself well, which is what you deserve?

Affirmation:

The Universe loves and approves of me, just the way I am right now. I realize I’m a spiritual being having a human experience, and as such, I’m not perfect. I do the best I can with the knowledge I have at the time. But I have the capability to grow, learn and be better. I’m kind to myself, and view myself with the same compassion that the Universe does.

Watch the accompanying video, Self-Compassion Can Help Tame Your Inner Critic.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml
Sep 042019
 

Question about affirmationsQuestion: If I say an affirmation a few times a week, will it turn my life around?

Answer: Saying an affirmation a few times a week won’t undo decades of programming. Change won’t happen overnight. It takes about 30-40 days (and sometimes a few months depending on the difficulty of the issue) of CONCENTRATED focus and affirmations to turn things around.

By concentrated, I mean you can’t do the affirmations, then during the day, counteract them with old, negative beliefs. This gives the subconscious mixed messages. You have to catch those automatic, negative thoughts and turn them around to be consistent with the goal of your affirmation.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

If you’d to achieve a 90-day goal more easily, download my free comprehensive Strategic Vision Worksheet.

Sep 022019
 

Sparks of Insight“All of my affairs are being prospered and Divinely Guided. The one Spirit within me increasingly blesses my finances, relationships, health, and happiness. I accept only good that comes to me in full measure.”

Prosperity doesn’t only mean money, wealth and riches. It also means have better health, joy, and the best in all areas of your life. By opening your mind and heart to a greater good, you allow the Universe to pour more of it into your life.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Aug 302019
 

Peace

6 Steps to Discover Your True Self
Knowing yourself allows you to make decisions that are authentic for you and that you can live with. Because you know who you are, you’re more confident. But too many people rush around doing stuff, without taking the time to look within. When you do, you don’t have to be afraid, because you’ve been there all along.

Want to Improve Your Memory? A Decade-Long Stanford Study Suggests You Should Stop Doing This 1 Thing
Aging isn’t the only factor that reduces our ability to process, store and remember information. Researchers find that multitasking contributes to your problem with memory. It also erodes your ability to concentrate and pay attention. Spending less time multitasking may be the key to improving your brain’s performance and memory. Here are 3 tips on how to break that habit.

18 Habits That Will Make You Smarter
Your intelligence isn’t set in stone. It rises and falls with your attitude about it and what you do. Even those who are born smart don’t just coast. They develop habits to maintain and build on it. This article shares many of those habits, and if you just add one to your arsenal, you’ll notice an improvement.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Aug 262019
 

Sparks of InsightAre you holding onto contrary ideas about your goal? Do you want to be wealthy, but despise the rich? Are you wanting to be thinner, but expecting to continue to eat as you always have? Do you want to have more peace, but constantly judge others? These are ideas that are in opposition. As long as you have beliefs that contradict each other, you won’t be able to manifest your dream. To begin to identify these conflicting ideas, you have to become aware of them. When you notice one, write it down. Once you have a pattern, find a way to change it.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Aug 192019
 

Sparks of Insight“There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” Aldous Huxley

You can’t change anyone else, you can only change yourself. Even if you could, that would mean that you were taking away their free will and choice. So keep your attention on your sandbox, and stay out of your friend’s.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart