Jul 212017
 

Sparks of InsightDo you reject or abandon yourself at times? When someone verbally attacks you, do you defend yourself? Do you allow someone to take the credit for what you’ve done? Do you mentally castigate yourself for minor infractions? If you’re doing this to yourself, why would you expect others to treat you better than you do? Other people take their cues of how to treat you from you. If you aren’t standing up for yourself, against your inner judge, then other people will take advantage of you, too. What can you do to stand by and accept yourself more?

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Jul 202017
 

Sunset Crater, Flagstaff AZIf You Have These 6 Struggles, You’re Highly Intelligent
Highly intelligent people aren’t super beings, who have magic powers to figure out everything. They struggle with problems and like everyone does. It’s just that their challenges may be a bit different from the average person. This article examines the specific issues that these folk experience.

Stop Sabotaging Yourself And Achieve Success
Unfortunately, we tend to be our own worst enemies. We tend to travel in familiar paths, even when they undermine our goals. Success is affected more by our mental attitudes than than our actions. This article includes 3 tips on how to defeat self-sabotage.

Happiness research shows the biggest obstacle to creativity is being too busy
Our lives are getting busier by the day. And that busyness blocks our creativity. Creativity blooms when our minds are idle, wandering or daydreaming. This article explains how to maximize your ability to learn complex tasks and be more creative. Learn how to give your brain a break.

Jul 192017
 

Question about affirmationsQuestion: Is this normal to be listening to and repeating affirmations for a year and still not completely believe them?

Answer: It’s fairly normal for it to take some time to turn things around. It’s different with everybody. Some get involved with a group of people of like mind, or a great teacher, and are able to make a significant change quickly. That’s not very common, though.

Remember, you’ve been heading in one direction for most, if not all, your life, with a pattern of thinking. I liken it to sailing in a sailboat. You’re headed in one direction, and now want to go in the opposite direction. You can’t just flip the sails around or you’ll capsize. You have to move them incrementally. It takes time.

And your subconscious acts on the overall quality of your thoughts. If you’ve been thinking negatively for a long period, it takes a while, and a lot of belief, to change that. You can use affirmations to increase your belief, which might be the best thing to focus on for a while. That there is good in the world, you deserve it, and work on a smaller goal at first. As you succeed at that, you can proceed to larger goals.

Your emotional belief and trust in the Universe and your subconscious mind is what powers your affirmations. You/we all receive what we expect, in our deepest being, that we’re going to get. If we truly believe that nothing will change, no matter what affirmations we say, guess what? It doesn’t. The subconscious manifests the average of what we think about.

You’re learning a new skill, and like all new abilities, it takes time, perseverance and practice to get better at it.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Jul 172017
 

Do you ever jump into motion without determining where it’s going to take you? If you do, you’ll probably waste time, energy and increase your stress. Learn what you can do to improve your chances of success and get to your destination more easily.



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When I was growing up, my father and a neighbor would leave for work at about the same time. They’d drive the same route through rush hour traffic for several miles, before my father would exit. One day, the neighbor and my dad left at the exact same time. On the freeway, she wove in and out of traffic, trying to get ahead. My dad just stayed the course, going with the flow of traffic. When my father finally exited, the neighbor was only 1 car length ahead of him.

What about you? Do you ever try to get ahead by just staying in motion? Does it serve you? Motion without a reason doesn’t usually help. It just wastes time and energy, and keeps you stressed so you can’t think clearly.

It’s better to be deliberate and decisive instead of reactive. The neighbor was reactive, jumping from one lane to the other, looking for a fastest one. She took the short term view and just stayed in motion. It didn’t give her the results she wanted, as she could see from her relationship to my dad’s car, but she kept doing it anyway.

My father was deliberate, deciding to take the long range view, knowing that it was a myth that there would be a faster lane. He didn’t waste gas or let his frustration level climb, like the neighbor did.

My coaching tip is to think things through. This is true for any decision or action. Don’t just leap into motion and be reactive. You won’t get the results you want. Be deliberate and decide on your action ahead of time. And then stay the course. You’ll get to your destination easier, smoother and with a lot less wear and tear on your nerves.

Read the article that accompanies this video, Don’t Push the River.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Jul 142017
 

Sparks of Insight“I accept the responsibility for my thinking. Whatever implanted the negative ideas I’ve held is past. I let it go. I now begin a new day, a new life by consciously choosing positive ideas.”

The subconscious acts on the strongest information and conclusions it’s been given. You can update those beliefs, realizing that whatever situation created them no longer needs to affect you. By your making that new decision, the subconscious can then support your new, positive direction.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Jul 142017
 

Grand Canyon Sunset - East of Yaki Point15 Small Things You Can Do Every Day To Become Highly Successful
Success doesn’t come when you do one big thing. It comes from the habits and routines you do every day. When you’re intentional about how you spend your time and where you expend your energy, you’ll find your way to success. Learn some of the most valuable things you can do to improve your chances.

How Fake Friends Cause Anxiety And Sabotage Your Success
Do you remember the old platitude, “Birds of a feather flock together”? It’s true. You tend to associate with people who are like you, but you also become like the people you associate with. Being friends with supportive people not only improves your attitude, increases your chances of success. This article gives some clear suggestions on the type of person to avoid if you want to have a happier and more successful life.

5 Habits That Psychologists Link With Happiness
Psychologists have developed some exercises that can increase your happiness. But habits like these are hard to develop. Rituals can sometimes be easier to manage because they’re intentional. They can then develop into habits. Create a ritual of these exercises to improve your mood.

Jul 132017
 

by Linda-Ann Stewart

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One day, my father and a neighbor left for work at exactly the same time. They entered the freeway with the neighbor’s car directly behind my father’s. My father went with the flow of traffic, not changing lanes in a vain attempt to seek a faster route. The neighbor, however, wove in, out and through the traffic, trying to get ahead.

When my father finally left the freeway about 10 miles later, the neighbor was only one car ahead him. All that effort, stress, and extra gas had resulted in the gain of only two car lengths. Trying to maneuver to get ahead, she’d made very little progress, was frustrated in her attempts and irritated her nerves. She allowed her impatience to make a bad commute into a worse one.

Many times, when you try to compel a situation to move faster than it was designed to, you sabotage your efforts. It can even cause the circumstance to resist and push back. For instance, you can’t convince someone to love, accept or approve of you. The more you try to persuade them, the more you drive them away.

The same is true of not being able to force someone to hire you. You have to let them make the decision to do so. A salesperson that pressures a potential customer to buy their product will alienate that customer. When you try to shove your will onto a situation, you get the opposite of what you want.

By trying to control conditions, you’re tying up your inner resources. You’re stressed by your efforts and it interferes with your innovation, creativity, the ability to listen and to make plans. It also blocks your subconscious from seeking and finding other solutions.

When I was growing up, my mother used to repeat the proverb, “Don’t push the river, it flows by itself.” She explained that, no matter what you did, you couldn’t force the river to flow any faster. I realized she meant to not try to force events to unfold, because all you’ll is to waste energy. For example, have you ever tried to will yourself to fall asleep? The more you try, the more awake you become. You have to let go and allow it to happen.

But, at the same time, you also can’t just hope the river will take you where you want to go. You have to provide the right conditions to maximize your results. For example, to get to sleep more easily, you have to create a calm environment. There’s a fine line between going with the flow and swimming with the current.

If you just drift, the water could crash you onto rocks, or divert you into another tributary. However, if you swim with the current, you’re cooperating with the river and using its energy to propel you downstream. You’re also in better control of where you go. If it tries to tangle you in brush at the bank, you’re able to move away from the trees and back into the flow.

When it seems that no matter what you do, you get swept into eddies at the edge of the river or slammed onto rocks, assess your direction. Somehow, you’re not working with the current and the results are telegraphing that something is amiss. You need to address some aspect of your vision, mindset or plan.

Check your vision. Is it clear enough? Does it reflect what you really want? If it’s your business, do you have a product or service the public wants and needs? Have you communicated it in a way they realize its value? If you have a clear vision, then keep it in front of you every day.

Check your mindset. Do you believe your dream is attainable? Are you inspired to work towards your vision? Do you feel like you deserve what you’re seeking? If your mindset supports your vision, stay focused on where you want to go.

Check your plan. Do you have a step by step plan? Is it right for you? Is it taking you in the direction of your vision? Are you working it every day? If your plan is on track, make sure you’re taking consistent actions to keep you moving forward.

If you’re constantly frustrated with your progress, take a step back and consider. Are you trying to push the river to make it go faster? If so, you’re just wasting energy. Other elements may need to develop before you can get into the center of the channel. Be patient and persistent. When these three key items are aligned, you’ll be in the flow and swimming with the current.

Affirmation:
The Universe isn’t holding my good back from me. It wants me to have all the good I can accept. I now allow things to unfold in Divine Time for my Highest Good. I let go of trying to force events and let the Universe guide the situation. I take the actions I know to take, and align myself with the flow.

Watch this month’s Mindset Coaching Tip video, Stay the Course, which accompanies this article.

As a speaker, hypnotherapist, and vision coach, Linda-Ann Stewart helps business and professional women who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to create their vision, prioritize, and focus so they increase their productivity, prosperity and peace of mind. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, email her at LAS@Linda-AnnStewart.com with "Complimentary Consultation" in the subject line.
Jul 072017
 

Sparks of InsightA powerful way to use affirmations is to look at yourself in the mirror while saying them. They say that the eyes are the windows into the soul, and it’s the soul (your subconscious) that you want to impress with new information. Whatever good you’ve chosen, the Universe has already approved of for you. So it’s up to the subconscious to update its acceptance level. Some people find this difficult, but it’s well worth the effort.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Jul 062017
 

Sunset Crater, Flagstaff AZWhat To Say To Yourself To Be Happier And More Successful
Do you have a negative voice in your head, telling you that you’re worthless, you can’t be a success, or undermining in some way? They influence your decisions and actions on a daily basis, limiting you and keeping you from fulfilling your potential. But when you can turn those negative thoughts around, they can be positive ideas to guide your life. This article gives 9 very positive self-talk scripts that you can use to flip those negative thoughts into positive ones.

Are You Wired for Resilience?
What would you do if you were assured of success? Most people are wired to avoid painful experiences, which limits them and makes their world smaller. Rather than allow the difficult situations hold you hostage, learn how to process them more quickly. Learn the skills in the article to improve your well being and bounce back from adversity.

3 Warning Signs You’re Dealing With An Aggressive Manipulator
Unfortunately, at some point, we all have to deal with manipulators. They may be coworkers, managers, or family members. They use passive-aggressive or intimidating patterns of behavior to get what they want. It can be indirect and sneaky or overt, as in a bully. This article delves into what makes them that way and the warning signs of one.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart

Jul 052017
 

Positive Imaging: The Powerful Way to Change Your Life
by Norman Vincent Peale

I’ve worked with visualization and imaging for over forty years, and in that time have read many books on the subject. This is one of the best books I’ve read that not only describes the process, but also explains how it can specifically help in various aspect of your life.

Dr. Peale doesn’t define imaging as a magical process that alone will make all your problems disappear, but as one that opens up the way for solutions and guidance. Once the goal has been set and visualized, then there must be “discipline, determination, patience, and persistence” for the idea to become reality. Using examples and success stories, Dr. Peale explains how imaging can improve self-esteem, finances, success, worry, relationships, health, faith and much more.

Known for his wisdom and ability, Dr. Peale helps people change their attitudes towards their everyday problems. This book shows how using the natural ability of imaging, your challenges can be conquered. The technique he describes is very simple, and is used by everyone each day. I recommend it highly for anyone wanting to learn more about the important tool of visualization.

~ Linda-Ann Stewart